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mellow (m)
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Are we aware here that when a woman is not(Professionals excluded)
happy with you that the first way she registers her displeasure
is by closing her legs against you temperally or permanently? It is not about
her having fun outside no for Christ sake. something is wrong somewhere and
you have to dig it out and ASAP. A Lady who was enjoying sex with you all of a sudden
developed cold feet with you in regard to sex? Have you tried making love to her rather
than having sex with her? Have you tried playing with her without you mentioning sex to her?
At times my WIFE tells me she is tired and I say OK. But I will be stroking her here and there and
after a while she won't know when she will ask for it and you know what I do enough shakara.
Please change your attitude and style of sex with her and most importantly, try communicating with her.
The officiating priest on my wedding day told me before all my quests that the day I stop communicating with my wife
that day I start killing my marriage and since that day I always read her face for any emotional change and if there
is we trash it out immediately before it develops a third leg. Try taking Seun's advice and that of most others and throw
the rest away.
@ SEUN
If to say you deh reason like this before I for don dey proud of you since long time Imo river.
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anyaricu (m)
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Mennnnn! I am sure I would have killed my wife if that was the case 4 me because I love sex!!!
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Veracious (f)
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Honestly i think you should ask your self some questions like: are you satisfying her sexually, are you creative when it comes to making love to her,do you show appreciation to her after making love to her or you immidiately sleep off? really such attitude might put her off the mood you know.so if these are the one of the problems please i suggest you improve. and lets see what happens. good LUCK BROTHER.
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whitecat
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TRY TAKING UR MIND OFF SEX BY THINKING OF HOW TO MAKE MORE MONEY OR WATCH FILMS,FOOTBALL,PLAY VIDEO GAMES OR PLAY WITH UR CHILDREN, AND ALSO LOOK SMART,CLEAN AND SEXY, UR WIFE WILL BE THE ONE TO BEG, because THEY R ALWAYS ON THE MORE ROMANTIC SIDE EXCEPT IF SHE'S BEEN STRESSED UP WITH JOB OR someone IS DOING THE DIRTY JOB for you OUTSIDE, BUT GUY,don't SLEEP OUTSIDE, ABEG!
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andyluc
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mellow,
well said, guys can be selfish sometimes and they wonder why their woman turns cold. Always remember that the woman is human too and a little consideration to ease her pain goes a looooong way! Plus women want to enjoy sex too.
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neu2wealth (m)
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Nah wah!!
The homey is distressed and what does he get? All the blame!
I have checked out the posts and the pally has no consolation from the females. No one. they don't pity him, instead they chew him up and blame him.
If the complaint was from the wife, the result would have been tremendous support for the wife and the man would have been so verbally flogged that "The Passion of the Christ" would look like a romantic movie. Women are taking over guys, move over! We now have to serve them!
That said, I feel that most of the guys who gave the "sweet tips" on seducing a woman are saying so because they are either unmarried or insincere. Probe further and you'll realize that even Saduki might not stand the test of time on his art of Seduction. It's all good on a first date but how long can you hold??? Sometimes, the spontaneity and "quikies" are necessary. i wont flog this angle,
Morals, fidelity and even "christian" or "muslim" values also tend to offer some shades of grey. These put you in line by instilling fear but do not resolve the problem. Another topic for another day but food for thought anyway,
Talk?! Reasoning and "working it out". (Which by the way includes toasting, seducing, changing environment and even domesticating the "bobo"). These methods may very well go a long way and even alleviate the "problem" but usually tend to be long and medium term projects (in which case, our bobo is still "holding body"). I personally feel is the best-of-the-breed method but not completely foolproof because I have seen it irritate many women. So while we ponder and vote, our pally "still wants to do" and badly too!
So to cut all this my story, I think my guy should get his wife to open up and at least drop a hint of what may be the problem before he decides his next step, because this issue affects the marriage far deeper than can be imagined!!!
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honeric01 (m)
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No more comments lol, the guy should go take burantashi, and then dance naked before the wife after watching correct and mature hardcore
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olu-hak
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Really, i do understand how u must ve felt about ur marriage crisis, please just take time to discuss this with ur woman.
