So Hurt In Love!

It’s so strange …when you have someone in your life you are so busy that you are busy even doing nothing…just thinking about the person you love…talking to him and losing yourself to him to take you in a dream world which has nothing to do with this world. The most comfortable place for you is his arms and that’s the only thing you love and you long for! You want to push everything which comes on your way, refrain from friends and everything else…and just keep looking for the ways to meet this person! Everything seems perfect and you believe in him more than anyone …you can’t even think of losing him.

Then comes a day when this person turns his back towards you! He deeply hurts because you got him so close to you, he ruins because he knows your basics ,he ignores because he knows that’s what you can’t tolerate…ignoring all those times which you spent with him. He has the whole world on his feet and you are the lonesome lost in his love with no establishment and no identity all this while. May be he realizes it and will come back to you…but seldom he cared to know how you cried and how lonely you felt at all these times. How difficult it was for you to pretend that you are normal while deep inside you were dying!

The person you love the most leaves you loneliest and dismayed…and you have noone to share this with and you seek a place like this where noone knows you but can understand your pain!

Girl you're hurt. You sure do not need any pity. "It's better envied than pitied". Guess what? You're not the first and wouldn't be the last. i have been hurt too for almost two years took me a while to get over it. U know what i did? i started to love myself. if u don't love yrself how can u get to love another person fairly? Beside "U only let someone hurt you if u give them a chance to do so". Get close to yr friends, make new friends, but most importantly try not to be alone yr self. mix up old friends/new friends and above all, GET CLOSER TO GOD. Read Holy Bible. It still contains God's words which are stil alive.

sory young lady, my chick sent me off yesterday!Her reasons: the five year old relationship is boring and she needs another hand at a time am thinking of marriage.I get to work today to find something doing so that i can forget about her, but its hard.Thats life anyway-'to hurt and be hurt'.
I beleive time will heal the pain.Keep cool as i am trying to do,don't look less on yourself,think how brilliant your life has been and how cool it is still going to be,don't stay alone in a room,find something interesting doing,talk to someone you trust so that the pain can melt away gradually in your heart.don't rush into another relationship,but don't close your heart completely,Above all,let God lead you,tie everything to the cross.

LOVE IS ALWAYS LIKE A BUTTERFLY, IF LOVE IT, LET IT FLY AWAY, IF IT IS YOURS IT WILL COME BACK.IF IT DOES NOT COME BACK, IT IS NEVER YOURS FROM THE BEGINNING!
Remember,you are not the one in this type of pain,we are in this together.
Have a nice day.

Tranquil and arshy, i feel both of u have a thing in come,may be u can exchange numbers.Am not match making here

lol. Pathetic indeed

@poster
 i have been there before.
it hurts like crazy and feel for u too, i can feel that u are truly hurt
but do u kno what heeled me?
IF IT'S NOT MEANT TO BE, IT WILL NEVER BE NO MATTER HOW HARD U TRY

with the advice from arshy, dreamnaira and oshiokee, i hope u
embrace that and move on ok
he's not the best for u, and neither does he deserve ur love

put ya self together dear
all the best

where do I go, my tears even don't stop in public!

my dear tranquil,

cry as much as you want to, just make sure you don't spend valuable time crying. just let him go. try to take it a day at a time, focus on yourself, go shopping or do whatever makes you happy. get through the 1st day, and the next, and the next.take your time before going into another relationship, and remember a relationship is not a do or die affair. when the right one comes, all the pain will become history.

Tranquil dear, I've been through this before, I'm talking from experience. I know how u feel, he was the only man I ever loved, he tormented me for  3 years. He thought me how wrong it was  to love someone truly, he ruined my love life. I can hardly believe men anymore but with prayers dear, God gave me a new life. Its not easy at all especially if u are the too emotional type like me.

Dear, let d tears flow 4 they surely will, after which u gather yourself 2gether and start a new life without him, if he eventually comes bk he is for you but if he doesn't believe that someone who will cherish u 4 d rest of his life will come ur way, trust God 2 c u through dear.

love u.

tranquil?


Your name sounds familiar

didnt you start a thread about dating your boss
and another one about lying to him about having other affairs because he told you about the other relationships he has had?


haven't you moooved on

@shynap, stop being funny you jakass, m feeling so gloomy and you makin me laugh idiot!!!Something very serious goin here do you understand???

Sory Tranquil, i didnt mean to hurt u with the post, i was just trying to divert your attention toward another thing which u really need now.
There is no cure for heart break rather than what people has said,eapecially Arshy and the rest.The only hope u need is God and time.Even if u loose everything,don't loose ur hope in yourself,u will surely need it for your survival.focus ur mind and attention on another serious issue and u can easily forget about him.
I wish u good luck!

Hey Shynap and all you well wishers, I think I am now more strong seeing this man not paying any attention to me nor taking me any seriously.He talks too casually with me like, "I overate this weekend , "

In the rearview I was a pride female guess though sentimental but fair, I cried,sobbed,begged,died,burnt and did everything weak whenever I was channelized to , I know I spent a lovely time with this man and It was so beautiful that even the thought of it brings tears to my eyes and I feel like running back to him, but there's a big difference between my feelings and his world.He is very different from what I percieved he was,not even a bit emotional otherwise how could he have tolerated my pain and stayed apart.His eyes give a strange expression or rather no expression , the person who was merged in me yesterday looks like a stranger to me, I can feel his body, his heat ,his touch how can he forget?

I thought he was the most perfect man in my life , I looked up to him and wanted to be like him, he was my idol!I was so dumb , I was falling for this hollow creature with least feelings and nothing to give, I never saw him like I've seen this time!

Guess ,I was in love with my illusion and not with this monger!

I know if I don't love myself and bring up my self esteem I would be as good as dead, I have to get a life and come out of this trap.

like it or not you have to get over it. use something for the pain maybe like alcohol.worked for me.but the main point is that you will always find someone better if you note on. advice try not to be emotional thats sign of weakness

I think it is high time we prepared for the unpleasant in any relationship. This goes to re-ehoed the much touted maxim that "never trust anyone". It is a painful experience notwithstanding. However, I urge you to take this development as your turning point. No shaking!

nna na wetin u do wey the guyman leave u now? abi he just leave u like that?. tell us the real koko of the matter.  me I no de for this lielie love story

@ Tranquil, where have u been girl, long time no post ur sobby stories about u and ur loverman. i can see ur getting over the pain and self pity and the and hate is coming out.

You forgot to remind the nairalanders feeling soryy for you that the guy that has finally dumped you is ur married boss from work. Maybe he has decided to go back to his family and be faithful to his wife.

Sorry girl if it was a single jerk u were sobbing over i would have been more nicer but knowing its a married man that has been treating u like shit from ur former posts dating back about 2 months, ur on ur own on this one babe.

Move on to single guys. and as someone said "hope u chop belle full"?