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ima1 (f)
He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women
« on: July 17, 2007, 07:21 AM »

He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women - What Will You Do?

okay this is for the ladies and maybe some guys,

he loves you a lot, planning on getting married, he's the kind that will not cheat, but he still has wandering eyes, when he sees a woman pass he has to look at her, what will you do, just ignore it, confront him or is just a normal male thing, they gotta look at another woman even when they have their woman by their side.

And guys why can't you keep your eyes on your woman eh!
Mandora (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #1 on: July 17, 2007, 10:40 AM »

I think your guy is just being appreciative of women which in itself is not entirely abnormal. But u shld speak about it with him n let him know you're not very comfortable with it. But don't fuss about it. He'll come around I'm sure n it's good he feels secured and comfortable enough around you to express a healthy dose of appreciation of d opposite sex around u rather than pretend n do something behind your back. I know it's tough but I think he's just being a guy. I hear d greatest talkers don't do much see it as a plus as annoying as it may be.
nosilla (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #2 on: July 17, 2007, 10:45 AM »

Men will be men!

Next time your out with him, you yourself should do the same thing by looking at other guys. See how he likes it.


nosillA xx
Bolarge (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #3 on: July 17, 2007, 11:14 AM »

 Bwahahahahahahahaha . . . . . . OMG! You ladies will not kill me with laffta on N'land in Jesus' name. I am covered by the precious blood of the lamb. Grin
 To da topic @hand.
 Na so we see am oh! Grin Sincerely speaking I've come to see that it's every guy's problem. Are u aware that u're probably with him as a consequence of a similar looong ogling stare sometime ago? Wink Grin
 I feel u ladies sha. Most have serious insecurity probs. If a babe's guy stares at another chick, she immediately believes it's bcs her own booty is not as big or doesn't roll as much, she's not as fair-skinned, her bra cup-size's nothing to write home about . . . all sorts! Women indeed are from another planet! Grin Meanwhile d guy just looked n' in many cases forgets just as soon as d stimulant is out of sight. Grin
  But guys can be really dumb sha. Please now show some respect. I was in a bus one day and happened to be sitting at the back, we then passed this stunner of a babe who was walkin down d street and boiz actually did a 180o turn and were eventually facing me at d back! Grin Shame on 'em!
 I'm not in anyway better than these folks and no girl I ever was with ever complained of such for one simple reason: "Style" I have perfected the art of scoping chicks with d eyes only,never do I engage d services of my neck muscles. So I take everything in pretty damn fast and also employ a wide angle of eye deviation while I'm sayin "Yes u're right y'know" to d one chattering away beside me. Cool Grin Grin
PHEESAYOUR (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #4 on: July 17, 2007, 11:42 AM »

Means nothing, it's a male thing
iice (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #5 on: July 17, 2007, 12:57 PM »

Look but don't stare, appreciate but don't ogle. . .
funloving (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #6 on: July 17, 2007, 01:47 PM »

He has eyes and head, right, and you know there are those things called hammer and pliers, right ?
Now you know what to do  Grin
nuttyproff (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #7 on: July 17, 2007, 04:19 PM »

relax it's just a guy thing, but if u can't stand it shoot him
Bolarge (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #8 on: July 18, 2007, 09:58 AM »

Quote from: nuttyproff on July 17, 2007, 04:19 PM
but if u can't stand it shoot him
  Shocked Shocked  Thank God for gun control laws. Cool Grin
desgiezd (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #9 on: July 18, 2007, 10:23 AM »

What to do? Pluck out his damn eyes.!! That will teach all of us lookers (I look too) some hard lesson.
sanrima (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #10 on: July 18, 2007, 10:36 AM »

talk to him about it and let him know it makes u feel uncomfortable. its just a male thing sha but it can get out of hand when he starts ogling,
Quote from: nosilla on July 17, 2007, 10:45 AM
Men will be men!

Next time your out with him, you yourself should do the same thing by looking at other guys. See how he likes it.


nosillA xx
Grin Grin Wink i like this idea sha
hamabra (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #11 on: July 18, 2007, 11:34 AM »

my sista men eye no born again they must look, but if u say he will not cheat on fine,so simply ensure that u keep him well
drrionelli (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #12 on: July 18, 2007, 11:56 AM »

Allow me to ask, if I may, of the original poster:

When you see a good-looking man, a well-built man, a well-dressed man, a man who moves confidently, a man who has a seemingly pleasant demeanor--do you not notice him?   Clearly, this is a rhetorical question, for if you didn't notice him, how else would you be aware of those attributes?   Wink

Please understand that I do not approve of leering, for it is disrespectful to all parties involved.  However, much as you will notice other men (and, admit it, you do!), he will continue to notice other women. 

It's up to you and he to determine how much this will affect your relationship.  Of course, always remember that it is you that he has chosen to be with!

nana (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #13 on: July 18, 2007, 11:59 AM »

I believe he is just admiring and appreciating God's handiwork.
aisha2 (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #14 on: July 18, 2007, 01:29 PM »

My sister I like looikng at men especially handsome men but that does not mean anything. The fact that you love someone does not make you men/woman blind. I have a fiance and he understands and he also looks at women but we respect each other and give each other much needed space. As long as he doesnt cheat i don't feel it is a problem
IBDat (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #15 on: July 18, 2007, 04:35 PM »

