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sexxxxy (f)
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as a christian,is sex right when one is engaged?
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busygal (f)
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sexxxxxxxxy dear ! ask your self that question. And i can bet that you know the right answer to that question.
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degubi (m)
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why eat your birthday cake before your birthday when u can enjoy it during and after your birthday? the joy of sex is in the moment before the act and the act itself. why engage in sex now when u have your whole lifetime to spend having sex? the purpose of courtship is to spend time building a solid relationship and being open to each other, sex is transient, unless u are obssessed about it u cannot keep engaging in sex 365days of your married life, there are other things that will occupy your mind.
so my dear wait for that night after u are married to consumate your commitement to each other. spend valuable time now building the kind of relationship u want to have. as a christian i advise u to wait till your wedding night. pls spare urself the guilt that will arise as a result of sex before marriage.
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eagleroland (m)
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I totally agree with degubi. There are some things you must always remember, especially the first times. Why do you have to be remembering something that was wrong and feeling guilty or bad (after repentance) all the days of your life? There was something we used to say in school those days: IS IT WORTH THE TROUBLE?
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iice (f)
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Serious question?  Lmao! You're a Christian (am sure of the highest caliber as most proclaim) and you have to ask? 
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CrazyMan (m)
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why eat your birthday cake before your birthday when u can enjoy it during and after your birthday? the joy of sex is in the moment before the act and the act itself. why engage in sex now when u have your whole lifetime to spend having sex? the purpose of courtship is to spend time building a solid relationship and being open to each other, sex is transient, unless u are obssessed about it u cannot keep engaging in sex 365days of your married life, there are other things that will occupy your mind.
so my dear wait for that night after u are married to consumate your commitement to each other. spend valuable time now building the kind of relationship u want to have. as a christian i advise u to wait till your wedding night. please spare yourself the guilt that will arise as a result of sex before marriage.
You're absolutely right my dear. |
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Ralvy (m)
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it's only right if your having sex with the person your engaged to??? Or are u talkin about another companion???
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jummaiha (f)
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no yawa,go ahead, enjoy urself
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Ralvy (m)
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no yawa,go ahead, enjoy yourself
haba Jummaihma, Can u do such a thang??? |
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Mandora (f)
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Ofcourse 4 u who says u r a christian it wont b good because it goes against d tenets of your belief. So why do still ask. Be d good girl dat u may everyone in your church n your fellowship believe u r n stay away 4rm it even if it's going 2 kill u. I just hope d marriage date is somewhere around d corner
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Matured26 (m)
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Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa,
This one strong
All the same, It's against the tenets of the SACRED BELIEF.
It's a terrible pitfall christians are flling into.
That all do it doesn't mean it's right.
Cheers,
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mntpaul (m)
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Stupid question, figure it out yourself. Christians are not supposed to have sex before marriage, duh!!! I hope u not getting married, your not very smart.
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tope5000
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as a christian,is sex right when one is engaged?
It is a SIN  |
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misogynist
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Its true! Its a Sin! Your not supossed to have sex! Even jesus did not have sex through out his lifetime and wasnt married and since your a christian and you have vowed to follow jesus till death, why dont you emulate him and not have sex through out your courtship and not get married too! If jesus didn't do it, then you shouldnt!  |
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nethacker (m)
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see pple wey dey talk, r u telling me that none of u hv nt made love?all of us dey mess make we leave story jare
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justwise (m)
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as a christian,is sex right when one is engaged?
Its very easy for pple to insult her for askin the question, come-on pple come back to reality, if u are engaged for more than 6months going into a yr or more, do u think its easy to hang on? Remember she may not be a virgin, fo somebody who is sexually active b4 meeting the husband to-be, its hard, lets be honest here. My Answer is: it depend on the lenght of the engagment. if u are getting married in less than 6months then hang on there. |
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Romeo4real (m)
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@ sexxxxy - it is truly despairing that as a Christian, you have to ask this question.
Remember this is not judging you, as you are not asking about the intricacies and challenges of staying celibate before marriage, and the solutions.