I experienced such issue and this has strengthen my sexual discipline outside my home.
As somebody suggested, u both should agree on a date that will be convenient for u guys to have sex either weekly or bi-weekly or monthly.
Olu-hak
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sylvao2000 (m)
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benben, Na wao for you ooh so if your woman none gree let you do am go get one of the fish outside and make yourself ok. if l am wrong let guys there tell me please
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finemocha (f)
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just jack off. hmm if u have a sexy body, which i doubt maybe u could have gotten naked and walk in front of her, I'm a very visual person so that works like 110 percent.
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honeric01 (m)
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just jack off. hmm if u have a sexy body, which i doubt maybe u could have gotten naked and walk in front of her, I'm a very visual person so that works like 110 percent.
Just like what i said |
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slazzy (m)
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in my own opinion maybe she's even having an affair outside and tells u stories. Women are just so selfish, they only care about themselves alone. Just talk to her about it and if she doesn't change make u carry babe come back house jare, babes plenty
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fun4me2 (f)
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please try to understand ur wife very well,effective communication could very well solve most of this issues that end up becoming a very big deal, @ seun : uhn am really impressed with ur contributions to this topic,u really gave a matured insight/explanation about d whole thing. kudos man. never knew seun could be soooo, romantic    |
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ell77 (f)
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in my own opinion maybe she's even having an affair outside and tells u stories. Women are just so selfish, they only care about themselves alone. Just talk to her about it and if she doesn't change make u carry babe come back house jare, babes plenty
Don't even listen to this nonsense. Sex is supposed to be bourne of love and procreation, not of duty, so if you choose not to have sex it is not 'because you are selfish. Just find out wot is worng. |
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honeric01 (m)
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Don't even listen to this nonsense. Sex is supposed to be bourne of love and procreation, not of duty, so if you choose not to have sex it is not 'because you are selfish. Just find out wot is worng.
If she feels so, then why is she married to the man?
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MP007 (m)
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sex what?  |
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ell77 (f)
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Don't even listen to this nonsense. Sex is supposed to be bourne of love and procreation, not of duty, so if you choose not to have sex it is not 'because you are selfish. Just find out wot is worng.
If she feels so, then why is she married to the man?
You need to be more explicit in your question, but I will explain myself more if you did not understand me (as I sure don't understand your question). When you marry someone it does not mean they MUST give you sex at all times, whether they are ill, depressed, tired or quarelling you. Otherwise it means that this person is your slave. Sex is not a duty unless you are a prostitute in which case if you are paying this person and they don't give up then they are not abiding by the agreement and that is not only selfish but corrupt. Sex is supposed to be part of romance and love or the plan to create a child this is not just something you do for your partner and for your marriage but for yourself. Even if she does not enjoy sex, perhaps she would enjoy e4xpressing her love to you physically and feel that your happiness is enjoyment enough. So if the woman doe snot want to have sex it is not becasue she is selfish since one way or another she is depriving herself also, but it just indicates that something may be wrong. And rather than give up and start blaming her try and analyse what could be so bad that she is willing to deprive herself of happiness for it. Or do you think she is so stupid that she wont understand that he could easily cheat on her if she does not have sedx with him or that he could divorce her? Of course she must have weighed up these negatives and still felt that she was incapble of doing so. So don't collect a girl like the poster said who i commented on. FIND OUT WHAT'S WRONG! |
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ell77 (f)
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If she is still married to the man she probably still loves him which means the issue can be resolved.
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chessguru (m)
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too bad, easier said than done, but then i hope i wont ever get to have a low libido she as a wife.
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eleven45
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Hey mister. Its qiute pathetic to hear a story like this. But whichever of the advise you choose just don't let her get to know that you are doing all this because you want sex or else she would capitalise on it. Although its hard but if you can 1. don't demand for it anymore, 2. Live with her as if sex between both of you really does not mean much to you. 3. Try as hard as you can to get your mind off it because the more you think about it the more you feel totured. sexually. 4. Have it in mind that it happens like that at times ladies enjoy sex but there are times they wont even give a damn. 5. Make her know and feel that you still love her. I bet you she will one day give in.
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