Busy Girlfriend

see i got myself a busy girlfriend,
she got set in all kind of organization works in my uni,
and i felt that i got so left behind,
seeing her so busy and working that hard,  i feel that its hard for me to keep up with her,
she knows how to do this and that and i think that i should be able to do the things that she can do but i don't know how,
seeing her taking EXTRA work that she doesnt actually has to take makes me wonder why is she so willing to get so busy when she doesnt has to,

Also,  she prioritize her carrier than marriage, 
she wanted to give back the efforts that her father gave her by supporting her financialy till uni, 
when shes busy shes like a totally different person,  focusing on her work all the time, 
tell me guys,  what should i do to get rid of this feeling? the feeling of getting so left behind,

Such a girl is best referred to as "smart".  When you finally dump her - yes, you will - she will not fall apart since she has other pursuits in her life that are arguably more important than ephemeral boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.  It's a positive quality.  Maybe she's a finance minister in the making?

I don't see the relationship going anywhere, girls like that piss people off a lot. I know this because i have been to house of one, smart as a bear, but lacks family values,

I agree with you but if her drive is also obssessive, it can be a problem. why must he keep working himself overtime to meet up with her?

if obssession is her case, i suggest he runs for cover.

The basic problem is that our young man doesn't like her lifestyle.  Therefore they should separate peacefully and maybe when next they meet she will be in a position to offer him a lucrative job. 

But under no circumstances should he try to discourage or change her because such girls are rare and it's not good to deprive Nigeria of what she's going to achieve if encouraged.  if you can't keep up, drop out - no shame in that.

The only piece of advice I have to offer to you, keele, is this: Good luck, man. You'll be needing lots of it.

Shes definitely aiming high for her career,  she wanted to work hard so that the money her father had spent for her for college doesnt go to waste,  its really hard for me if shes really focusing on her career,  i love her and i really don't want this problem to disturb our relationship,   

hmm i really don't want to let her go and so does she, 
between she and me are medic students,
I'm a man who just go with the flow,  when the situation comes, then ill act accordingly,
but shes different,  shes planning so far ahead,  shes definitely not a geek,  -.- but shes planning what to do when she graduates,

my fren advised me to keep the relationship if i can,  but if i couldnt stand it anymore,  he said "you might as well break up, " T_T

You are 20? So you're both 100 level students then. Now i understand. Dude its called school fever, new students have this because they don't know whats up. Give her time to understand how the system works and she'll chill. Get a playstation 2 and keep yourself busy when you ain't studying.

Men, i have been with that kind of a lady before and believe me you don't have to be doing things extra-ordinary just to meet up to her. Thats how she is and you can't stop that. Let me tell you, for you to really get her devouted will be alot of hard-work for you and most of the time, you will be getting pissed off.
It's just like when a guy is too busy to have time for his girlfriend, the whole thing might collapse if care is not taken.
If you really want her, you have to spend alot of time with her talking to her about your relationship so that she can realise that marraige still outweigh career. Career will come and go but marraige is eternity.

if you leave her to succeed in her career first, then i tell you, you might lose her because she will be soaked up with her career to the detriment of a relationship. You still need to let her know that career is nothing compare to what marriage has to offer.
Remember that with maraige, you are going to build your own empire. What she is doing is unhealthy for your relationship(quote me anywhere)

And we need them.  They are a blessing to their generation.  Not every woman is created to be a mere baby-machine, afterall there are many babies looking for parents.

Monie, I love you for this.


Monie, I love you much more for this.  Please tell them ooo. If she is not ambitious, they would say she's a gold-digger. They would say she's with the guy because of his money, now when she's ambitious they are still complaining. MEN!!!!
I have learnt from past experiences that such visionless guys are not worth my time. Their level of thinking is too low. I have also learnt how to detect such guys before getting deeply involved. I hope the girl realises this too and be the first to dump this guy! (Sorry for being harsh)
And you know what? It's not as if the girl doesn't have time for him ooo, I'm sure she gives him much time, the guy is just feeling intimidated by the girl's ambition!

Hey! Maximum Flame, read between the lines ok? I said 'such' 'such' guys. You saw too 2 'such'es. Is 'such' a word of generalisation???

Let me twist things. It could have been MEN as in the 'MEN' Americans and American wannabes say when they exclaim, i.e. Men!!!! That's the 'men' I was saying!

i think you are a block head keele. you said you both are medic students? gosh i even taught u guy were already courting mayb u were out of school. do you know it takes to b a brilliant doctor? well thats what she is doing . i dnt want to offend you but am telling you if you guys finish school its a different game but medicine. this aint good at all. men support her like a real dude and give her all you gat i know she will appreciate that after school and her new motto will be she dnt want to f*k u up for all your suport like she says for her father. please brother support her. you guys are preparing for what you want to b in future assist her ad she will stand by you. you might not know hw much she loves u not until she get suprot from you. and study had bro cause medic aint easy am saying this out of xperience. not personaaly but family wise.support her and you will save my email to hank me later i assure u.and about bee busy if you support her she will carry u along.