I "Hate" My Parents

Timmy parents are parents, it's like they where created to make our lifes hell, but boy that ain't no way to talk about yo mama. 
She may nag and piss u off a couple of times, but hey at the end the person who truly stands up for u is yo mama.
And don't u even think about beating up your daddy, he deserves some gratitude for buying u that yellow shirt u're wearing.

Okay on a more serious note.

You should examine yourself and see if u're being a good child to them, maybe c if u're not the one causing the problem. If not have a talk with your folks let them know how they make u feel and find out what's their problem. Let them know that you're trying to improve your relationship with them.

If they don't want to listen or nothing changes, pack your bags and go find yourself a place to stay, or else u might do something u regret and we don't want that to happen now do we?

PS, I realy meant the part in bold*****

@Timmy

Does that Thank you apply to me too? I still say you should pack your load and get your own place and  you can relate with them from a better standing. It is sad that all these people here are giving you "Sissy" advice on how to relate with your parents, when they are not living with you. I say strap ur boots and bounce!!!!

Been down for a week with the flu, return to check on nairaland and find Timmy’s story in my private mail. Clicked on the link and see that it is already 4 pages long. Being a busy person whenever I am behind on a subject that is that long, I usually don’t have the time to read the previous 4 pages of Post so I usually just leave the subject alone so that my response is not useless if someone had already given the advice earlier.

I read this because just a week ago a friend of mine was thrown out of his 40 story apartment building by his son from a multi-million dollar Midtown Manhattan apartment; the man was a respected surgeon and an older friend. I just wondered if his son reached out to the world like Jimmy is doing. Which is not to suggest that jimmy is planning anything so extreme.


I read all four pages of the post to see if Jimmy gave any additional reasons and they included


So information gathered

Timmy is not a teenager going through teenage blues; he has one job, two girlfriends, three employees and limitless opportunities. He does not tell us what he did in the 90’s but tells us that it could be influencing what his parents think of him. He’s done all the right things to be called a man but he lives at home with his parents single and still very much a kid.

Solution: Timmy needs to

1.   Recognize parents are never chosen, they are not like the most fashionable shoes or bag that you change when it’s convenient.
2.   Will change status from boy to man, not when he makes enough money to act like a big boy but when he moves out of his parent’s home, gets his own and makes his own rules.
3.   Accepts whatever happened in the 90’s are his fault, apologizes to his parents for it and everyone moves on. But not while living at home.

The nature of the relationship with your parents will never change even when you move on, have your own kids and act like parents. Hating your parents is not an option once you realize that no matter what your parents are, you did not buy them and you owe your existence whatever that may be to them, creating and nurturing you. We are not like fish that lay eggs and leave them to nature.

LOL... Kokscity, you're a trip!

Dude... that's NEVER a good sign... you almost slapped your CLIENT? and a FEMALE client?? Dude... calm down man... really.

we are nigerians right, i mean come on, ur matured, u know how nigerian parents are now..how they wigg at everything no matter how small, so why complain and say they do ur head in, i know sometimes u feel like screaming but what matters is they are still bent on the fact that they love u

@ seun, tenant? hello, ur deir son, its a curse u thinking of punishing them, i know what u going through but trust me one day, u'l understand, there are people with worse situation and its kind of worth it at the end, this is a phase we all have to go through, don't tell me ur parents didnt go through it, trust me! ask them okay?

u saying ur parents do ur head in, remember what de bible says, its a curse even thinking about the fact that 'oh i hate him' i couldnt take it anymore blah blah, don't moan or anything, who cares? they love u! so ...

why do u hate your parents  ,the  carry ur trouble when u where a kid   and now   u  said u hate them 
l  love my mom and  daddy     

sorry, funty your name sounds like it's familiar.

u the last born of 5 girls?

@pendelite , tanks so much for youe cool and calm words, they have giving me a great sign and to all other who said pretty cool stuffs too, tanks y'all. I LOVE YOU ALL!! 

Well i had a discussion with my mum and it really went well, my dad  , well he's travelled now, probabaly when he come, but my mum and i got along so well over the week end, she even allowed me drive her to church ( ) she hasnt done that in 6 years,, i was freakking happy, isent her an sms today and she reply with "I love you son, no matter what!!"  now she's making me cry

I LOVE YOU TOO MUMMY

Guess ypur prayers worked, tanks

Good luck Timmy and this of the rest of us.

