I "Hate" My Parents

Zuru

Please tell these people to stop trying me.

Toronto

Back up bro. Trust me i will outlast you. U are still a shadow in my eyes!!!!!!!

@Toronto

78 post in 24hrs= Jobless . I guess that gives u some "kind of record on Nairaland". Whoa, our youths really need Jobs!

Kokscity

@ kokscity
You amaze me. You've finished university and now working a desk job and feel you're king arguing with younger people? I actually felt Toronto was funny, and the idea of this forum in the first place is to have fun. So what's your problem?

let me guess you'll outlast me.

@kokcity
lolz!! wtf, u mean u are a silly as$ salary(wage) earner? and you come here forming like one bad as$ cocain lord from cocain city, loose ur job soon and lets see how much of your fast broadband net access you can get on with

 i guess at this junction ill'D love to thank all those who have given me those wonderfull words and advices,  the good news is that i've mended things with my parents and i  just got an apartment and ,most likely would be moving in two months time, a little here and there touches (the last tenant did so heavy damages befor he left geess )

Yeah right!! so easy to sound lika a adult, that you trying hard to get,  you don't come here giving me tips on how to grow, we really different, i even live a more adult life that you,

you earn, i pay  , see we are different, i have so many people down my chain,  bills and salaries that i pay off every month, while yo suck your ugly face and expact big boss to get you ur pay cheque and end of the month,  so much for a man (get to ba an enterprenurer in yankee and lets see if daddy wont be sending you pocket money soon  )

Is it me or did the dreaded kokscity just get his as$ whooped?

Just how old are ya? 60?

Even if you're 60?

@ Bettyboop, whut u mean "Man-child mentality", ?

Wutever, ,

 about your mother   ,   
Honouring one’s parents is one of the most important duties that people are obliged to do for one another, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination.

15. But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly”

[Luqmaan 31:14, 15]

Allaah enjoined keeping good company with those mushrik parents who were striving to make him join others with Allaah sShirk) – He told him to behave with them in the world kindly.

Obeying parents is obligatory for the child with regard to that which will benefit them without causing harm to the child. As for that which will not benefit them or which will cause harm to the child, there is no obligation to obey them in that case.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Ikhtiyaaraat (p. 114): A person is obliged to obey his parents so long as it does not involve sin, even if they are evildoers… This has to do with that which benefits them and does not cause harm to him. End quote.

As for shunning her, you should not do that, for she is your mother and has great rights over you. You can uphold ties with her by phone and visiting her from time to time. Seek reward by being patient with the insults and curses, etc., that you experience in these visits, seeking thereby the pleasure of Allaah.

But in order to reduce the harm and evil that results from visiting her, you can make the visits few and far between, but keep in touch with her by phone if possible, or by asking how she is. Perhaps she will need you and have some problem. If you do that, there is no sin on you, in sha Allah, if you make your visits infrequent. And do not be disobedient towards her, because – although is the one who is entitled to kind treatment from you – she does not want you to visit her and she is not asking you for that

some prayers.