My Fiance Dumped Me, Now He Wants Me Back

Break Up After Fixing Wedding Date!  <<what a terrible title>>

A guy that i was suppose to marry last year, dumped me after fixing our wedding date and went for another girl, now he's coming back asking for forgiveness after 11months? and am already dating another guy now, please advice me on what to do?

@poster:
 this stuff happened to lady friend of mine before. i dnt think its proper to say good evening to someone after saying goodnight. what made him come back and whats d guarantee he wouldnt do it again? Besides your happy with your new love, aint u? so rlly i dnt think u need much advice on what to do anymore. 

Damn! Another violator of Okafor's law.

Kick him off very fast.

Wow! Just thank God that you got a chance before you walked down the aisle, most people didnt get such and are now stuck in loveless relationships.

The main thing is that you really assess this guy that dumped you. Is he really someone that you can be with  -now u have had the chance to date someone else, compare them and see where he stands.
Be truly honest with yourself cause you and you alone know what is rite.

I feel whats in the past should stay in the past especially when you are with someone else that obviously treats you good, and consider the fact that the reason your ex wants you back is because the other girl had told him to get lost.

So girl leave the past in the past, he is past tense.

for you to ask this question it means you've considered taking him back


I just hope the new guy you are dating is simply not just a 'rebound' relationship


You need to THINK about this clearly


asess both relationships both past and present


I'd go as far as saying you should take a break from the current relationship so you can think about the two men properly and decide with whom you can live with as a husband and father of you kids.

If you really love the new guy you're with, then stick to him.
What's the probabilty that this other guy won't dump you as he did before.

But what i would advice you to do is to keep your eyes wide open even with this your new guy most relationships are like clouds that bring no rain. You you have to be very observant so you won't make the same mistake again.

what actually happened was that, i went to his house one faithful morning like that, and noticed that all my pictures on his wall and my cloths inside his wordrop has been removed and i was like, what happen and he didn't answer me, out of annoyance, when he wanted to leave i blocked him, and that was it, he told me that is all over and i thought he was joking in the first place, but he stopped calling and visiting me, and he went to church and told them that, he can't continue again that any woman who can block his way, that he can't marry her. and he called the wedding off.

now after 11months that i have gotten some one else and looking very fine and really good. he came to beg me that if i was hurt by his actions that i should let go and give him a second chance. And i asked what came over him before? and he said it was a temptation. 

Do u think that this animal really worth giving any second chance ?

NO !!!

Honey, I might sound slightly different here.

If it was your fault, then watch it and make sure you do not repeat same mistake in your relationship with this second guy.

Again, it is obvious that you still love the first guy and in your heart of hearts you are considering him again.

You only used the second guy to pacify your self after your heartbreak.
Well, make sure you do not end up breaking the second guy’s heart.

I guess you are being too emotional!

ngojoygurl,
Now I have a clearer picture of the whole scenario.
Well, you see this  is a matter of the heart hence the bearer alone knows how it pinches.

However, I would advise that you follow your heart; if you feel nothing for him anymore then you might as well forget the whole issue and put him behind you. God will not force you against your will that is why he gave you a conscience and freedom of choice.

Again, learn not to do things with the fear that it might not work, just be positive and you’ll rule your world with time.

I wish you all the best in your relationship.

Liftedme,

Thanks girl! he is behind already and am forging ahead to what the future holds for me!

And i also believe that he is not for me, since he could break the engagement for no just cost, means he is not God's perfect will for me.

Mandora,

Thanks girl, old things have passed away! and behold all things have become new o!!!

Smile 76,

Thanks dear, none of the pple that responded to this post asked me to accept him back, by God's grace i will be fine!

It all depend on you , you know what you want and the best for you ,   you need to pray for God direction at this junction please don't decide on your own that do trial and error please.