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Man-eater (f)
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would y'all engage in casual sex. absolutely no strings attached. I'm referring to the ladies here. For guys we know u can do it without even blinking. I broke up with my boyfriend due to lack of attention and i hardly see him. Seeing him once a month because he likes globe trotting doesn't cut it for me.
so theres like this real cute hottie guy I'm planning to use as the rebound guy. Ok I'll come out and say it i mos def want to shag this dude. i don't think i can date him. its just a strong physical attraction. I want to hear what u guys thinking about seducing a guy into having casual sex. is it ok for a girl to engage in it once in a while or does it make her a slut? that means its ok for only guys to do it.
I'm a very open minded person and I'd like contributions from people who are as well.
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Seun (m)
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Beware of HIV. I heard that there's one painful STD that cannot be cured once you are infected.
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Man-eater (f)
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FYI, I always use protection, theres no compromise. And still i get tested every 6 months for HIV, thats twice a year. I know how to take care of myself and protect myself.
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Bolarge (m)
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If I was to address u as a stranger I'd say "Whatever floats your boat." This would spare me the usual attacks that trail any moral approach one might proffer.
If I was to address u as my blood sister (really wish I had one) or brother as it were, I'd say "Don't do it. Reserve such for the confines of a healthy mutually enriching, and empowering relationship (aka marriage)."
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tasiana
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Reserve such for the confines of a healthy mutually enriching, and empowering relationship (aka marriage)."
Abioooo,use to think sex is sacred or @ least is supposed to be sacred.  |
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Joey82 (m)
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@poster
Casual sex is dirty and immoral, if u have d heart 2 control yourself, please do. u never know what u're going into sometimes, until d end result shows.
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iice (f)
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If you are prepared to deal with the consequences (say you suddenly develop a serious liking, say you he gets besotted and stalks you, say he goes off the deep end if he doesn't get more than what you are prepared to give, etc). . .then whatever blows your hair back.
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alexwale (m)
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It could be fun and sweet, even sweeter than sweetner-casual sex i mean. but its dangerous,it could assassinate ones career if caution is not appropriately exercised please take caution and play save.alex
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Man-eater (f)
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Thank u all for your contributions. But am i right to think in our society today, alot of guys engage in casual sex consciously, i.e they know when going into a relationship that they will definately not end up at the altar but still go ahead to deceive and lie to young girls to get what they want. Atimes they are even in several relationships (so-called palyers).
So why is it predominantly now a serious ethical issue when it comes to a girl. And all i'm saying is here no one will be lied to. u don't have to pretend that something that isnt there is, u don't have to kiss -ass or impress this person. that way nonody feels deceived and hurt at the end. Just two consenting adults having fun.
But i guess people would rather be hypocritical and say they are in a relationship to have an excuse to have sex. i know a girl that went through 3 boyfrends in 3 months. I think she's very promiscous and was just looking for an excuse to sleep with several guys but of course technically she did nothing wrong since at each instance she was in a relationship with the person.
My point is people have sex, i',m not too proud of it but i've tasted the forbidden fruit before my wedding night. Me and a million other girls. I don't think i should be judged for wanting to have an honest and sincere relationship. If i know i'm not in love with a person and only just physically attracted to him, i think i can atleast let the person know before going any further.
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Joey82 (m)
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My dear Man-eater, whichever way u look at it, u girls are always on d receiving end. You're no longer a child & u perfectly understand what I'm talking about. So, its up 2 you to do it d way u want it. But b aware of d consequences.
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ToyinOj (m)
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You'v said it yourself. If moral ethics bite u really deep then don't just pick it up then drop it. But as i'm not high on ethics myself i'd say variety is the spice of life as it were.  |
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calf (f)
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FYI, I always use protection, theres no compromise. And still i get tested every 6 months for HIV, thats twice a year. I know how to take care of myself and protect myself.
I kind of have a feeling youre gona be sick soon. . .why would you go testing your self every six months if your not expecting anything. . .testing yourself simply means you wana know if youve contacted it yet. . .which means u are prone to contact aids soon ooooooo(If you expect nothing you don't look out for it) understand? |
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aladeyemi (m)
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Whether casual or tactical sex, you have to have it as a matter of due understanding that, ladies (girls) are always at the receiving end of everything in this life. This therefore means that, you alone would have to bear the brunt and likewise dance to the tune when the beat sounds!
I think maturity is never in age but in mind. You should be matured to deal with yourself!
