Why Does Ibos Finds It Difficult To Marry From Yoruba Or Hausa?

yeah positive thinking is all well and good my dear , so try to save some for the rest of us folks , thinking you are simply the best can be a tad arrogant and bordering on narcissitic behaviour, a trait not so attractive when you think about it. 

By the way the best at what?

Most tribes in Nigeria (or anywhere else) are tribalistic when you think about it. It may help if people just ignore the trouble makers.

As far as the original question, I know people who have one Igbo and one Hausa parent or one Yoruba and one Igbo. It does happen, in fact you are more likely to see that than Hausa and Ijaw or Ibibio.

Hmmn. . . . . .another generalisation! 

So one Igbo lady marries a Yoruba man, and you think that translates into 'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot?' Sheesh!!

Nothing went wrong with my reputation in the first place. So there is absolutely nothing to redeem.

You on the other hand, have such a damaged reputation, which stinks to the high heavens. That's probably why you keep changing your identity at every whim, I-man a.k.a 4-play. Last time, you messed up so badly, that the only way to draw a curtain on your atrocities was to adopt a new identity! Or have you forgotten?

because THEY ARE NATURAL HEART BREAKERS.

Oh yes, I read it. . . .and my earlier opinion has not changed. It is still long on generalisations and very short on facts! So, Hausa and Tiv grandmothers exist in your village. . . .em, how many are they compared with the total population, that would lead you to conclude that 'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot,'ehn?? By the way, you need to take it easy. . . .stop trying to diagnose a non-existent condition, for someone who is in a healthy frame of mind. Those that are well, do not need a physician.

Did you conduct a survey from Nnewi to Abagana in Anambra, through Ngor Okpala, Mbaise, and Oguta etc. in Imo, down to Izzi, Ezza and other parts of Ebonyi or Udi, Achi, Oji River, Nkanu area etc. in Enugu State as well as  several other towns and villages in Alaigbo, to find out if this state of affairs was replicated through out the length and breadth of Alaigbo, before you jumped to the conclusion that. . . .'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot,'??

Or did you just base your 'subjective analysis' on the fact that cases of inter-marriages have occurred among some Igbo and a few neighbouring tribes, such as some of those contracted by the Efik/Ibibio with the Bende, Ngwa or Item of Abia, before you concluded that. . . .'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot,'?? Are neighbouring ethnic groups that share borders with the eastern flank of Alaigbo, the true representatives of ALL other ethnic groups or tribes, in Nigeria?

Last time I checked, over a hundred ethnic groups existed in Nigeria. I would like to know which proportion of them you surveyed, before you came to your very interesting conclusion. I would also like to know how you gathered your data on inter-ethnic couples and the frequency of marriages that have been contracted among Nd'Igbo and people from other ethnic groups nationwide, before you came up with this view.

Just curious.  

Why are you getting all hot and bothered under the collar?? And who is conducting a comparison on aptitude and intelligence here? Is it you? Na wa o! As for jumping into  The Charles River, because of "inter-tribal marriages among the Igbo", to use your own words. . . .Madam, I'll leave that to you, since you are so badly upset about it. I ain't Igbo, so why should I take panadol for your own headache?

The points I raised in my last post, were plain enough for any one to decode or understand. So why were you talking about going round in circles? Do you need a tutor?

You claimed in your previous post that 'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot,'" do you remember? Good. I asked you if you had conducted a survey  into this issue, among Nd'Igbo in all other parts of Alaigbo. Instead of saying a plain 'yes' or 'no', like any reasonable adult would, you resorted to spewing banal insults and tried to cover it up with a smiley or a grinning icon. Anyway, that has always been your style, so am not suprised.

As for the analogy about kunu and a woman in Ozubulu. . . .ah, I'll leave you to interprete it for those who cannot make sense of it, because quite frankly, it has no bearing on the topic being discussed. 

. . . . . .and for the last time, your assertion that Igbos do a lot of inter-tribal marriage, is. . . . . .um, rather too far-fetched. The Efik, Ibibio, Annang do not represent all other tribes in Nigeria, Madam. I guess it is too hard for you to understand that, while inter-ethnic marriages occur among border communities, (e.g. some of those that take place between Abia people and their close neighbours like the Efik, Ibibio et al,), such patterns do not hold true for all other members of those same ethnic groups, (or other tribes) who are far removed from border towns. Go figure!

One last question: how many Igbo folks are married to Hausa, Kanuri, Fulani, Bachama, or even Yoruba etc. people? What is the proportion of Igbo-to-Igbo marriages, when compared with those of Igbo-to-Other Ethnic Groups? Please look at these factors objectively, before you conclude that 'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot,. . . .um??

@darfur,  don't mind the fake fights between Babyosisiniquia and Ilaudatia, they are actually good buddies. . . 

lgbo men in South Africa are now marrying  South Africans so l think Mr Poster you being outdated!

I read long and interesting posts from the likes of blackmamba,TayoD, and Pilgrim
Those are some  smart folks
If you Ms Laudate can't make your points in a few short sentences
I skip over them.