So what the guy can't look at other women?  Shocked
The issue is not the guy but yoslf u need to learn to feel more secure about yoslf and yo relationship.
All he's doing is admiring, i'm sure u've seen certain girls and the way they dress nowadayz, needless to mention the bustfulls.
The guy is only a red blooded human and short of plucking his eyes out, he has that right as do u and u can't say u don't look either!
trendy (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #16 on: July 18, 2007, 05:30 PM »

lol@Ibdat


@topic, i will look at other men
blue-sky (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #17 on: July 18, 2007, 05:43 PM »

as long as all he is doing is looking, then just put it down to a man thing.
If he is ogling, and doing a 180 degree turn, n lickin his lips, then tell him what he is doing, he might not know he is making it so obvious.
ima1 (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #18 on: July 18, 2007, 07:52 PM »

thanks for all your post, i don't have a problem with him looking at other women, just not in front of me, i will not disrespect him that way, i understand guys will be guys, but anyway thanks ya'll
drrionelli (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #19 on: July 18, 2007, 08:29 PM »

@ima1:
Please let me make an observation, if I may:

I have heard the saying "guys will be guys" for a very long time.  All such a  platitude does is reinforce that immature, often non-social behaviors are both expected and accepted. 

Under no circumstances should we or must we allow childish acts and words to be embraced as part of our adult lives.  It lowers the standards by which we all live and that is something that we cannot afford to do.
nuttyproff (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #20 on: July 19, 2007, 01:36 AM »

Quote from: Bolarge on July 18, 2007, 09:58 AM
Shocked Shocked Thank God for gun control laws. Cool Grin
ididnt mean it literarily, but if it works for u be my guest
Quote from: drrionelli on July 18, 2007, 08:29 PM
@ima1:
Under no circumstances should we or must we allow childish acts and words to be embraced as part of our adult lives. It lowers the standards by which we all live and that is something that we cannot afford to do.

u really need to losing up a bit and stop being a guy hater that is if u are a girl, u sound like u've been burnt by a looker in the rcent past; losing up and allow us enjoy some innocent fun, u probably do it too. don't be shy u can talk to daddy. i kno how to keep secrets
Cathian (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #21 on: July 19, 2007, 02:58 AM »

As long as he is just looking and not touching, not a big deal. 
Bolarge (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #22 on: July 20, 2007, 03:41 PM »

  See what we sometimes go through. . . Shocked Shocked Undecided
    Lord please help us. . . . Undecided Cry Cry Cry

                         Grin  Grin  Grin  Grin  Grin

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uD7EimwpQtU
McDoe (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #23 on: July 20, 2007, 04:22 PM »

Looking in this context is not lust. Every thing on earth is a sort of attraction. Birds, flowers, cars, name them. Too, every beautiful thing is created to be admired. Therefore, guys being glued to beautiful damsels is only natural, although some guys do take it to the extreme.

@ poster: Your guy still loves you, he may probably be doing that unconsciously. You may sometime confront him to redirect his focus.
RuuDie (m)
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« #24 on: July 21, 2007, 12:19 AM »

Give sm folks a yard, they take a mile. . . B'for you knw, my guy'D be doing more than just lookin. . .
2 all y'all saying "its ok". . . Lol, I laff c'os i knw everytime your spouse looks @ another, in your heart u burn. . . Its a reminder that in an inkling, your ass cld be given d boot!
Its downright disrepectfl. . .
Macgreat (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #25 on: July 21, 2007, 12:49 AM »

We all look its only a blindman that doesnt.
Me dey turn 360 when lookin  Smiley
when u look u feel alive. . . .but when u don't u æ life-less. Wink
crazykid (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #26 on: July 21, 2007, 01:22 AM »

Quote
okay this is for the ladies and maybe some guys,

he loves you alot, planning on getting married, he's the kind that will not cheat, but he still has wandering eyes, when he sees a woman pass he has to look at her, what will you do, just ignore it, confront him or is just a normal male thing, they gotta look at another woman even when they have their woman by their side.

And guys why can't you keep your eyes on your woman eh!
When girls can start dressing up decently, then guy would learn to watch the way they look.
drrionelli (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #27 on: July 21, 2007, 09:52 PM »

@nuttyproff:
With all due respect, for your edification, I am a male.  And, as such, I am concerned that those of my ilk are held to a different (and lesser) standard.  Should one day I become a father to a boy, I feel it would be an injustice to him and irresponsible of me (as well as those his life might touch) to accept the "boys will be boys" lowest common denominator mentality of upbringing. 
blue-sky (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women-what Will You Do
« #28 on: July 22, 2007, 01:10 PM »

Quote from: crazykid on July 21, 2007, 01:22 AM
When girls can start dressing up decently, then guy would learn to watch the way they look.

men have been saying this since time, so women should now wear long skirts and long sleeve tops? Even when women wear the buqa men are still eyeing them up in muslim countries. Can u not control your own eyes!
Seun (m)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women
« #29 on: July 22, 2007, 01:29 PM »

I think it's a biological instinct. It's natural for a human being to appreciate beauty. It's not necessarily harmful.
modestme
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women
« #30 on: July 22, 2007, 04:23 PM »

Ok…confession time

I can resist turning at least 90degrees to steal a glance, particularly those babes on breast show-off……….Men are in serious trouble ooooooo.  Come on daughters of eve; just flaunt it if you got it, But, hey have u guys noticed that whenever girls want to sneak a quick look, they’ll chicly involve us? It’s typical of em but its pathetic we fail to figure out their peeking tricks.

Next plz………,
finemocha (f)
Re: He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women
« #31 on: July 22, 2007, 05:21 PM »

im sure it means nothing, but i can tell my boyfriend doesnt like it when i STARE at other guys, especially when they are lookin back at me. lol i don't even try to be smooth about it. This is atlanta, there are soo many sexy african american guys here.
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