I Think I'm Going Crazy Over A Man

Rejection hurts, especially when you really love someone, but trying to force someone to love you, to me, hurts even worse, for it is not done willingly.  Ask God to send you someone that will love you as much as you love him.  No one is worth pursuing to the point that your feelings, emotions, and eventually, pride is horribly injured.

If a man does not pursue you or show any interest in you, just walk away.  Sure, you will feel lonely, cry, and it will tear you up on the inside, but guess what, you will begin to heal from the pain. 

Walk away and "DON'T LOOK BACK". 

Been there and had it hard.NOBODY is worth that much waste of time.Speaking from experience stop being so desperate for him.I know u think u can't help it but trust me this feelings will pass and in the meanwhile try not to make a complete fool of yourself so that when u look back,shame won't wash all over u and maybe just maybe if u dnt act so desperate about him he will come running.

There is no 'similar case' here. Is it a crime for a guy not to like a girl again? The guy just isn't interested in a relationship with her, that doesn't mean he's gay or terrible or 'not worth it'. if you gals don't gree for every guy that toasts you fervently, why should the reverse not be the case?

@Poster
The problem is you've convinced yourself this guy's the perfect one for you, your Mr. Right. he's not interested and you're rejecting good men because you're chasing perfection. Give yourself a break and stop trying for your perception of 'perfect'. find someone else to love (and more important, who loves you back) and turn your back on this destructive obsession.
 
 
 
texaz man you have just said it all. for goodness sakes ladies, love is not by do or kpi! and in the abcence of the desirable, the avilabe becomes the desirable. don't go and do any juju as you have been advised just snap out of it and move on

Girl, you better follow this rule: follow love,it will flee; flee love,it will follow you.

It is just your mind set. If a man you like, in your case love, doesn't want to know, then is either is not meant  be or it not worth it.
What gives the assurance that he will respect you if you go out with him? Let it be, set your priority right and get over him.
I know exactly how you feel, but once you've moved on, he might come around and ask you out, which will not be up to you wether you'll accept or not.
BELIEVE ME, IT'S NOT WORTH IT. I'VE BEEN THERE DONE THAT.
You will survive!
Stop wasting time on this one.
You know, its not good looking over your life and keep wondering why you wasted time over a man.
And may I add, ask your daddy (God) to help you with your emotion.

hmmm!!! you guys don't still get it do you? the poster has a happy ending. you all should go and sleep!! thank you very much for your contribution and help. 

Just take time fast and pray

 

  its just sad about whats happening to you.
you know what? i am going to send you an email i received today about letting things go if they don't work out for you

its a good piece and i think you should follow its advice.

all the best.

hmmmmmmmm some advice do u want to share that with us or is it just some one on one personal stuff in the making! lol

well well well, that my style of making them(girls) feel the attraction like im using an indian-charmed-love-ring pretend you don't love them and they love you more, so they keep trying to impress you,and the attraction keeps burning.

@militia, abi militant or na rebel!
u don't talk 2 people like that, and anyway who told u that goin into a r/ship wit a man is all about monetary reward? i don't blame u, probably its that US environment that has gotten to u to da extent u hav 4gotten the idea behind male companionship. if u say someone is gay because he refuses 2 respond to someone den,

@mme poster,
love exists but its mostly a thing of da mind. what u saw in that one man that got u swept off your feet could also be seen in many others especially when you're ready 2 move on. i'm not sayin u should giv up but u hav to guage it. my present spouse im married to gave me all hell!!!! but i guess my prayer, persistence and element of luk saw me through, i wish u da best

NB: a quote from a movie i watched long ago, "indecent proposal" - if u need something so badly but u ucant get it let it go. if its meant for u it would come bak to u!

Topic Darling,  Let's look at your situation objectively: You have the hots for a guy who does not acknowledge your 'romantic existence'.   Love requires love to grow and sustain itself, ask any married couple,, consequently if you are not receiving any concrete responses from him it means you are in an obsessive state.  Obsession is self feeding irrespective of the other's negative or lack of response. 

I can't tell you that I am in a position to give you counsel, but this I can tell you, use the support of friends to get through this period.  Although it will hurt like hell and seem like life makes no sense, it's better that you go through this temporary 'hell' than, Tufiakwa!, you end up 'permanently' (for as long as it takes you to screw up your courage to ask for a divorce), with a man who has little regard for you.  Truth be told, you may get him in the end, but you'll be sorely disappointed.  I have 2 girlfriends currently going through the divorce courts and their stories started like yours.

Infact,I could feel for you.It's happening all over the places.I think what you need to do is prayer, If the guy is urs he would be and if he is not urs he will leave u and almigghty God we give u your own man.In jesus name. Amin

@ karl ken.
 
 DIDN'T YOU SEE THE TOPIC THE GUY IS NOT FEELING HER. WHY ARE You TRYING TO MAKE THE IMPOSSIBLE POSSIBLE.
  go back and read HER post, there is no remedy to her problem, SHE NEEDS TO GET OVER IT!

Stop giving her false hopes,  Move on with your dam life, ladies that force themselves on guys are just used and dumped, players u feel me? word from the expert!