My Poor Communication In English Language Is Threatening To Kill My Relationship

. What can i do to salvage this precarious situation?
Are u sure u can't speak English fluently, with all the grammar u used to start this thread?

Well well well, from all indications and expressions, you're good at written english, your problem is the oral part.

I suggest you induldge more in novels, and private practise. Atimes while reading the novels, read them out loud to yourself. It might be some esteem problem or that you know what to say, but your nervousness to make mistakes is what is drawing you back.

So i say "practise makes perfect", be more confident in yourself . . and dearie I'm not giving you these points oo, to think "yea yea", i challenge and expect you to put them into action oo.

As sad as it makes you, use that same effort to make a different, you got it in you, you juat have to prove you're up to the task.

Like i said, read lotsa novels, practise to yourself, and be bold to express it . . you can do this hun!!

Good, I'm so relieved and delighted to hear that.

When you speak, try to not be that concious, don't always try to be aware of yourself, just speak. If you know that language you speak perfectly, think of how you speak it. You don't really count your words, do you?? I don't think so.

There lies some of it, speak freely, and the rest will follow suit, God luck dear

lingual adivisers,

You are better off if you are able to establish the boyfriend's tolerance and patience for communication error. If he becomes aware that nervous bankruptcy is her problem, it would be easier for her. You know, love can perform wonders

there are worse things baby. I've seen ground-shattering grammar on nairaland.
just work on it and you'll be fine ok?

I wonder what the point of a relationship is,if its success or failure is dependent on one partner's oratorical skills.

dear, its great to know u recognize ur inadequacy and ur ready to work on it. nothing can beat that will so keep it up.

My dear, as English is not your first language, it will not flow from your lips as readily as your native tongue without practice, practice and more practice.  This takes time.  That's a fact, so please don't be embarrassed or frustrated by it.  And, let's be very honest--English is not the easiest language to speak!  I'm sure you're doing much better than you think you are.   Believe me when I tell you this:  I live in the US, and I would be willing to bet that you speak English better than most of the people in this country!  And, I, for one, don't speak any Nigerian languages--yet!   

I must agree with I-man, who said:  "I wonder what the point of a relationship is,if its success or failure is dependent on one partner's oratorical skills."

You are at a top university.  You are clearly very skilled in written English.  I don't doubt that you are extremely intelligent and it's obvious that you're wanting to better yourself.  You care about others.  Heck, I don't care what language you speak--you sound like the kind of person I'd be proud to have as a ladyfriend!   

Cute_ass is the hero in here huh?

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Well, i think cute_ass said it all actually, stick to her advice. You are not the only one with this problem you know, but yours is solved  now because you are not silent about it. I like you for this. If your guy is a good guy like me, he will assit you to . Anyway, all the best dear!

@poster,
I'm so surprised u can write very well and can't speak fluently, or is it that some one dictated 2 u what 2 post on this forum.

It's better to know how to write than to speak.  what's make an illiterate is the inability to read and write, and not the speaking aspect because the environment where one grows contribute to his or her fluency in the language that is  spoken frequently in that vicinity.  Let the guy help you or hell to him.

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You have the solution to the problem in your hand. Talk to your boyfriend and let him realize that you need some help. Get him to communicate with you often in english. Practice makes perfect !

'Sure you are not under-rating yourself?

One tip is to keep it simple and natural. You don't have to mimic his lawyer friends who may use their legal terms and jargon in their conversations.

Be yourself!  Going by your post and responses; your written English can hold it's own anywhere. I therefore suspect that your spoken English can't be far off. I personally beleive that language can be beautifull when kept simple. That's why I prefer Chinua Achebe to Wole Soyinka any day.

Does he make you feel nervous? Anyone can mix-up words, make mistakes and even stutter if they don't feel comfortable. Some people freeze when asked to speak at interviews, presentations and meetings etc, although they are quite eloquent when in a more natural setting.

Just like anything else, practice makes perfect, you are in Uni a great environment to meet and interact with others that will help you reach your full potential.

Meanwhile, have fun, remain positive and chin up!

lilKim, tell men that english aint your first language, jokes apart, do someting about it, because most men wants a woman that can express herself in public, you know what i means, so keep it real and do something about, practice behind close doors, good luck

That was straight to the point. In addition, endeavour to get stuffs like 'how to communicate effectively in English' and other books that could school you on the effective use of English. Practice they say makes perfect.
You should also be all ears to corrections.