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ikamefa (f)
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If you are prepared to deal with the consequences (say you suddenly develop a serious liking, say you he gets besotted and stalks you, say he goes off the deep end if he doesn't get more than what you are prepared to give, etc). . .then whatever blows your hair back.
word! my take is if you insist on going into this kind of thing , put your cards on the table let the guy know what he is getting himself into! if he is the adventurous, bold type then you have found a willing partner  but then be prepared for the consequences listed above by @iice and more |
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PTBNaija (f)
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I kind of have a feeling youre gona be sick soon. . .why would you go testing your self every six months if your not expecting anything. . .testing yourself simply means you wana know if youve contacted it yet. . .which means u are prone to contact aids soon ooooooo(If you expect nothing you don't look out for it) understand
Just because one uses protection doesn't mean that they should not get tested. Sometimes condoms don't work. . .isn't that why people get impregnated accidentally? They are not 100% fool proof (I believe its around 95%). Sometimes the pores in them can be larger then they are supposed to be allowing things to go through, and maybe the condom can break during sex. Please don't think that because you use protection nothing can happen to you, because that would be a big mistake @ Topic I don't agree with the idea of casual sex, I think it's damaging to the persons self worth, male and female. I think it's sad that there is a double standard that men can have many partners and they are "the coolest" and girls can do the same and are termed as sluts. I have a friend who doesn't shy away from the fact that she enjoys sex, but that doesn't exactly leave her with a great reputation. I know her, and know she's a wonderful person, but other people don't see that. People only judge based on stupid stereotypes. I can't see how casual sex is good for anyone. . .I don't applaud men that sleep around either. But everyone makes their own choices, just because you don't agree with it, doesn't make it wrong. As long as you are prepared for what could happen (which it looks like you are) then that's all there is to it. Just always be safe is all I can say. |
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bugado (m)
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why would you want to have casual sex abi u no like your self. girls have the right to carry condoms so put condoms in your wallet since you know how to seduce guys. man eater
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Elgaxton (m)
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I kind of have a feeling youre gona be sick soon. . .why would you go testing your self every six months if your not expecting anything. . .testing yourself simply means you wana know if youve contacted it yet. . .which means u are prone to contact aids soon ooooooo(If you expect nothing you don't look out for it) understand?
You're right men! @poster na small small them take dey go china o, hope u know casual sex is addictive |
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Gamine (f)
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Casual Sex is not good for anybody
because its a sin!!!
Sex is only allowable betwn a man and his Wife!!
evn if they havnt done the formal thingy!!!!!!!
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Caradona (f)
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Expect some Tons of insults from Self-righteous or Religious Freaks on Nairaland on this one. They will tell you, you're going to Hell, Girl be ready to be Crucified You're on your own on this one Now back @TOPIC I won't advice you to open your sacred doorway to every Loser, that comes your way just in the name of casual sex. some times, its not diseases you have to worry about, your reputation could be compromised in the process. Guys have a way of running their mouth to their Buddies about how easy a girl is. for me, I slept with three Guys and I'm tagged "a Dick runs through Her"  |
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k0be
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you have thousands, maybe millions, of university students randomly engaging in casual sex all in the name of peer influence, love, and having fun. when the Shit hits the fan they'll be the first to say "I didn't know how it happened" or "It's the devil's work" STDs are 4 real.  man-eater you're on the right path to achieving your lifelong goal of becoming a prominent slut. more grease to your already greasy mouthelbows. |
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Oke_amu (m)
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Its either good for both sexes or bad for both sexes, Not just the ladies, its something that affect us all,
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Aziza (f)
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Causal sex is not a good idea for anybody. It has the potential of creating unexpected drama. You can never tell how far it could go.
We have heard stories of people getting stalked, reputations getting destroyed, even killed because of a fling. Have you watched the movie, Derailed? What about Fatal Attraction? These movies are based on true life stories.
Before going to bed with anyone, try to date and know something about the person's background and kind of settle with yourself if person is the kind of person you would want around you in the long-term. You can never tell how deep your involvement with this guy will be.
Women are made differently from men. For us, it is so easy for us to become emotionally involved with someone we go to bed with. If you jump into sex first, you may find yourself entangled with someone that you have nothing in common when it comes to hopes, dreams, aspiration, social status, and intellectually. And sometimes, the person will not just go away. Be careful.
