If Your Newlywed Husband is Impotent

Such a marriage can be declared null and void in court.  Only a wicked man will marry a woman knowing that he is incapable of fathering a child.  The law of Nigeria provides for 'voiding' (annulment) of a marriage under circumstances like the one you've described. 

Lawyers in the house please shed more light on this issue of voiding or annulment of a marriage.

UPDATE: There are so many cases of impotence that are due to psychological and similar factors.  Those ones are curable, and you cannot annul the marriage unless it's an incurable case.  I apologize for ignoring this factor in my post.

This is not divorce; it's annulment.  There is a difference between the two.  "Annulment is a legal procedure for declaring a marriage null and void. Annulment differs from divorce where the court ends an otherwise legal marriage on a specific date."

What we are saying is that since the marriage is contracted based on certain basic expectations and you know that you are not able to satisfy those basic expectations, and you go ahead and deceive your partner in order to get married, then the marriage contract can be declared null and void.

This is just like what happens when you get married to someone and the person is discovered to be married to someone else!  In that situation, will you say that since you "don't believe in divorce" both of you must remain married to the same man?

If, unknown to you but known to him/herat the time of the marriage:

• Your husband or wife was incapable of consummating the marriage
• He or she is suffering from a venereal disease in communicable form
• Your wife is pregnant by another man (remember, we now have DNA analysis).
• He/she is of unsound mind, a 'mental defective', or subject to recurrent attacks of insanity or epilepsy

... then the marriage can be cancelled (annulled, voided) by a court in Nigeria.

This is different from divorce, and your lawyer is in a better position to discuss the various conditions.  But it is an option that you should be aware of (reference)

if i  find out that the man i married is impotent (God forbid though), i would still love the guy for who he is. i mean he did not decide to make himself impotent is was biological. there are other ways to get pregnant. i will still help the guy but it would be good for a guy to tell the lady if he suspects that he is impotent before they venture into marriage then is it up to her to decide if she loves him as a person or his privates only. i mean there was a case where a guy fell in love with a HIV patient. she told him he knew it but he loved her and they got married and had a child. well of course he is infected and so is the child. i think it is a bizzare case but love is bizzare and strange at times. people will do anything when they are in love...

I didn;t read other people's reply, so i don't know if anyone has said this. But if i should find out that the guy i married is impotent, the first thing on my mind would be divorce, BUT if the guy is someone I LOVE to death, I am down with adopting kids.

If he's a normal guy then there are things he must have done in private that will make him to know if he's capable or not.  So how will the guy not know?  Or is your idea of impotence different from mine?  We're not talking about infertility here, you know.

To add a twist in the tale, consider the following:

Now if the guy is impotent,and you annull the marriage as suggested above, that means technically, you are still a virgin. So when the next rship comes along, are you going to test the waters before you dive in, or wait till wedding night? Since you say you want to reserve it for your husband.

due diligence ke? seun abeg what kind of due diligence & homework does not involve pre-marital sex which you have been consistently preaching against?

Rolling on the floor with laughter

This no-sex-before-marriage issue go kill me o.  Jogego you are a menta case; maybe she would give herself self medication .

Will you marry someone you don't love?

nope...But Love has stages. If the love i have for him was just small love, i could leave him.

okay i give up.

 God where are you see many sinful advice and opinions on nairaland.
God forgive us ooooo. Premarital sex is nothing but sin I am not claimimg Holiness here ooo. But God's word can't be altered.
I am a xtian and I will always remain one.
  Pray for an active partner and God will guide you don't use your own judgement and understanding to pick your partner.

We will have sex, just that he can't impregnate me.

 Tayobaby, i give you 20 gbosa. You are absolutely correct. Na your side I dey.

IAH, is hot-angel a woman of God?

On a more serious note IAH, it is not possible.  She's human for crying out loud.  Abeg let's get real here and stop deceiving ourselves.

This is not a matter of remaining chaste.  All those whose names you mentioned never got married IAH. She is married and cannot have sex because her husband is impotent.  Her husband cannot perform.  If she had any intention of remaining chaste, she wouldn't have gotten married in the first place.