Housewife or Working Woman?

work and make your own money o, this world is upside down.....what in God's name is marriage now? all man to himself, or let him sweat it out, at least he's the man?

nobody says it is, infact its a priviledge

you are primarily a wife, secondly a mother and lastly everything else you wish to be, you can be___as long as you don't forget that either.

Of course it has to be rated as 1 or 2, otherwise the purpose of marriage is defeated, and no the rating does not relegate your career to the backseat, i wouldnt want a non working wife too.....it just helps to prioritize

I'm definately gon have my own job and make my own money when i get married.

The best answer is embedded in your lengthy post. That is it!

Women are not made for working. As controversial as that may sound, it is the glaring truth. Ask any sensible woman with a LENGTHY working career. Who really wants to get up daily and hustle to no end (believe me you will), when you can simply post up and be pampered silly by a strong man by maintaining his home, attending to his needs and catering for his seed.

All those screaming independent I am sure have not yet maintained that 'independent' lifestyle they so desire for 5+ years. Experience is the best teacher

I really don't understand your last question so I will let that slide. However I'm all woman and I had a clause with the sensible woman condition "with a LENGTHY working career" do you fit the bill? You are in the usa, take yourself on that journey through the corporate jungle and come back to tell us how satisfying, fulfilling and exciting it really is. No one said you shouldn't work. Its your life, knock yourself out. Every situation is give or take but most are nothing without the adherence to a higher power. Simply put, man proposes God disposes.

The truth of the matter is: Everywoman wants to be known as somebody else apart from "Junior's mum or Seun's wife" we also want to be known as Tola's Manager or Kunle's year 4 music teacher, oluwadara's mentor, etc

I think men should release their wives to do what will give them some sort of fulfillment, apart from being at home and making babies.

It's my choice because it's ma life. And i'll like to live it just the way i like that pleases God and satisfies me. Anyone that wants to be an housewife can go ahead and be, but for me, i'm certainly not going to be one. Can never feel fulfiled being one. For chrissakes, i got a whole lotta goals and ambitions. My dreams and aspirations go to cleaning houses and cooking and probably making babies ? Sure not.....but for those who's dream it is can as well enjoy themselves as housewifes.

i would defintely be a working woman but a total wife to my husband and the best mother i can be to both him and the children 

Oh bless your days! Glad to hear someone who has walked the walk. So have I and honestly, I used to be Queen of Independence if I say so myself. I am still managing my own affairs, business, school and all but was briefly well taken care of and sought after by an influential man, 'independent streak' reared its ugly head and I pushed him away. Suffice to say its much more fulfilling enjoying his treats than any of equal value I have on my own. I rather be his housewife any day than one business woman abegi, its not like you will housewife to someone who does not have the means to do so. Shine eye

abeg, even if there r heaven and earth in that house , shoo i go still work because being idol is not ma thing and afterall, why would I spend all diz money 4 uni. and den decides 2 be a house wife..in diz century we r in 2......abeg, i will like 2 go and socilazie (9-5 shift) and see and know would up is happening in da world and 4 men :P2 know i dey because if u stay at home, u r likely 2 be hearing stories 4rom ur hubby about being in one meeting or da other but when u work yourself and meet people of ur caliber, den da game is uppppppp.........house wife ain't acceptable if not i would have told ma dad i would stay home and no uni. and den siddon 4 house and wait 4 a wealthy man 2 come and marry me and den house wife won't be a debate...hahahhahaa...SOCILIAIZATION is a process of learning..even ma PHD holder dad sayz da same...happy new year people

  Being a working class woman or having a career is not all that bad, but i think the larger part of a woman's time should be devoted to her family(husband & children) if a married woman is to work, she should be self employed at least this would afford her enough time to take proper care of her family..her children in particular because' they're most vulnerable so they need attention, but a situation whereby the woman's goes to work from morn' till eve'  leaving the kid's for the house help or whoever u find out that these children turn to something else...it's not as if she can't attend to her business when she's self employed...but at least she's a boss of her own therefore she can close and go home anytime she pleases or she might even decide to employ someone who can take charge when she's not there. Some women due to their tight schedule do not even have time to prepare meal's for their hushand or even to  wash his cloth's, they live everything for the househelp to do..now this is what i call absolute RUBBISH! how can a househelp prepare ur husband's meal for christ's sake? what did he marry u for then? a woman is suppose to have time for her home...she ought to know what's happening in the home and all that...i don't even fansy the idea of getting  a househelp because' they're not to be trusted...(if u get the one that'll snatch ur husby or even spoil ur children whose fault will it be?) and it happen's because' if ur husby don't get enough attention from u but get's it from the househelp, what do u expect? Well, as for me...i'm going to be self employed when i get married so my husband & children can enjoy enough of my attention and i ain't going to get any househelp i'll do all the chore's myself.

I am a working woman and will always strive to work hard to support my family.U know what, idleness is a disease.