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Kokscity (m)
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@Timmy and Seun
My Personal Opinion is that Timmy and Seun need to move out of their parents home. They are both "Grown Men" and have all this Hate,Love and Revenge for their Folks. Listen stop whining like women, and make the move. You guys sound extremely angry,childish,immature, and you guys are out here thinking because this is a "Friendly Forum", everyone should pity u?
Kokscity recommends that you Kiss your Parents on the forehead and tell them bye. Have some glory/dignity while you are at it too.Move in with a friend,squat with a neighbor,move to the cousins,do what you got to do to get out of that environment. I think it is time to leave the Nest, Boys!!!!
But after all that said i will defer to Nairand's resident psychologist Mr Pendelite for his always prophetic views.
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timmy (m)
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Okay now i Hate you too!!  |
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Kokscity (m)
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Ha!
I am in Yankee,chiling in my crib, about to go to work, and i should be worried about Timmy hating me?O boy! Na small Pikin dey worry you. Please hate me all you want. My parents do not feed me, nor shelter me, and i love them. Maybe there is a correlation between you living under their roof and your anger level.
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alheri (f)
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hEEEEEHeeeeeee. @kokscity. I think he was just joking.
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timmy (m)
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don't mind the silly guy, he's making so much bluff about his self dependent, any tom, jick and jane can pull strings in the yankee's come and live in naija and hope it would be as easy and frenzy as you fu*king say it is, You sure stink for and advisor, go get a life dude !! |
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lexyflexy (m)
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@ Timmy, hey c'mon, take it slow, be a man, ! try make peace at all cost, aiight,
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Kokscity (m)
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@Timmy
The message is consistent from me, at least you know what you are going to get. You will be surprised how many Mummy's boys we have here in the US. They are grown and still leaving with their parents. It is not a "right" to live with your parents bro,so if you cannot hack it @ home then leave.I lived with my Uncle in PH and my Aunt in Lagos from 95-98. My parents split up, and i had to make my own decisions. Life in Nigeria is rough and i lived it. Stop making excuses like you are PMSing.You need to look hard in the mirror, and say"I am a Grown Man, I have to start acting like one" Repeat it once a day until u move out.
Kokscity is Urging males over 23 to start acting their age.
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pendelite (f)
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There are 40 year old men living with the parents, the problem comes from how you conduct your business and the living arrangements.
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timmy (m)
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Kokcity, so sad you really never had parental love and stress, so easy for you biggot coming here to yarn rubbish at me, by the way who says my parents feed me, cloth me or pay any bills, did my dad by me my car, or pay my office rent or my staff salaries or any of my bills, NO!! so what the fu*k, in africa we sometimes live in family houses, including mine, so shut up and whats that you calling your self a man , durr  in deed!! |
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lexyflexy (m)
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na wa, this one you guess are raising dust with this issue, I don't understand. Thot this post was made for the sake giving answers to questions, lets then learn to keep it at that,
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jclord (f)
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Let me add my 2 cents,
I am a mom, if Seun and Timmy were my sons I would encourage them to live at home long enough to get to the financial level they need . It is challenging starting a business. They should move out and when they can buy their first house and have gotten their business to the level they need it to get to. Many wealthy families provide their children lots of money to get started. What is wrong with helping your child get started in life?
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ijebuman (m)
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sorry to go off topic @pendelite I'm slightly confused did you have a sex change ? on other threads you were "male" now you're "female" wetin happen now ?  |
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Seun (m)
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Thank you, jclord. The problem with living with parents is their addiction to the idea of "as long as you're living under my roof". If a parent simply helps her child with free accomodation it would be a good thing. But most parents also want to bark out free orders, make free demands, give free unsolicited and unwanted advice, and impose a multitude of free restrictions on their adult children living at home. It breeds a tremendous amount of free resentment; I'D be scared to have someone feeling that kind of resentment towards me!
