How Hard Is It To Remain In Marriage?

haba Master, you think Marriage is an organisation, if you think it is, then thats a recipe for Disaster you are trying to create.

I don't know what it is like to be married, but I do know it takes two to make a dream come. Marriage is hard work, couples gotta to learn to respect and trust each other at all times and communicate more with each other. Most of all to give each other space, like ME time and OUR time. A lot of couples needs to work hard at their marriage rather than take the easy way out. To all the married couples out there love the one you're with.

Summarily, Its only hard when you're not willing, or worse still, both parties are not willing to make your marriage work.

hi,
it takes God 4 2 individuals from different families 2 come together and remain.one reason marriages don't last is because partners are willing 2 work at it during courtship but once married, ignore the relationship esp between them sometimes it could be to the pressures of life or entering into it in the first place 4 d wrong reasons.
i encourage all 2 work at their relationship b/c it is one beautiful gift from God 2 man and it takes a conscious hard work 2 make it work just like we hustle by all means.IT IS NOT A TRAP!!!!!!!!

@Martin007
Relax, we shall think nothing of it

Thanks Olofinjeje, its nice to know you are doing great. look Marriage is very hard, i thot i was just joking or trying to find people's opinion about marriage on this thread, but it has now dawn on me that, its a life and death issue, we are talking about here. why? Well, i got home around 11:30PM yesterday, and i saw people gathered in front of my house, i thought something bad had happened or "Men of the underworld" visited my area, but it was not the case, what happened was a man caught in the act of infidelity by his own wife(This wife, has a 3year old daughter for him and also carrying an 8month old pregnancy). How it happened, i really don't know, but the tragedy of the whole thing was that, the man was admitted to the hospital because of the injury inflicted on him by his wife. Now here is the summary of the story them say " His wife, got to know that he was going to meet a woman at a secret hide out and so she waited until the right time before going there, on getting there, she met her husband and a strange mistress on the bed together, she got mad and started hitting the so called strange mistress, sparing her husband for the main time, the husband now helped the "mistress to escape his ragging wife. The wife in her rage, took off her clothes, leaving only a bra and undies she had on and trekked from the scene of where it all happened back home(thank God it was in the evening, everywhere was a little bit dark), waiting for her "loving" husband to return, Poor guy, he did not know his wife had surprises waiting for him. As soon as he entered the house, his wife sprang on to him, "like a lion waiting on a prey" with a sharp razor blade to his face and she gave him some tiger-like trademark cut.(God saved his eyes from been affected).

Personally:
i don't know if this husband is going to stop cheating on his wife, he may stop while the wound is still on him, but i don't really know what can help such a man except God! How hard is it to stop cheating in a relationship? because i know if you start cheating your girlfriend in a relationship, its going to translate into marriage. what do you think Guys?

Olofinjeje, did you go back to that place again? or you are just chillin

How do you get to know your "TRUE LIFE PARTNER" is it going to be God revealing it to you or by instinct?

martin007 the secret of a lasting marrage is friendship and trans-parency.

RULES to LIVE BY: If you love someone, or at least committed to the marriage institution then 2 truths must be lived by:
#1- A  spouse must be willing to do and give his wife anything they ask to make them happy.
#2- The spouse should never ask for anything that can not or should not be done.

I wouldn't consider divorce no more than I'D consider eating shyt. I've simply made up my mind not to.

Of course the only exception is 1- he loses his mind and beats me, or 2- he loses his mind and molests somebody.

Short of that - Anything and EVRYTHING is forgiveable, and we'll work it out. I am determined that the spirit of divorce in my family STOPS with me. 

Who is getting married soon on here? Any Open Invitation to the house?

N:B Am still searching for Olofinjeje, has anybody seen her?

Hey, how hard is a man's privates

what are the factors? Say your mind

Am talking about the Hard Marriage man!!!!

Its good to have you back oh, i have missed you and your comments? so how is your family? hope you guys are doing great.

Martin007
I totally agree with you-society ,upbringing and religion are the silent(not always)pressure points that force most of us women to stay married.
I can tell you that just about every married woman I have spoken to complains about the same thing-the reality is that IT IS A MAN"S WORLD.

Lets say I have a friend in her 40s and the complaints are the same as when she was in her 30s.I know a woman whose husband died (extremely respected and very educated world celebrated man) about 2 years ago-upon his death she discovered  that the "cousins" that had been visiting were his children-everyone in the family knew but not the woman.
Now during this marriage of over 55 years-he refused to let her learn Yoruba,he isolated her from her family and he insisted that she remain a housewife and mother-she endured-he died and left all his money to a trust (not to his grown children or the new children).This woman is over 70 years old!!!

Another woman berates her husband for coming home after 4.30am in this dangerous Lagos,reminding him that the children at home are beginning to believe that all fathers go out at 10pm and return late and sleep in late every Saturday and Sunday morning-His response I left other married men at the venue ,so what is your problem!!!!(In short she should not nag and be thankful that he even comes home)Trust me he is considered a good husband and their's a "good marriage"

Granted women do contribute to marriage breakups but its the man that determines the real harmony.

Marriage is so hard oh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Martin007 I hope you are well?