Life At 30 When You're Not Married

I'm 29, even though i desire to have found my ideal man before I clock 30.

Really there are pressures left right and centre when you are still single at 30.

My advice is: Enjoy the best of it. Do not make the wrong choice all in the name of "oh I'm 30 and not married'. You can choose to be a happy single or a miserable one. Remember you have the power of choice in your hands.

Choose to be a happy 30+ single.

i guess what people in this situation feel is not really what they would have loved to feel, but thanks to the ever nosy set of nigerians who always find it hard minding their business, i wonder why, meanwhile, not that they have got a solution to the problem.
i have a 30year old unmarried friend who is so pretty and nice but would never stop worrying about her situation because of what people say, especially because most of her friends are married, that ideaology really sucks and is dead myopic, and of course i don't balme her, people around her always make sure they remind her daily of her age (am assuming she dosent know)
if a lady is 30 and not married yet, it dosent mean she wont get married, she could have lost a chance but we all always have another chance, whats the point in getting married today to please people and divorcing the next day.
moreover, its a free world, not every woman/ man wants to get married, that simple.

its not life.. its a nigerian mentality

yes vieira is rite, once a guy smells the desperation , he starts to take advantage of you because nothing more comes into their thick skulls except that!

Booty Sue,

Didnt quite understand your last post. Could you be more explicit please?

i agree with you Viera, it gets on my nerves the way the'friends' who are married ask you.. 'so who is on the line... blah blah' as if they should ask because they are lucky to be married!? No way! if you are 30 and single, Relax and enjoy yourself.. it will surely come, if you are desperate, u are more likely to make wrong decisions.

In this part of the world, it sad that people take the married status as a major achievement, it not the marriage, its life in the marriage that counts.

Most importantly, trust in the Lord, i encourage anyone in this situation to move closer to God, its not about choosing a man, its choosing the right man!
Cheers!

Motee my darling,ur own case is minimal are u de only one?   as it is 4u as a lady,so it is 4 some men,what of those already 48?my dear cheer up afterall life begings at 40. If no men out there, then there are in Nairaland.                               

Most times,the pressure comes from within.When you see your mates getting married in their 20s,you start asking yourself questions.Most times we set goals for ourselves and when we don't achieve it,it becomes so frustrating.I advise gals at 30 to remain focused and live their lives to the fullest.

rite age for a woman should be between 25-33

i wnt to get married at 26

well that woman should fight hard to get man,
be4 she be 90 years old without man.

- You don't have to be married. Sheryl Crow's 44, unmarried, highly successful and happy
- you can be married and successful and happy and childless - Robert Kiyosaki is.
- You can marry the wrong person under pressure
- The family and "friends" miht be genuinely concerned

so , my advice is live life to the fullest, enjoy yourself (and don't lose hope if you want to marry that is). remember, you all you have and will always have is NOW.

it all has to do with what we want from life and how we want it.marriage is not something to sweat about.if u rush into it,u'll rush out of it.take ur time to seek the face of the lord,because marriage nort built on Jesus Christ as the foundation will definately sink.he said none shall lack her mate.he did not say at 30 non shall lack her mate.as long as u are still a living being.if u know u want to get married or u see that u are 30 and will like to get married still keep ur heads high and don't make yourself available all in the name of marriage,keep ur integrity not just throwing yourself at any man who says he loves u.so many girls are like sex toys now to men all because of this despiration of wanting to get married.someone once said live everyday of urlife as if though it was ur last.stay connected to the naker of men.Jesus Christ the solid rock.

eeayhaa for the plight, but my question is this what happened to you when you were 25 or 26 with all those dudes or that guy around you, now am not trying to sound like an assole but this is just a comon trait that ive seen. I'm in my 30"s and ive been around and i must state also that i met some girls in my 20"s  that had all the opportunity to forge a solid and good relationship , but what did they do, the girl thing and now they are 30 and wondering what happened. My point girls in your 20"s make something out of the time you have now if you see a promising relationship hold on to it and if its not all you dream work on it don't keep thinkg you have all the time in the world cause i don't want you wondering what happened to you when you get to your 30"s.

Doesnt scare me on bit.

@malaika you said you are not unhappy, however you piece of prose do come across that way. obviously there is no fire in your union, since you have no interesting story to impart to us. believe me i am not being disrespectful, but when i reach 30, i hope i will be able to stand on the top of the world and shout " I AM A HAPPILY MARRIED MAN". i think thats what a good marriage do to people.