You should know your "engagement" is irrelevant in the eyes of God with respect to sexual relations. The Bible makes it very clear the ANY sexual relations should take place btw 2 ppl who are married. What Bible do you read?
You are asking a simple legalistic questions, for which the answers reside abundantly in the book of the religion you claim to follow.
I suspect you are looking for a way to assuage your conscience and justify what u are already doing. U want to use your engagement as a cloak of legitimacy to justify your wrongdoing, and want NL posters to be complicit in it with you.
The truth is, you were already having sex b4 u were engaged anyway, if not with your fiance, then your Ex's.
@justwise - your r a simpleton (if u know what that means), and i do not apologies for the insult. She asked a simple question, for which as a Christian, she should know the simple ans.
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biola44 (m)
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@ sexxxxy - it is truly despairing that as a Christian, you have to ask this question.
Remember this is not judging you, as you are not asking about the intricacies and challenges of staying celibate before marriage, and the solutions.
You should know your "engagement" is irrelevant in the eyes of God with respect to sexual relations. The Bible makes it very clear the ANY sexual relations should take place btw 2 ppl who are married. What Bible do you read?
You are asking a simple legalistic questions, for which the answers reside abundantly in the book of the religion you claim to follow.
I suspect you are looking for a way to assuage your conscience and justify what u are already doing. U want to use your engagement as a cloak of legitimacy to justify your wrongdoing, and want NL posters to be complicit in it with you.
The truth is, you were already having sex b4 u were engaged anyway, if not with your fiance, then your Ex's.
@justwise - your r a simpleton (if u know what that means), and i do not apologies for the insult. She asked a simple question, for which as a Christian, she should know the simple ans.
i feel u bro, |
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justwise (m)
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@ Romeo4real (m),
Yes u called me a fool or unintelligence cos i have a different view but i think u should be the last moron to tell any living being about Bible, look at the pic on your profile, will that glorify God? What message are u sending to any lady looking at the pic?
Typical religious minitant, pple like u are so quick to qouta the Bible and pass judgment while your personal life is a shame.
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tosh_acer
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how serious is this question?
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net man (m)
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Courtship is a time for two people that are engaged to know themselves better. It is aslo a time to plan, pray and settle all things that needs to be settled.God ordined sex for marriage.Therefore it is totally wronged for people who are engaged to be sleeping together. The bible says marriage is honourable in all the bed undifed(Heb 13:4a). Infact it is an abomination before God.
How would say that your marriage is honourable when the bed is defiled.
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Am Alone
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Yes! SEXxxxxxy |
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don jazzie (m)
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Have Sex with who?
The person you are engaged to or just another party.
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Romeo4real (m)
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Yes u called me a fool or unintelligence cos i have a different view but i think u should be the last moron to tell any living being about Bible, look at the pic on your profile, will that glorify God? What message are u sending to any lady looking at the pic?
Typical religious minitant, pple like u are so quick to qouta the Bible and pass judgment while your personal life is a shame. @justwise - you are indeed a simpleton as i suspected - and you have proven it with your reply. The pic on my profile does in fact glorify God, as it shows what I've done with the body God gave me - I have improved it, a lot. I'm sure u remember the parable of the Master, his Servants and the Talents. Show us your pic and let see what have u done with yours? Zilch! - and that's the message it sends to anyone viewing the pic - not just women. I am not a religious "minitant", whatever that means, nor do i claim not to be sinless. She asked a question, for which she should know the ans - b'cos its in the Bible, and she is a Christian. I simply pointed out the irony of this to her. Does this make me a hypocrite? I think not. I didn't quote the bible, nor did i pass even judgement (i made that clear). There is nowhere in my post that i have claimed to be better than anyone else. Not only are you a simpleton, u are also illiterate, as you obviously can read or comprehend simple grammatical constructions. |
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manny4life (m)
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Its very easy for pple to insult her for askin the question, come-on pple come back to reality, if u are engaged for more than 6months going into a yr or more, do u think its easy to hang on? Remember she may not be a virgin, fo somebody who is sexually active b4 meeting the husband to-be, its hard, lets be honest here.