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Ynot (m)
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Thats the more reason you need to get your butt out of the house. You don't want to leave and at the same time you don't want to take orders from em. Out of sight will lead to out of mind. Distance creates appreciation and appreciation in-turn begets love. Most people live their life thinking that their parents own em something. They don't. Their duty to you is feed and shelter you until you can walk, talk and be able to make rational decision on your own. Anything after that is a bonus and should be of their discretion.
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Seun (m)
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You're not saying anything I don't already know. I thought we have already agreed that it's better to leave home? So why the repitition? Do you think you are talking to ignoramuses or idiots who need to have simple statements repeated over and over?  |
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pendelite (f)
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sorry to go off topic
@pendelite
I'm slightly confused did you have a sex change ? on other threads you were "male" now you're "female" wetin happen now ? Cheesy there is male in fe*male*, maybe that explains why I have one bone too many. Got an extra one. Do you want me to undergo another sex change? What's up with these observations? Seun asked the same question. maybe it's tinkering with the board, screwing things around, |
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Rhodalyn (f)
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u sometimes feel like beating up yr dad? ;)please dnt beat up da poor old man
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Grizzly (m)
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Ok now timmy, thats the wrong, wrong word 2 use: HATE. The bible says in the book of proverbs,if u be hating on your parents, the lamp of your life wull be snuffed out, ,.(Clicks tongue) U don't want that to happen, just take it easy, ok?
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Bisanke (f)
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Ah ah Timmy kilo de de? Using that exspensive word hate. Humm, *shakes head* well ogbeni instead of using the word hate 2 b sweeter u could've used the word dislike, annoy or something else than hate. Ah especially using it in a sentence 4 your parents, eh nawa o u really mean what u said.
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Seun (m)
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I know what it is like to feel exactly that way, so I'm not tormenting him over the use of that word. It just means "strongly dislike" which is normal considering the intensity of the emotions invoked in family settings.
If I say "I hate cats!" does it mean I want to kill all cats? Oh hell, no!
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Bisanke (f)
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I know what it is like to feel exactly that way, so I'm not tormenting him over the use of that word. It just means "strongly dislike" which is normal considering the intensity of the emotions invoked in family settings.
If I say "I hate cats!" does it mean I want to kill all cats? Oh hell, no!
:)Well, i know though i thought it was 2 strong of a word 2 b used towards your parents b cause no matter what they do there still gonig to b there as our parents |
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timmy (m)
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@seun, thats more like it
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timmy (m)
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whatever  , its just shows how much of their actions i can't witstand |
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Maxflame (m)
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Timmy your situation is perfectly normal. I've gone through thesame phase, so have my friends. They just feel threatened that their little boy is all grown up and will soon leave em, so they try to make you feel like your still a kid, when i found this out i totally understood how my mum felt (because she was the one giving me hell) and brushed everything aside with jokes and making everything look like play. You might want to do that before you leave em. And try going out everytime, if possible spend days bunking in your friend's before you have enough pepper to get your own. How old are you by the way? |
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jclord (f)
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Maxflame ,
Great advice. It is a good idea to spend a lot of time away from home. That will ease the tensions. that is what my older sisters did when when they lived with my parents. It worked well for them.
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Grizzly (m)
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Who started all da hating in this room? now timmy, back off ok? tot u was supposed 2 be looking for answers 2 your problem? k-city that'll do.,.,and u, yes u! don't stand there like u don't know what i was talkin about,.,.In my office, NOW!!
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Maxflame (m)
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Yeee!  |
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Kokscity (m)
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@Toronto
I think you need some sleep. U have been posting all day!!!! Make u sabi as you dey call my name bro. Take a chill pill on the posting, the website is not running away, or should i just conclude u are unemployed?
Kokscity,
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Grizzly (m)
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@ Kokscity.,.Swallow ur tongue and choke, men. i am unemployed? thats not entirely incorrect, because i'm still an undergraduate, and i been posting all day? thats because i'm browsing wid ma phone courtesy MTN! He he he!! lol
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