Nikinash, this has to do with precious moments. I had 2 friends that were very dear to me. One was like my mother's cousin son and the other was my mother's sister's husbands brother; see how convoluted. We were very close and grew apart because of distance. The first one was in the states and the other in Nigeria.

The first one went back to Nigeria and I remained in the states. I visited a couple of times and we had lots of fun. Then for about ten years we all got caught up in life's daily grind and lost all contact. I thought of them often and knew that we would hook up soon, but we were all young and had plenty of time.

Guess what? They are both dead now and we never got the opportunity to meet again, both went into politics and the rest is history, funny stories are being told about what happened to them before the elections they were expected to win.

Moral of the history, now not later is when you want to accomplish your tasks, I used to be a great procrastinator, no more, I devour opportunities. Make up with friends, relatives and even enemies. Spend quality time with your parents, children and family. You just never know, you can walk out of the door and walk into a moving truck, God Forbid,

Wow, Timmy, your case is actually more serious than mine.  I have complexes too, but mine is that I don't trust people easily, and I am not interested in being told what to do by anyone.  I am also not interested in nags, although I have no problem with dealing with people who nag me - I just tell them to shut up, and then I scream at them until they realise that I am worse than them and they run away.   

Seun when I look at the picture in your profile. I can tell the kind of person that you are 
You were brought up as a deprived child, now you are making it on our own and you are getting a bit of attitude. You will soon realise that the best things always come to nice people at which point you will realise the historical truth. Be nice to people on the way up becuase they are the one's you meet on the way down. I wish you forever rising stars but as night follows day so does life come with its ups and downs,  Words of Love Seun

Ok deey breath!

Hello Timmy when i first read your post i thought awww,  its some young kid going through same things we all had to go through with our mummies and daddies . Then like i always do before replying to any post i checked your profile and found out you are in fact 26yrs old
Now Timmy don't take this the wrong way but most of the people advicing your are really very young and one would expect people of that age to hate their parents , but its a phase and we get over it. But Timmy i am sorry but your responses and the way you come across says immature. and i feel you should probably change your attitude towards your folks and then they will begin to respect you. 26? please do some growing fast. Most people have and are goin through worse .

I had to grow up at 18yrs. I know in Nigeria it is the norm to have children stay in their parent's homes till they are financially able and that is just because as we all know the system lets down young people, however don't take for granted the fact your parents put u up. I know some people having it worse off as we speak and don't have the luxury of a computer to rant about how they hate their parent so much to anyone who would listen. I guess what i am saying Timmy is change your attitide, appreciate the little they have done for you cause i refuse to believe they are all bad , restore some faith with your folks and you will see the difference.

It's easy to appreciate your parents when you met them only at Christmas and New Year and they miss you so much.  The problem here is simply that Timmy lives with his parents and I am sure he's treated the same way a teenager is treated.  If you are 50 and you live with domineering parents, you will feel exactly the same.  There are certain situations in life that bring out the worst in us, and the situation that Timmy escribed is one of them. 

You might think you are mature and all that (I live with my parents, but I was away from home for 2 years before I came back to start Nairaland) but when you are put in a situation in which someone insists on treating you like a teenager, I can assure you that you will feel like a teenager and behave like one.  Let's not be sentimental here.  Timmy just needs a new environment and that's all.  He needs to go out on his own.  We just need to gently nudge him in that direction.  This is a friendly forum afterall.

Pendelite, the type of person I am is deep and complicated.  Too deep to be figured out by a picture taken in haste when I managed to get my hands on a digital camera.  I picture that makes my neck look thicker than it is.  First of all, I am not deprived.  At all.  Secondly, I am not yet rich enough to be arrogant, but I am proud of being able to make as much as my former classmates who are now graduates of Electronics and Electrical Engineering, despite not finishing the programme.

However, I disagree with the philosophy that good things come to nice people.  It is not true.  Good things come to successful people.  Good things can also come to people who are good at manipulating the emotions of others to suit them.  I am very nice to people when they are nice to me, but I can also be aggressive when someone asks for it.  If you ask me for trouble, I will give it to you.  That I run a forum doesn't mean I have to be nice to every asshole that logs on.

What part of what I wrote don't you agree with? 

so seun you really do feel i should get my as$ out?