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Uju4eva (f)
Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« on: June 19, 2007, 07:08 PM »

Do you have confidence, If so tell me how you attained it. I am a member who lurks around this forum from time to time,  I see all my fellow Nigerians who have extreme pride in themselves. But somethings happened in my life making me insecure in my looks and my actions. I want to use this summer to help myself out, mentally, spiritually, and physically. I would deeply appreciate it, if you guys provided tips and advice to help me to "better" myself.


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Esss (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #1 on: June 19, 2007, 07:10 PM »

Holy JESUS,  what did u say your problems were again??? Shocked
Uju4eva (f)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #2 on: June 19, 2007, 07:23 PM »

what do you mean?
Esss (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #3 on: June 19, 2007, 07:26 PM »

If thats you in the picture, then you had better have a good reason for insecure about ur looks, 

That means you need to be clearer about wats the ish with you,
Uju4eva (f)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #4 on: June 19, 2007, 07:31 PM »

Okay, um, I just wanted to post my pics up, just to show myself, give an emphasis to the situation. I may look confident in my pics but I am not. But, um, ever since I was little I was always called names, and me being a sensitive person always was troubled by their comments. As I continued growing up, I would indulge in their comments and make it seem as if it were true. So I have tried to snap out of feeling "ugly" and "overweight", and "worthless" but sometimes it comes back to me in ways I wish I never had negative thinking. Also I'm a pessimistic person, which I hate to admit but I am. So I am trying to change all that by next year,
Esss (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #5 on: June 19, 2007, 08:00 PM »

Hmmm,

I really understand you, and where you are coming from, 

I had the same experience growing up,  imagining growing up in a house were your were always being compared to ur junior one,  u r the foolish dumb one and she is the smart one,  cursed at everyday to the point you actually contemplate suicide,  yes! it got to that stage.

At the age of 16,  I O.D'ed on prescription drugs just in an attempt to end it all,

I have always believed I was ugly ever since I became self concious.

But I've passed that stage in life, 

You don't need people to approve of you,  My lifes motto is "I don't need to prove shit to you",

Spiritually, I'm totally disconnected,  I don't believe in nothing except God,  and thats where it ends.
Emotionally, I'm dead,  I don't feel shit, and I don't take nothing to heart,  That way I don't dwell on what people in my surrounding think or feel about me,
Mentally,  I'm at an all time high,  Despite all the shit I've been through,  I feel like a God,  I love my parents like never before,  because I believe that even though they don't realise how much most of the things they put me through hurt me, They actually did love me ,  and have given me the life I live today,

I'm always very positive in all situations and believe that there is always a good side to every event,  even death,

All you need to do is build up a new world of your own,  and move into it,  Disconnect yourself from all those feelings that weigh you down,  If you really hate your weight, then work towards getting trim,  but if you like it,  then enjoy living your life, 

Honey life is too short,  I could drop dead right now,  And it will really piss me off if I should die worrying over what someone else thinks,
Esss (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #6 on: June 19, 2007, 08:07 PM »

If it is any consolation,  I honestly and truly believe that you look amazingly beautiful,

You get boyfriend?? ;Dlol
Uju4eva (f)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #7 on: June 19, 2007, 10:11 PM »

Thank you very much Esss,
no i don't have a boyfriend

anyone willing to share their stories or tips???
iice (f)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #8 on: June 20, 2007, 05:59 AM »

@Esss well said.
Mr. Turkey (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #9 on: November 24, 2007, 08:22 PM »

Quote from: Uju4eva on June 19, 2007, 07:08 PM
I want to use this summer to help myself out, mentally, spiritually, and physically

Hmmm, I wonder what must have happened to this one. Uju, you still there? Undecided
swazi
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #10 on: December 06, 2007, 01:04 PM »

er well for one she is fat

so that might be her problem Undecided
Mr. Turkey (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #11 on: December 17, 2007, 09:18 PM »

Quote from: swazi on December 06, 2007, 01:04 PM
er well for one she is fat

so that might be her problem Undecided
some might see that as an attraction, so don't go there. beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder, you might be the skin and bones type but buxom and full might just be the specs for the other brother

besides, what has size got to do with intelligence, mien, character, affection, charisma, attitude amongst others? absolutely nothing bro Cool
OMO IBO (m)
Re: Do You Have Confidence? If So Tell Me:
« #12 on: January 20, 2008, 08:04 PM »

which kind problem u say u get again? o girl, if i had u for a girl friend, fucc other girls.

well, i wouldnt want to delve into my own past issues because its too long to be honest its best forgotten. I'm looking forward and everything's smashing.
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