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sexychica
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ive been dating this particular married man 4 about a year and a half,i love him deeply because he reallt cares about me,got tired of my single boyfriend cheating on me,this guy dotes on me we spend an immense time together and we go on luxury trips together,he spoils me silly and he gets mad when other guys try to hit on me,he said he is willing to let go whenever i find a single guy that would be serious about me and lead to marriage,he advices me,hes always there for me and ive been having the greatest sex of my life! really!,but whenever i remember hes married it hurts,because he probably doesnt realize how much i love him but i don't want to come btwn him and his wife,I'm confused i need advice,would also appreciate those with similar scenarios to comment,please no judgement,didnt plan to be in this type of relationship!
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LadyGodiva (f)
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r u stupid
he is married,
to SOMEBODY ELSE
you will always be his mistress on the side, or until you can't take it anymore, you've been mentally drained, and you sit at home everyday crying to your girlfriends about how he 'dogged you' while eating chocolate ice cream
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crazykid (m)
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What on earth is wrong with you ladies? How would you feel is some other woman falls in love with your husband?  |
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missojugo (f)
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Chika, the simple questions you should ask yourself are - Are you willing to be his second wife? Do you ever dream of getting married someday? Do you believe in nemesis? My honest advise is if you are willing to be a second wife then he is the man for you (unfortunatly you didnt mention him ever saying he even wants you as a second wife). I can't reconcile the fact that he gets mad when other guys try to hit on you and at the same time he said he is willing to let go whenever u find a single guy that would be serious about you and lead to marriage.  It sound to me like the guy is a smart guy with a plan - Acting jealous when other guys hit on you so you will feel loved and wanted and then acting understanding about you being single and wanting to get married so you wont say when he eventually dumps you, that he was the cause of you not finding a husband. How can you find a serious single guy when your sugerdaddy is always by your side glaring  at all potential toasters?  ?? If he truely loves you then he should either add you to his family or clear road for your adam. From your previous post i can see you are not dating him for the money (i hope). If you ever dream of getting your own husband all to yourself then please do yourself a favour and let the man go and look for another sex toy else were. There is more to life than great sex with a man that belongs to someone else. It might take you a while but i assure you, you will get over him. Good luck and keep me posted. |
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olanajim (m)
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I don't think it is fair to call every ladies dating a married man a husband snatcher until we get certain right. I also don't think every married man that show love to another lady, is a cheat or trying to av mistress. Until we put certain facts together, the probability of misleading people sincere case is high.
From the lady's presentation, I see a strong point. She didn't give complete presentation though. The guy may be real and i supposed he is. Why? Because he wasn't bent on having the lady. He gave her room to make a better choice. He is idealy any woman dream. His only offence is HE WAS MARRIED. But he didn't pretend about it. Personally, I am a living witness to the fact that a man can actually shower love on a lady without dating her. I am not alone. I know some guys that are better than i am. Though, i am not married, I have had to make some personal sacrifices to kept some ladies with broken heart happy. Gave advice, yet make it clear, i am not going to date them.I NEVER DID. Yet my girl would be the first to know. At least she know her man and can vouch for me. I hid nothing even an intimate text from other ladies. That is trust. Nobody is perfect but sincerity and trust is greatly required in any relationship. I just don't know why everyone generailizes just because some cassanova are having a field day banging some uncultured, and ignorance ladies.
In a matter like this, caution is the best approach. Is the guy or lady a muslim? Are they from culturally polygamous home? Is the guy interested in marrying her? Has he indicated so? What was his wife response? How old is the guy? All sensible questions need clarification before advi should be given. Take care.
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Sweet T (m)
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@Sexychica The bastard is sexing the s#!T out of your toto and his helping you to plan marriage too?? egbami o ! What has Nigeria turn to? I wonder who the unlucky guy would be. Because you will definitely cheat on him with this loser called sugar Daddy. Please give me his wife phone number, so i can get your yeye @$$ in trouble. Olosi ! onisekuse ! You should change your name from sexychica to scandalous chica |
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naijacutee (f)
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The sooner you snap out of it hun, the better. I know it's hard but it's got to be done. Somehow. It's simply not right, and nothing can justify your actions. Just genuinely make up your mind to give it up, ask God for forgiveness and you're good to go.
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ima1 (f)
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hun no man would want another man's trash, get out now n find ur own man before u get pregnant n he denies the baby, n u r left alone with no man wanting you, don't be stupid, he is MARRIED, how clear can i be hun HE IS MARRIED n will never leave his wife for you, don't be a home breaker, remember what goes around comes around.
