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kate_angel (f)
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Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"
Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?
Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs, and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.
As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:
Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.
Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.
Too much physical contact, especially in public.
If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior, but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.
The next 3 are far deadlier, but less obvious, and it's important that you learn what they are and how to avoid giving them off.
But before I show you how to do that, let's talk about mistake #2:
» Mistake #2: Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side
Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone, and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.
Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind, and keep them connected.
Men are out for far more than just sex, and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart, and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF. In a moment, I'll show you how you can learn to do just that,
» Mistake #3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"
A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.
Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.
When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts, leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.
If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.
It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST, so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you, or who will leave you heartbroken. Fortunately this is a fairly easy thing to do, and I'd like to show you how,
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hannydarl (f)
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@ poster
verry correct my dear I believe women should learn how to comport themselves in front of men who date them it doesnt mean she should pretend to be rich but if she is not financialy strong she can let him know without begging for alms it is wise to make him know that though you don't have much you wont stoop low to date guys just for the sake of money.
I had a friend who just returned form abroad and took a girl he fancied for a date she told him how broke and poor she was. That night she called him and asked if he could send her 1500 recharge card and also told him her phone was stolen and that her father was sick and she needed money for the hospital bill my pal was a good guy he gave her some money and ran for his life he never picked her calls that was how she lost a good man because of greed he was a good man not just because he was rich but because he was a man who respects women.
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iice (f)
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Pretending only gets one so far, unless you lose yourself in pretending and live a life in a mind/soul that isnt 100% you. Better yet, one slips up and the partner finds out and all hell breaks loose, or things start to drift apart.
But i do advocate sticking true to yourself and knowing your flaws. So that even when it's pointed out to you, you don't turn into a hissing snake but rather acknowledge that you are well aware and are either willing to change/improve or not.
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Maleeq (m)
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Nice! Wish my ex read this before we met  |
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hannydarl (f)
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@ maleeq No worry the next one go read am and I wish you good luck in love  |
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bimbethy (f)
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u made my day. thanks. let b prayerful because only God can choose a partner for you  |
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Maleeq (m)
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@hannydarl
Thanx Darl.
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$ammy (m)
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Nice post.Ladies take note.
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ghengis (m)
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ok, these are wonderful ppoints but geez, are there really women who don't fall into any of these? Naaah!!! i don't think so, just make sure u aint into all. Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good. Ladies, u listening? We know its going to be hard but y'all can do it! |
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Esss (m)
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DAMN >>>>>> That is some really deep shit, You should open a school for girls, Do you have sometin for the bois?? What mistakes we make with our girls, like giving them too much money and stuff. , Teach us |
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tochii (m)
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ohhhhhhhhhhh i really love this. wish u will open our (guys) eyes to some deadly mistakes we make that make us keep loosing our gals. keep keeping on girl
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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@topic nice one. |
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cuju (f)
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@kate Angel
Thumbs up!!
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tasiana
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True talk |
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davidylan (m)
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» Mistake #2: Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side
Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone, and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well.
Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind, and keep them connected.
Men are out for far more than just sex, and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart, and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF. In a moment, I'll show you how you can learn to do just that,
Spot on!!!! I could not have said it any better. It is 100% possible to have sex with a woman and the very next minute completely forget what she looked like. A man who truly loves you will definitely be sexually attracted to you BUT will not base his relationship with you on sex. when you know you've got a guy? when he is comfortable confiding in you as regards personal issues! That is usually a sign that he trusts you enough. If your guy always keeps the conversation around the peripheral and unimportant, that is a sign that you are simply a substitute to masturbation! |
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Seun (m)
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If your guy always keeps the conversation around the peripheral and unimportant, What if a woman does this?  |
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davidylan (m)
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What if a woman does this? then she doesnt regard you as someone she can let into her life, let her go. |
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Ikomi (m)
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verry correct my dear I believe women should learn how to comport themselves in front of men who date them it doesnt mean she should pretend to be rich but if she is not financialy strong she can let him know without begging for alms it is wise to make him know that though you don't have much you wont stoop low to date guys just for the sake of money.
I had a friend who just returned form abroad and took a girl he fancied for a date she told him how broke and poor she was. That night she called him and asked if he could send her 1500 recharge card and also told him her phone was stolen and that her father was sick and she needed money for the hospital bill my pal was a good guy he gave her some money and ran for his life he never picked her calls that was how she lost a good man because of greed he was a good man not just because he was rich but because he was a man who respects women. Show me a man who would not run for that kind of a woman and i'd show u a man who has made up his mind to walk into hell fire. Pretending only gets one so far, unless you lose yourself in pretending and live a life in a mind/soul that isnt 100% you. Better yet, one slips up and the partner finds out and all hell breaks loose, or things start to drift apart.
But i do advocate sticking true to yourself and knowing your flaws. So that even when it's pointed out to you, you don't turn into a hissing snake but rather acknowledge that you are well aware and are either willing to change/improve or not.
True. Sometimes our lifes are better left to chance, the pain the joy the happiness is all lesson. |
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MILITIA (f)
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@Topic Very good write-up! Please with all these given qualities, why do some men still patronize prostitutes? They have all the said qualities at home but will still "waka" outside! |
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blue-sky (f)
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It doesnt matter if she wrote it herself. The point is that, it is very enlightening topic.
I especialy agree with #2,
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enitan2002 (m)
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wetin come concern you with that one, no man is an islnad of knowledge, lets have a look at the one you can use your brain to copy. |
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candy (f)
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@Topic,Very good write-up Yea, very good indeed. . . kudos to Christian Carter! |
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baby4u2 (f)
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I like #3 and i'm taking corrective measures today.
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frank 3.16 (m)
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the bad news is that after reading all this and say its ok most women will not learn from it. here is the fact on what you should do to have a healthy relationship, yet no body will learn
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Godalone (m)
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the bad news is that after reading all this and say its ok most women will not learn from it. here is the fact on what you should do to have a healthy relationship, yet no body will learn
Abi o. |
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buzyDiva (f)
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the bad news is that after reading all this and say its ok most women will not learn from it. here is the fact on what you should do to have a healthy relationship, yet no body will learn
who would have tot that frank has got this much sense of reasoning. |
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Godalone (m)
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who would have tot that frank has got this much sense of reasoning.
Honestly you pick my mind. |
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shylladear (f)
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@Poster thats realy a very good one uve got there i wish all girls can learn from this. kudos to u(@POSTER) girl  |
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frank 3.16 (m)
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who would have tot that frank has got this much sense of reasoning.
sweetheart, u seem to be underating me, i can do alot more than u can imagine even on bed |
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