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ebos (m)
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@ psoter Any guy that engages in casual sex with any girl simply means that the girl too is on casual sex. The girl in question must have some another guy as her boyfriend. It takes the two opposite sex to engage in it. So, don't say that guys easily engage in casual sex as if guys meet fellow guys. Remember the last thread where a girl was searching for guys for casual sex before she could return back to US. |
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k0be
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haha mayb she dey find sugar daddy to help pay hin ticket fee. runs girls sha. |
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Zandra1 (f)
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@ poster, I don't support cheating of any kind which is obviously what this is all about though referred to as casual sex. If u were single I would tell u to be careful of diseases if u want to do it. Here in the States its called booty call and both men and women do it. I Know some ladies that do it and no one condemns them or anything cause the guys they deal with are matured enough to UNDERSTAND (so as to avoid stalking and stuff) that its casual. To me, once u and the person ure dealing with are SINGLE; the person ure dealing with understands its casual so as not to have feelings attached (but enjoys it); and ure very careful so as not to contact any diseases (which can be very scary) u can go ahead. In your case u only have one guy ure attracted to while in some instances the people involved sleep with different people almost each night. The fact that ure in a r/ship is the only problem here in my own point of view so I'll advice u to speak with your boyfriend concerning the situation he's putting u into by not being around. If he wouldnt stop which I doubt he wouldnt if he's truly in love with u u have to do something ie staying and bearing it if he isnt cheating on u while away and u two love each other (and u think u can deal with the situation)or quitting the r/ship if u think he's cheating while away or u feel deep down in your heart that your r/ship is already doomed. Would I do it, I can't say yes or no cause I don't know tomorrow but what I know is that I will try my best not to do it if am in a r/ship or married. Dont make it a habit cause there are lotsa diseases going around. Hope u get what am trying to say  . |
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lawyerchap (m)
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I kind of have a feeling youre gona be sick soon. . .why would you go testing your self every six months if your not expecting anything. . .testing yourself simply means you wana know if youve contacted it yet. . .which means u are prone to contact aids soon ooooooo(If you expect nothing you don't look out for it) understand?
@Calf Aren't you aware that the World Health Organization stipulates HIV testing every six months for every sexually active adult involved with more than one partner? So Maneater's testing is merely in compliance with WHO's directive. She sounds like she knows how to take care of herself, while you come across like one of those "it could never happen to me" types. Guess what? You're at greater risk of contacting AIDS(if you are involved in a sexual relationship with more than one partner) than Man-eater. Know why? Because her twice yearly testing will detect HIV in its earliest stage when it can be controlled with Anti-Retroviral therapy for the rest of her life, sort of like managing diabetes with insulin injections. In effect, she will never contract AIDS. But for someone who doesn't test regularly, the HIV infestation would be so far along before the first kaposi sarcomaappears and by then it's a losing battle. Better think about starting a testing regimen if you are a sexually active single. AIDS is not to be taken lightly. @Maneater Hey, you're like a breath of fresh air. Nigerians can be so sanctimonious when it comes to this matter of no strings attached sex. Everybody has at one point or another in their lives fantasised about being able to shag someone without the encumbrance of a relationship. Many have actually done it, males and females alike. But dare to mention it in so-called "polite society" and it's a death-deserving failing. While it is not the moral thing to do, we know that there are precious few of us who can rightfully and sincerely claim moral high ground. If you want to satisfy your physical urges without the attachments of a romantic involvement, by all means go ahead. Just be safe; from disease, unwanted pregnancy and the inevitable outcome of one of you (Shagger and shagee) getting hurt. I have found that it is impossible to keep it strictly physical. Someone always gets hurt. Maybe not to the extent that you would in a breakup in a real relationship, but someone always, always gets hurt. |
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mr me too (m)
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@topic
Wow the person that started this thread asked for open minded people and we've been getting a lot of the opposite. Most people have been posting comments like she said she wants to sleep with a stranger or any random dude. There are just some people you could be sexually attracted to but cannot see yourself with, thats what shes talking about here.
@Man-eater
I'm assuming u know the guy and u guys have been hanging out for sometime to know the kind of guy he is. If he's a decent guy that won't hop around town telling everyone, then go for it, more importantly if its something u think u won't regret. I don't think casual sex is a big deal like some people are making noise about here (not even because I'm a guy) just make sure he's a good guy that if your feelings for him evolves into something more he'll still be around.
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ebos (m)
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@ Zandra1
You really made some points, some are just pretending, yet they are worst at it. Is not good, I can’t do it – all na bla bla
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champredd (m)
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Casual sex destroys your soul and your inner being. Most people engage in it because they feel lonely or distant from real people. But they are never cured of their loneliness.
It can also be due to peer pressure, but its better to take responsibility for your life, nobody will face the consequences of your action for you.
Casual sex is bad for everybody, it's sexual immorality.
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k0be
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Most people engage in it because they feel lonely or distant from real people. or because they're hookers. real big time sex-crazed bitches and sluts. Casual sex is bad for everybody, it's sexual immorality. take it from me, the western world isn't so concerned with sexual morality so it's best you try another form of suasion to convince this vixen that casual sex isn't IT. |
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Gamine (f)
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Oh well Girl Act the Fool then Like u don't know its Bad 10mins of Pleasure cld assure u a lifetym of Agony Keep it Up Sleep with Anything Just as long it can satisfy |
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