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smartsoft (m)
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hey what would you do, if you get home early and found your housemaid in your bed with your spouse, what will you do at that moment ??
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kellygirl (f)
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as for me i will gently pack my bags and go back to my parents house,i will leave the girl for my husband,since am no longer good for him that he so belowed himself by sleeping with our miad.
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alheri (f)
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--- offensive post removed because it advocates violence against women (putting pepper in their ***inas) ---
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teefah (f)
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Can't even begin to imagine it. But i definately won't pack my bags or sleep with his driver. I believe there are more matured ways of dealing with this things. I will definately need to get out of the house to clear up my head and think of what to do but i will not pack my things. If she wants my man, i will not hand him over on a platter of gold.
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Paddy-Pat (m)
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Women! You all failed to ask one vital question here. What made your spouse to have something with your housemaid in the first place? Most of you usually take it for granted that your husband also need to be pampered just like you or the children at home. Most times the guy is in the midst of croud but still very lonely, you are with your children and he becomes secondary to you. You are not always around the home, you don't see him more often as when you were in courtship, those things you both used to do in those times are now outdated to you, you don't seem to know anything about him anymore, you don't care how he feels. I can go on and on but that is not an issue here.
Be a good and dutiful wife to your husband, let him sees you as that reliable partner in all angles. Does women need a housemaid? I know alot of you will castrates me for this but just wait a little. Gone are those days couple usually have large number of children, the most these days is four children which are usually spaced. So let really ask ourselves, do we really need an housemaid as a good and dutiful wife? But if you feel you need one, must she be closer to your husband than you? Must she take your place in the house except the bedroom? If she can do every other things a wife should have done, she could as well service your husband too.
So you caught them on it! If you like you could pack your bags or whatever you might have hanging in the house. But that is not the solution. Call your husband, talk to him on the danger of what he is doing to his home in relation to having an affair outside the home in the first place not to talk with a maid to his wife. Not trying to announced it to the world what he might have done. I tell you, the shame will ultimately be on you. Do you expect him to keep quite and watch you disgraced him? No he won't. So young woman be a good wife to your husband, being his friend as you used to be before the marriage and a housemaid will not take him from you.
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alheri (f)
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Paddy-pat, youve said alot and youve made alot of sence too. True about whether one needs a house help or not. I don't have a help now because Ive got only two kids i can handle things myself for now. But some people actually do need helps and that doesnt make them less dutiful. I agree that you shouldnt let youre help get too close to your husband because you'll only be asking for trouble. But that is not an excuse for a man to sleep with the help. What of men who have their sisters or their wife's sister staying with them? Is he now justified sleeping with them? Yes, a woman needs to ask herself some questions if that kind of thing happens to her. But their is no justification for cheating.
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Paddy-Pat (m)
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That is lovely to hear Adheri, I am happy that you acknowledge that you don't need a maid, you are a dutiful wife. Please don't get me wrong, I am not justifying sleeping with your wife housemaid or any other woman but there is no smoke without fire. You don't have to sex starved your husband just because you are a career woman and even neglect the home. Always be a good wife my dear sister.
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babymine (f)
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Leave my husband for my housemaid?! No way oh! I will send her back to where she came from. I and my husband will settle our scores later, but it won't be easy to 4give him.  |
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Grizzly (m)
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These dayz, wise women don't be bringing no matured girls to they houses no more, even your sistas not trustworthy. Bring little gals, n when they be gittin big boobz n wrigglin booty, You FIRE THEY A$$E$!!!
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Grizzly (m)
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These dayz, wise women don't be bringing no matured girls to they houses no more, even your sistas not trustworthy. Bring little gals, n when they be gittin big boobz n wrigglin booty, You FIRE THEY A$$E$!!!, ,lol
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Grizzly (m)
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These dayz, wise women don't be bringing no matured girls to they houses no more, even your sistas not trustworthy. Bring little gals, n when they be gittin big boobz n wrigglin booty, You FIRE THEY A$$E$!!!lol
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teju oso (f)
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the house help will not lasts for another 24hours but thjere's nothing i can do about the husband but that means i am the looser  |
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anyiam (m)
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Well for me, the first thing i will do is ask the maid to pack her things and leave and then wait for like two days before demanding for an explanation.
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flower (f)
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I would stand right there, clear my throat so that they'd know I'm there, then I'd ask the woman to leave. I will stand there while she gets dressed and escort her out. I would then let my husband know how angry I am so it'd be best if he left me alone for a few days so I won't do something completely out of character. I'd have to get my head straight before then approaching him to find a solution.  |
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olodo (m)
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i read all the contribution with a smile on my face
becoz she is an house help from the villa.abi?Good
what if the help is your own blood sister same father same mother. and your husband is rich and he says if the girl goes you are also going.
this is what is happenning on daily basis in our naija.
