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kilode se (m)
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Is it proper for a lady in a serious relationship go clubbing wtout the Guy?
i have a friend (lady) who claims to be in a serious relationship but goes clubbing (just to relax) because I am not there. One my side I don't club irrespective of any boredom or stress. I have problem wt this.
I know it cpolud be to relax but u know, there's no way some wont ask her for a dance or the likes. or am I being ,
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tlops (m)
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I don't think so.its not proper.if she really loves the guy clubbing shouldn't be the best way to ease up,especially when you don't. I know it could be to relax but u know, there's no way some wont ask her for a dance or the likes. or am I being ,
Even if a married woman of 40 with ring shoul go clubbing boys will still like to have her, so how much more, |
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Bolarge (m)
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Palaver she dey find. . . Palaver she go geti ohhhh. . .   |
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tlops (m)
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i thought I was being too old school,  |
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iice (f)
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Someone guys don't mindsome ladies just go to dance and have funentirely depends on the individual
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tlops (m)
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Someone guys don't mindsome ladies just go to dance and have funentirely depends on the individual
i don't think its good idea oh, if the 2 are planning or comtemplating marriage. there is no need to start unnecessary fire .to me, I think its better they go together. |
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iice (f)
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If you knew your woman wellknew she was a principled lady, someone with strong sense of self, someone intensely loyal, someone who is a one man woman and that woman loves you deeply and passionatelywill she even think of another guy in a club when she knows the kind of man she has back home? She's out for fun, to relax and grooveone can do that without looking at another man and thinking he's foinnne blah blah. Even if she thought he was handsomewhy would she even think of trying something with him when she got a man at home, someone who loves her like she loves him. Yes there are one-man-women out there.
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Banderas (m)
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In an ideal, mature relationship, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's immature and some external factors that be a problem. Of course, going together, or going with a group of mutual friends is always good as well.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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All of you saying its not proper for a lady. but its proper for the guy abi?
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aisha2 (f)
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I really do not even think it is an issue. If the woman likes going clubbing then by all means as long as she informs her partner about her whereabout . Abi because a woman wan marry she should not have her own way of relaxing without the man. Abeg even if i am married i will still hang out alone sometimes. Marriage or engagement is not prison, I like space and i will never hook up with a man who feels my movement should be subject to his control.
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sagacious (f)
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If she didn't go clubbing does that implies she doesn't have admirer day time,? don't let deceive each other clubbing doesn't have anything to do with messing around . Why not?
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Omo Eko (f)
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Guys are so insecure that is why they hate their ladies going clubbing. To me I don't think there is anything wrong in that, as far she notified you, there shouldn't be problem. However that does mean she has to go clubbing every weekend because its dead wrong, sooner or later a guy might final toast and steal her heart.
If you prevent your lady from going clubbing because u are afraid of her cheating on you, hmmmm trust me she will find another way to cheat.
Cheating has nothing to with going clubbing oh.
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crazykid (m)
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Guys are so insecure that is why they hate their ladies going clubbing. To me I don't think there is anything wrong in that, as far she notified you, there shouldn't be problem. However that does mean she has to go clubbing every weekend because its dead wrong, sooner or later a guy might final toast and steal her heart.
If you prevent your lady from going clubbing because u are afraid of her cheating on you, hmmmm trust me she will find another way to cheat.
Cheating has nothing to with going clubbing oh.
You're saying guys are so insecure. How would you feel if your boy friend goes clubbing without taking you along with him. He just tells you, honey, i'll be clubbing this weekend and when you ask for his invitation, he says it's ok i want to be alone. Do you think it's easy to bear? If i have a girl friend that goes clubbing at my back, that would be the end of that relationship. |
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Omo Eko (f)
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My boyfriend goes clubbing all the time and I got no problem with it.
To me going clubbing is just is more like having fun, and enjoying life to the fullest while it last.
However I will never ask my boyfriend to tag along with him to the club, because I want him to feel free by having fun and enjoying the moment. Moreover who is he coming home to after clubbing ???moi, so why allow little things like this destory a perfect relationship.
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crazykid (m)
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Suit yourself.
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Omo Eko (f)
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I sure will  , that is why we all have different tastes |
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gilgee (m)
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It all depends on the individiual. My gurl goes clubbing almost every weekend, i don't have a problem with that because i trust her. Moreso, if your lady wants to cheat on you, restricting her from clubbing wouldn't end the urge to do so. Just pray that you find a good lady who would love you thats all. Give her freedom, afterall she nobi ur beast of burden, because the more you limit her social life, the more boring you become to her!
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bebe2007 (m)
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Mature couples will have no problem with that. If he doesnt allow her to go clubbing on her own then he should get ready to follow her to work, the market/shops, school, even the loo because she might meet guys anywhere and everywhere. Being in a relationship is not bondage as far as i am concerned. You still have the right to socialize, provided you know your limits. I do go clubbing with my female friends and we just go there to dance, my man understands that, he doesnt really like clubbing so he cannot stop me, for i do not stop him from doing things he enjoys. Its all about understanding eachother.
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romeo (m)
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Why not? is she your personal property? abeg leave matter for mathias
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adeboo (f)
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Why not?
You are not joined at the hip are u?
You have to give her a breathing space otherwise u get tired of each other.
Thats where the trust issue comes in.
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idupaul
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@ poster sori to say , your girl is lose , i know her type , men even on your marriage night don't trust her, hope u have left her now, Clubbin nites can lead to any thing. @ adeboo Why not?
You are not joined at the hip are u?
You have to give her a breathing space otherwise u get tired of each other.
Thats where the trust issue comes in. you are loose .hmmm |
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michael101
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Well man,If you've got a problem with your woman clubbing,I think it's best you let her know.All now depends if she's ready to change for you or keep on with her supposed mode of relaxation.Honestly,i don't think clubbin is a way to relax.Dude,i think your woman needs you standing up to her.
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sylvex (f)
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Nope! Nope!! i totatlly disagree.
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Klemente (m)
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Well i think i can go with micheal101,but we have to take into consideration that this girl might like her boyfriend coming along with her for the outings but the guy's too much of a slacker.You can't blame her,she wants to have fun but her boyfriend isn't the type.
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gbolio4 (m)
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Why not? is she your personal property? abeg leave matter for mathias
i no fit laff |
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kalixxx1
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Saw this on Cheaters. One jobless woman that was married to a rich, handsome dude. Yet she used to go to clubbing on her own. Through the private detectives of Cheaters, we discovered that she was banging all the guys within her sight. Omo, babes harsh o.
@Poster: I have no doubt what this particular babe does in Clubs. She has been fcuking around. If its ok with you, then its ok for her to go clubbing on her on.
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Kliplemet (m)
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@ topic: DEFINATELY NOT
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dutty (m)
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@ice
u made real sense.i know a few ladies like that. bu they re very rare to come by and the are mostly all taken.
@poster
if u dnt trust her then WATS THE PIONT? because she might s well be getting a quickie evrynite she goes clubbing without u(i knw a few that do).but if u trust the lady then there's notin to be scared of. xceppt she gets to much too drink on a clubnite, and u know anytin can happen after then, trust or no trust.
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fabiyi
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iice and bebe2007 well said.
but one may not be 100% sure as anything can happen especially at night club. human tends to fall prey of circumstance.
if a guy loves a lady dearly he may not want competition. guys jealousy more than ladies is only that we have hearts to condole it and most times hearts of reterliation.
so, count ursef luky if ur man insists that u sud nt go to club alone without him or any of his confidants.
me no fit share ma woman wit any woman .hell no way. na only one face cultlass dey get .
period.
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