What Are The Issues You Discuss During Courtship ?

issues like family background

ur pass lover(s)

And everything good or bad that 've done

Treat each other as brother and sister and disclose things
u can't even share with ur mum

Remember that courtship isnt the same as boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.Here you hope to be heading for marriage.My advice is , Do not pretend, Let him know your likes and dislikes, your desired family size,where you both will fellowship, the location you guys desire to settle in, your future ambition and projections, relationship with inlaws and friends, finance management in the home, sharing of duties, plans for leisure etc

In my own little opinion, this is the time that all cards are on the table, be naked to your partner, everything must be put on the table.

So that if anybody  or anything crops up in the future nothing will meet him/her by shock, he or she would even laugh about it and say he/she already told me or I am already aware.

Trust is what you discuss, or how to build it, children(if you are planning to have any etc) finances , investments , work, spiritual life. foods, likes and dislikes., cleaniness.

To be honest with you, you may need to find a christian book that discuss Courtship and marriage and both of you to read it and discuss things.

In marriages, there are constant that can make or break marriages

1. communication
2.Trust
3.Finance
4.Care and attention
5. Sex without being used as bargaining tools from women in particular (sometimes some men-though more of emotional punishment with men)
6. Above all prayers to every situation

I wish every bachelors and spinsters who are on this ladder best of luck.

so what do u discuss when u guys are dating and u don't mind getting married to each other though u v started off as boy/girlfriend?

for serious minded people who know what they want for themselves,they are to plan and discuss life both in the present and future tense coupled their individual basic priority that could help boost their marrital life.Most importantly,they should endevour they are truely compatible before setting up a marriage date.Good luck to you all.

discuss any issues on this earth

altar call experience
no of kids
hw to fund the kids education
what business to do 4 more income
her menstrual period
discuss dream,visions,aspiration
discuss who will be mentors, counselors
discuss hw long to stay in a rented apartment
and pray

thank you jare. hence, for those that think getting married is child's play, remember it is an institution and its got many many departments and offices.  if you ain't ready, then chill out.

ess, can u please explain weight issues and dress sense please and how this is so relevant to courtship.

So u mean in your culture its quite okay for you to put that comment to your fiance ie hey honey do u think you will eat junkfood and get fat? do you think you will always remain as appetising as you are today?

So I take it its the norm to put these sort of questions to ones finace?

actually I should have included that a big beer gut should be satisfied with a banquet on request.

but in the topic its say the word discuss.  So when youre thinking of marryig a lady would you put it to her that she should remain sexy etc and not get fat?

yup. going on and on about a woman's weight might put her off, but when she sees your eyes going to the slim young things, then she won't need to be told. she go join gym kia kia one time. then again, no double standard o, if you want your woman to be slim and fit, you better work on your six pack abs too o. , no love handles and all that ugly pot belly. it has to go both ways now abi? 

That is really sad 

how is bros supposed to know if he can 'stay risen' if he's been keeping himself for his bride? 

Some dangling yekini's have been known to be 'strong' at other times but 'faint' at the sight of almighty Jerusalem, so bros himself may not even know.


@ topic

your life goals and dreamsare the compatible? what are you willing to compromise on?

what will you tolerate and what is completely unacceptable to you?

how many times a week do you want her to pound yam and egusi for you? 

how many shopping sprees allowed a month 

the last two are very high on my own list. 

wrappers? most women nowadays don't go anywhere near wrappers. except traditional wear, and even that one is geared towards the older women like you said. wrappers can be so unflattering. i don't even remember the last time i went near one. but come o, if you want your woman to stay sexy and whatnot after marriage, it should be a joint effort. no be say na only her go dey stay trim. don't be carrying around a bear belly and expect your wife to still be looking like halle berry. go the gym together.