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menike (m)
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Yeeeeeaaaahhhh !!!!! Ladies we bout to kno ya Minds Now   I'd like to know what Hotangel,nike,eveseh,Mukina etc think bout this *Hahhahaha* (Lol, lol ,lol, lol ) |
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neelsel (f)
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Hell No,,,,,with no apologies.
YOu've gotta have a J.O.B ( a damn good one too) if you want to be with me,
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mo money (m)
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@neelsel yea, every body wishes good to him/her self but what about your man loosing his job after marriage, will you send him packing or you leaving  ? |
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izoneb (f)
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No!When he gets a job,he'll find his size!
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izoneb (f)
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A poor jobless man is not fit to marry!
If a man is poor and jobless its difficult to know if he really loves you or just pretending.
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Uche2nna (m)
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A poor jobless man is not fit to marry!
If a man is poor and jobless its difficult to know if he really loves you or just pretending.
what of he was stinking rich before he married u and then shit happened he became jobless and poor.Whatchu going to do  |
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izoneb (f)
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Then we can start from there.At least i know if he makes it I'll still be his choice!
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acidrop (f)
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he will have 2 make his money back, the way he made it the first time before we got married  |
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somegirl (f)
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@topic:
I think this is a tough question. My naive self would have said it does not matter whether he got a job as long as he is of "noble" character and loves me. However, one cannot live from air and love only.
Early in a relationship, I don't consider it wise if one partner is depending on the other (whether it is the man or the woman). It is better if there is no doubt whether one only is together because of the financial support. It might not even be intential but just thankefullness mistaken for love. Though one might argue whether love is really necessary in a relationship, I doubt that thankfulness is the right base to start since it easily might lead to dependency, unequality and/or exploitation of the weaker part. Or the fiancial stronger part might feel used.
However, what if your partner of a few weeks/months tells you s/he doesn't eat well, doesn't have proper clothing, no money to call you or only a filthy place where to sleep? What will you do? Remember, you are in love with that person and maybe didn't know his/her situation in the beginning and, even if you knew, a poor person can be lovable just as any other person.
Tough question o! I don't know the answer ---
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izoneb (f)
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That is 'ripping off'!
If he?she has no food no clothes no bla bla bla,he/she should get busy instead of pouring it on a partner.
Or better yet look for a helper or a philanthropist not a lover.
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somegirl (f)
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Some people want a "helper" as their wife!  I want a family member as my partner - not a relative becoming my lover (mind ya!) but a lover becoming part of my family - and as such I don't won't him to suffer o! But where to draw the line? |
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somegirl (f)
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What's confusing you? If I love somebody, I care about his/her well being sha! And I don't "dump" a partner easily just as I would not break with my brother easily (later one actually being a bit tougher even). What might be my problem is that I consider a lover a partner too early --- |
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izoneb (f)
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Uchenna!In fairness to you its easy to love anyone.Money is not a priority but when you say poor and jobless,I think a jobless poor man should be more concerned about getting himself fixed.Its better he gat a job and not wealthy.Except he wants to depend on you and where I get the strength?
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izoneb (f)
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word!
My dear Uchenna's point was so clear and you easily agreed. Y then am i having a difficulty understanding you? |
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Uche2nna (m)
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Probably I missed the point!If you are talking about a jobless man who feels comfortable about his situation then that is a diff kettle of fish.He should get up his ass and look for sth to do.because even as I believe that love is a strong bond that bond can easily break when subjected to strains like that.
But I was not referring to that kind of a situation.I am referring to the situation of a honest hardworking man who for no reason of his finds himself jobless and penniless.R u saying that a lady should not give that kind of man the time of day even if he has not gotten his ish 2geda!
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somegirl (f)
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@Izoneb: Because Uche2nna was just comparing two stories and I can only agree with his preference. However, the world is a bit more complex than that ---
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acidrop (f)
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i just hope i don't find my self in this whole sufer head condition in Jesus name, amen  |
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mo money (m)
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@acidrop then work harder and make mo money(like me) because you may see and fall for some one with brain and good look but no job |
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acidrop (f)
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hey, hey, i prefer an amen to that my short prayer, than a negative aspect of life, thank u very much and ofcourse u going to work hard and make money, u are d guy |
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neelsel (f)
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Uche and Mo money,
Why is it that you people are having such a difficult time dealing with truth? I honestly stated what I wouldn't do and you Mr. Uche are having a hard time with it.
Look, the poster did not specify about leaving if the person was once gainfully employed and due to circumstances lost his/her job. If he/she did then maybe my response would have been different.
So once again, NO> I Would NOT marry a poor, jobless man. My parents did not make sacrifices for me to amount to a liability collector. He Has to have a JOB (and a very good one) if He wishes to be with I an I. And I said that without Fear or Favour.
In my part of the world, it's called freedom of speech,
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neelsel (f)
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Uche2nna the "likes" of me, wouldn't give you a second glance, so don't even start with me, BOY.
You want me to spell it out for you?
No I will Not look at, date or marry a poor a$$ jobless man.
Why must I subject myself to that?
Am I right to assume you are financially challenged and as a result is taking such offence?
well the truth is, everybody can't have money.
I love the finer things in life( I was raised that way) and won't differ from such lifestyle. So that's why I put my behind through school to ensure that I won't be on the breadline awaiting some rich man to make me happy. He would have to have a good job making much more than me. I am not going to be anybody's personal bank,
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Bhola (f)
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No way, unless I am poor and jobless too. Then I guess we'll both live a poor and miserable life. |
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