_{now back to the topic}

Igbos do not find it difficult to marry other tribes.
There are indeed countless Igbos with spouses from other areas (rephrasing may help laudatenisha)
Several Rivers state indigenes have Igbo mothers and grandmothers.
Just a quick look at Naija politicians any person with some intelligence will notice all the Igbo wives of non Igbo men.

Igbos are the most travelled within Nigeria and it's not uncommon for them to take on wives from the locality they're in.
Most of my family grew up  in northern Nigeria and I have uncles and first cousins with wives from Kaduna Jos and Maiduguri area.
I have great uncles with Calabar wives.
I grew up with playmates with Calabar,'bendel" and Yoruba mothers.
In secondary school I had (still have)friends with Igbo moms and their dads are Yoruba,Edo and Kalabari and vice versa.
We even have such intertribal marriages amongst parents of some nairaland users where one is Igbo
So I have all the evidence I need.

Igbos are the best,I don't care who it's paining


kulashaker,now do you really believe me when I say any tribe is better than another
don't you people have a sense of humor?
sheesh

 

You will never cease to amuse me, Babyosisiniqua! So now, because your uncles & cousins chose to have wives from the North, and your playmates had Calabar, Bendel, Rivers mothers, it proves that all other Igbos have followed suit, or those isolated cases now serve as an empirical standard for judging marital behaviour patterns among Nd'Igbo in your own view, because according to you"Igbos do not find it difficult to marry other tribes," or "'Igbos intermarry with other tribes a whole lot??" Chei! Am sure other tribes like Edo, Rivers, Tiv etc. would probably make the same assertion. Ah, your reasoning is umridiculous, to put it mildly.

If you had said: "Some Igbo inter-marry with other tribes". . . .ehen, it would have made more sense. But nah. . . .you had to exaggerate, and stretch the phrase a lot further than it should have gone, despite the fact that there is little evidence to support such a statement. Anyway, I guess your playmates, cousins, village grandmas and uncles represent the entire Nd'Igbo. Who am I to argue with you???!

Yes, Igbos migrate a great deal. But when it comes to marriage, migration has had little influence on their marital choices or patterns. They keep close to their roots, (ain't nothing wrong with that!) and like Donzman once said they prefer to marry within their own ethnic group, for reasons of "cultural familiarity. " Hehehehe. . . . . .

So Babyosisiniqua, marriage is still very much a matter of individual preferences and endogenous cultural practice, regardless of how much migration an ethnic group does. The Fulani nomads are very well known and they migrate far and wide, within Nigeria. However, I doubt strongly if they ever take wives from those areas, where they migrate to, or if they give out their sons or daughters in marriage to the host communities, where their cattle graze. Another group that can be found in most parts of Nigeria are the Hausas. Most communities have one or two, either selling suya, or earning a living as tinkers, maiguards or carrying out some other occupation. How many of them have taken wives from the communities in which they live? Few.

Am using all these examples, to show you that your generalisation that Igbo people do a lot of intertribal marriage, is too far-fetched. Using your uncles, playmates, few village grandmothers as examples of Igbo inter-tribal marriage may hold true for just your own community, but it is not a true reflection of what goes on in every other community, in Alaigbo. Neither is it a pattern with a larger proportion of Nd'Igbo. So kindly stop generalising, and using migration as an excuse. 

Like I said before, last time I checked marriage in Nigeria was still a matter of individual choice, prevailing cultural norms and societal patterns.

Em. . . .you may choose to skip this too, since you cannot read long posts because you find them difficult to understand.

Oh I forgot to tell you, there have also been some posts on nairaland, where some folks complained that the parents of their Igbo boyfriends/girlfriends were not happy about them getting married to the girl/guy. That's another piece of evidence you missed. Go figure!

lol got to love the arrogance



no mentally safe people would love to marry out of their tribe? 


this arrogance is what astounds me, your comment though heart felt seems to have the underlining notion that your girls are prized far more than any other Nigerian girl or woman.  when will people being to think for the good of the whole country instead of their own little safe boxes of ''tribes''? if you cared so much and you had such great empathy for women in general you would say '' lets all try to do something about Nigerian girls sold into the sex industry or slavery'' and this quote young man?    amazing display of arrogance the very element distroying the fabric of the Nigerian society. SHAME ON YOU.


HAHAHAHA truly hilarious, you want the author to watch his or her posts, and you go on to talk of sensitivity? did you read your post before you clicked  on the icon ''reply''?

you go on to talk of a true Igbo man not airing his dirty linen blah blah, you just showed us your with skid marks and all!

Really why can't we all just be Nigerians? i really am ashamed that people of my generation think like you and others here, really i see no hope , none at all 

because they are natural heart breakers.

HAVEN"T HEARD FROM "ABA 4 LIFE" FOR A WHILE NOW SINCE HE POSTED THIS CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC,HOPE HE IS STILL OUTSIDE.