@paddypat gave a good contribution but we water it down with emotion an immorality stuff.
why don't you understand that a man will not be unfaithfull if all women will realise that the man they marry is not their house boy
needs proper attention.
all men has this ego thing in us. the moment a woman get married to a man the first thing she wants to do is fight the ego in the man. and in other for peace to reign the man allows the woman to have all her way.
some of the women goes around anyhow in the house thinking they have him no matter what thy need not to impress him anylonger
the man want to reassure himself that his Ego is still intact, comes home the house help is cooking his meal, ,says sir like a million times and above all madam sweetwife is not available and you are now saying he has committed an offense by sleeping with the house help.
please let take a study of all the men that you know that have been caught in these unfaithfull act (or yet to be caught) you will find out that the woman is not always AVAILABLE. In case of the men they care less for the wife because they thinks money can buy her every thing.
more to come
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windywendy (f)
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what if the help is your own blood sister same father same mother. and your husband is rich and he says if the girl goes you are also going. this is what is happenning on daily basis in our naija. and above all madam sweetwife is not available and you are now saying he has committed an offense by sleeping with the house help.
please let take a study of all the men that you know that have been caught in these unfaithfull act (or yet to be caught) you will find out that the woman is not always AVAILABLE. In case of the men they care less for the wife because they thinks money can buy her every thing.
Hmmm, seems like some people can be rich enough to buy hell into their lives , 2 women who hate eachother living in the same house both as wives to one man??? that's the recipe for misery  I take it that if the madam is not in the house with the man, then the man is not with her wherever she is (logic right?). So if being alone is the excuse for adultery, I guess madam could also commit adultery with someone else who's with her and will be justified right?? OK see, it doesn't make sense. There is no excuse for adultery. As a man, it is NOT a woman's responsible to make you do the right thing. You be man enough to do what's right for you and your family , that's a real man.  |
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Oracle (m)
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Simple,
you let her have him
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izoneb (f)
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Question!Why are we woman carefree with matured housemaids?
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windywendy (f)
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Bcos we don't the husband to go around sleeping with the maid (just like the husband won't expect the wife to go around sleeping with the houseboy)  |
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izoneb (f)
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?  But women have shame and men are dogs. |
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forgiven (m)
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Housemaid are human beings too. Simply send the housemaid packing. Let your spouse explain why it happened. Analyse it together and conclude on way forward. Whether to part ways or to forgive and forget.
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kiki (f)
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ive read all yall post some sayin i'll send d maid packin and deal with d husband trust me when stuff like this happens u will not know what to do because their will be way to many tots goin thro your head because u gon be shocked and rite then their is nothin u cannot do u can kill them or kill yourself except u know ow to handle your hanger but trust me rite their u can do anything and that is ow bad it is
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waffistyle (m)
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it is very stupid though, tthe man no get shame at all, don't think men think the way women do o please, a man can marry 10 women, he is a strong man, or polygamous, a woman sleeping with 10 men, is practising prostitution, and is looked down on. many men are still polygamous in behavior, they only marry one these days, but there are always some concubines, or mistresses somehow, at sometime, in the marriage, A man wants power, authority, a woman wants respect and dignity, na small Man take better pass dog, take it or leave it,  |
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sapphirre (f)
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look you have to ask yourself why your man is with the maid??? ???maybe you were not so good in the bedroom that he decided to try out the maid,  ;thats why i always say that what a man wants in the bedroom just give it to him he might go and find it somewhere else like at your maid,
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izoneb (f)
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@sapphirre
The man who wants to cheat will cheat not because he is not satisfied with his wife.
Its something in them so please don't sag yr life out because u want to stop him from 'eating out'.
If u have d stamina,Goodluck!
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windywendy (f)
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don't think men think the way women do o please, a man can marry 10 women, he is a strong man, or polygamous, a woman sleeping with 10 men, is practising prostitution, and is looked down on. many men are still polygamous in behavior, they only marry one these days, but there are always some concubines, or mistresses somehow, at sometime, in the marriage, A man wants power, authority, a woman wants respect and dignity, na small Man take better pass dog, take it or leave it, I LEAVE IT!!! THIS IS NOT TRUTH Your idea is totally warped Power and authority does not necessarily translate into promiscuity and sexual perversion, unless that's the way you see the world. I have a wonderful and respectable husband, and so do many many women out there, who does not have concubines, mistresses, etc. And there are many men out there who are NOT in anyway like dogs. They are human, respectable and decent, and at the same time powerful and authoritative!! Your idea is totally, totally twisted and bent out of shape |
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izoneb (f)
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Windy matters like these are generalized!
You have a wonderful and respectable husband.So do I.
Some truths must be told.When a married man exposes his "family" to another woman its not much of a big deal to him.
But I know not a lot of women will stoop as low as exposing their bodies to other men intimately because they pride their married bodies.
The dog analysis.A dog can pee in public.A man can but a woman will not.Now not everywoman too.
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windywendy (f)
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Some truths must be told.When a married man exposes his "family" to another woman its not much of a big deal to him.
This is truth I think NOT. Anyway I guess we "live" in different worlds, or perhaps your opinions have been informed by your life's experiences. But where I live, there's not a whole lot of difference statistically between the numbers of married men and women who cheat -- married men cheating with married women, married women cheating with single men, etc. But the bottomline is that it depends on the person and their moral standards or beliefs. We cannot generalize and say that men are dogs. If that's the case then God will be unjust to make a sin out of adultery, afterall it is in man's nature to cheat, and God made man, right?? . I don't believe it's a question of women taking pride in their bodies while men don't. You say you have a wonderful and respectable husband right? Do you honestly believe that he will not count it as a big deal to expose his family to another woman?? that'll be insane. What decent man won't want to protect his family from something that could potentially break it up?? |
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