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benit (f)
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got tired of my single boyfriend cheating on me Now, you have a MARRIED man cheating on his WIFE with you. Is that cool? he said he is willing to let go whenever i find a single guy that would be serious about me You may have to wait for a long time because serious guys study a lady they would want to marry(at least my hussy did that) and here you are soiling yourself with this man whom you have no future with. hes always there for me and ive been having the greatest sex of my life! really!, You could have that with the right one too, so don't get carried away i love him deeply but whenever i remember hes married it hurts,because he probably doesnt realize how much i love him but i don't want to come btwn him and his wife,I'm confused i need advice,would also appreciate those with similar scenarios to comment,please no judgement,didnt plan to be in this type of relationship! You have already come between him and his wife and if it hurts you, get out fast or tell him to get a divorce(which i bet he will not do) so u can go in. I am not judging you and you don't expect me to clap for you for being an unfaithful man's "spare tyre" No, you planned to be in this sorry relationship that's why you have remained in it. Well, my advice to you is that u should ADVICE yourself because I think you should be smart enough to tell what u want in life and remember not to love a married man deeply unless his wife has solicited for ur help. |
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Sweet T (m)
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@Naijacutie
Hey sweetheart, i was looking at your profile and you look good, but i wonder why you didn't look up in the picture. Are u that shy?? C'mon cutie pie keep your head up, you look good. Just my kind skin ! Where is hatfield by the way, is it in Virginia or Georgia ?
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efuah (f)
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hmm darling, please remember the adage that say:
do unto others what u want others to do
unto u.
life is a circle, n u will surely meet this kind of
angle in ur marriage life too.
run out of it for a better future.
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OhGrey (m)
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Damn I hate it when peeps come and drop their hypocritical bullshit here n xpect everyone of us to buy it. You are doing something wrong and you don't want anyone to judge you, yet you are hoping some of might be able to support you.
"ive been dating this particular married man 4 about a year and a half,i love him deeply because he reallt cares about me,got tired of my single boyfriend cheating on me,this guy dotes on me we spend an immense time together"
You say your boyfriend's cheating on you and the married guy dotes on you instead, and I ask whats the difference between the married man and your ex-boyfriend. The answer is nada because the married man is also cheating on his wife - with you, and that makes you an accomplice and maybe worse a husband snatcher.
You love him right? but maybe his wifes loves him more because even though she might know that he is cheating on her with you. she is still hanging in their hoping and praying maybe he like a prodigal son will give it all up one day and return home to her
Remember what goes around comes around some day. And any time you want to start blaming your ex for causing this or doing that. Remember you and you married friend aint any better.
Now who was it that said that forbidden fruit taste better
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uchetobi (f)
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[b]i just got a movado wristwatch that cost me roughly £1000 and my new jimmy choo stilletoes i had been craving for,that cost me £350,and my boyfriend just bought me first bank shares worth 2million bucks! isnt that d life! also expecting my diamond rock soon! yes we r getting married soon!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/b]
But on the same day you posted this on another thread, maybe I should stop responding to all this cooked up story on NL
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dot2002 (f)
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I can't help you with this, it is a sin (sorry its not me to judge i will leave that for God). but honestly it don't sound too good to me, try other interest dancing or library or young professional or student or religious singles-get-together and u will meet that mr/mrs right.
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didisky (m)
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Wonders will never cease .So u left a guy that was cheating on u and u are dating a married man ,who in turn is cheating on his wife.Baby,u need a doc |
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safoly (m)
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i think there is every need for sober reflection in life. Someone has to be positive and straight forward in life. I think you are really making a great mistake dating another persons husband. How wd u feel if you are married and someone is dating your man secretly at ur back. I think what u are practicing is adultery. Watch it and pray 2 God 2 give you ur heart-felt husband. I pray God wd give u the understanding and approach towards it. God bless. AMEN
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bellychiz (f)
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ma dear do u av conscience at all? u av dated a married for a year and ur stil happy wit yourself? do u know that wt u do any lady's husband another person will do to urs? don't u know that even if mr rit cums and discovers ur invloved wit a married man wil take off on his heels? pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease before it gets too late quit that relationship before it gets too late please. why can't oda girls be like me ? its not as if am justyfin u but believ me i av never dated a married man n wil never try it an hey i would realy like to know u better ma email adyy nellyleez_tee@yahoo.com hup to hear from u and try n put it in prayer u will see that for every lady on earth, God has a man for her. ciao |
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ettehgate (m)
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this lies, pretence, double standard will not help us ooo
so a babe falls for a married man ehenn? so what?
befor you crusify her,
let the person that have no stain of double shagging trow the first stone
and what is wrong if she becomes wifey number 2?
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9star (m)
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THE THINGS WOMEN DO, I can't SHOUT. this lies, pretence, double standard will not help us ooo
so a babe falls for a married man ehenn? so what?
befor you crusify her,
let the person that have no stain of double shagging trow the first stone
and what is wrong if she becomes wifey number 2?
@ETTEHGATE: NO WONDER U R STILL SINGLE AT 33. C UR NAME SEF ETTEH.U WILL never GET MARRIED IF U CONTINUE FUCKING another WOMANS HUSBY. |
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