My Answer is: it depend on the lenght of the engagment. if u are getting married in less than 6months then hang on there.
@ sexxxxy - it is truly despairing that as a Christian, you have to ask this question.
Remember this is not judging you, as you are not asking about the intricacies and challenges of staying celibate before marriage, and the solutions.
You should know your "engagement" is irrelevant in the eyes of God with respect to sexual relations. The Bible makes it very clear the ANY sexual relations should take place btw 2 ppl who are married. What Bible do you read?
You are asking a simple legalistic questions, for which the answers reside abundantly in the book of the religion you claim to follow.
I suspect you are looking for a way to assuage your conscience and justify what u are already doing. U want to use your engagement as a cloak of legitimacy to justify your wrongdoing, and want NL posters to be complicit in it with you.
The truth is, you were already having sex b4 u were engaged anyway, if not with your fiance, then your Ex's.
@justwise - your r a simpleton (if u know what that means), and i do not apologies for the insult. She asked a simple question, for which as a Christian, she should know the simple ans.
@justwise - you are indeed a simpleton as i suspected - and you have proven it with your reply.
The pic on my profile does in fact glorify God, as it shows what I've done with the body God gave me - I have improved it, a lot. I'm sure u remember the parable of the Master, his Servants and the Talents. Show us your pic and let see what have u done with yours? Zilch! - and that's the message it sends to anyone viewing the pic - not just women.
I am not a religious "minitant", whatever that means, nor do i claim not to be sinless.
She asked a question, for which she should know the ans - b'cos its in the Bible, and she is a Christian. I simply pointed out the irony of this to her. Does this make me a hypocrite? I think not.
I didn't quote the bible, nor did i pass even judgement (i made that clear). There is nowhere in my post that i have claimed to be better than anyone else. Not only are you a simpleton, u are also illiterate, as you obviously can read or comprehend simple grammatical constructions.
Why are the both of you attacking yourselves? Romeo4real, you shouldn't have called him a "simpleton", that's offensive and I see why he attacked. Although not wise, however,he was expressing his own views. As a true Christian you @sexxxxy says she is, I support Romeo4real, she knows better not to ask that question, can she can have sex before marriage? NO. There is neither compromise nor middle ground, simple and period. For a righteous Christian it’s a SIN, the bible condemns it. In addition to that, I also agree with Justwise view on sex before marriage, however the clause that changed it all was “Sex, Christian and Marriage". Moreover, Christian or not, it is morally and ethically wrong to have sex when engaged to someone else. |
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Romeo4real (m)
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@manny4life - I do agree with you. I should not have taken the bait, so i shall be magnanimous.
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justwise (m)
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@ Romeo4real ,
u can interpret the Bible to suit your stupidness, showing your half naked body as a christain (if u are one)on internet is completely wrong, not even just half naked your tight boxer leaves nothing for imagination, i'm not even taken aback at your reply because pple like u can do no wrong but will be quick to insult others.
She asked a Q and i put up my view, but u saw it as unintelligent, is that not passing judgment?
Just get lost
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manny4life (m)
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@justwise, finally you have justified your opinion. Romeo4real isn't saying that his a sinless at least from his previous post. I think what is going on here is misinterpretation and misunderstanding. Plz you guyz,
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ibkaye
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No no no, engagement does not = definite marriage.
You might as well wait.
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justwise (m)
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@justwise, finally you have justified your opinion. Romeo4real isn't saying that his a sinless at least from his previous post. I think what is going on here is misinterpretation and misunderstanding. Plz you guyz,
manny4life, But he is quoting bible to justify why he put up half naked pic. he said its biblical, which i found very funny. its very common for pple with very low moral standard like him to attack others |
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C2H5OH (m)
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funny posters why eat your birthday cake before your birthday. as for me o i go try. if i'm at my breaking point i probably would
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