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laide o (f)
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Hey people, i have a problem[size=8pt][/size] i think i might be 'frigid'  , i hate being touched and i don't respond to touches from the opposite sex.i actually detest it, do i have a problem? and what do u think i should do? and no m not GAY!
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Seun (m)
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That's not surprising. You once told us about a certain painful childhood experience. But there are books about how to deal with such issues. Just try to find those books and invest in them. Wishing you the very best.
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hot-angel (f)
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Laide, i kind of think it's normal that you feel that way. Considering what your step bro did to you.
Just like you've tried to get over what he did to you, i think you should also try to get over feeling weird when a guy touches you. Or you can tell a guy friend of yours to touch you, so much, so you'll get used to it.
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Seun (m)
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If the solution to the problem is going to me that much fun, then I hereby volunteer with immediate effect. Where do I sign up and when do we resume the exploratory sessions?  |
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laide o (f)
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@hot-angel thnx fo the reply, get a guy frend to touch me , whoa thats kind of extreme, i was thinking more along the lines of therapy or sumtin, tnx seun. |
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idiot-boop (f)
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Laide
I felt your pain girl , and i am not a psychologist yet, still studying, but i strongly advice you to see a specialist in the field, a therapist , trust me there is no shame in it, and i don't know your home situation, your financial situation and indeed the state of mental care in Nigeria but please carry out some research about it and get the best help possible and if you are a christian approach someone you can trust a counsellor in the church setting to aleast talk through what ever abuse you have been through. i appreciate they may not be too forthcoming on the issue of frigidity right now as you are not married and they wont want to encourage fornication, however the issue of any abuse has to be dealt with, because i feel it may well be a root cause and as you grow you can build on what ever counselling you are able to get.
I believe you can do whatever you put your mind to we all have our demons and what separates us is how we deal with them, please don't let anything that might have happened to you rob you of a happy life, you are young concentrate on you right now and not some sort of fulfilment in a relationship, that can never fulfil a person's life it just adds to it. For now seek a trusted much older person for advice .
Take care and good luck
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evelasting
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laide all you need to do is to naked yourself infront of your boyfriend and he touchs you, you will feel happy and you wont think you are frigid. hope it works.  |
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ndumart
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Its a thing of the mind. Just psyche yourself up, believe u can feel love, don't bottle up yourself based on your past experience.
I wish u luck
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Opslag (m)
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A good therapy should do d magic.in ur case i scincerly doubt.i'mma give u my candid advice,until u take ur mind completely out of that "frigid" ideology,i'm afraid u aint going to get beta.might hurt but its d truth.
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bluespice (f)
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Laide i know exactly what u are going through  and i know how u feel when u try so hard to let yourself be "un-frigid" but u can't one advice i gladly lend my support to is to see a pshrink if u can trust someone, i believe that should help ease the pain ease i say because the memory will always be there ok this sounds very pessimisttic but u know deep down I'm in no way trying to be that good luck gurl |
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