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denex
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I do not support casual sex at all, though I've been engaged in one night stands when the opportunity over-presented itself. But I kept it at that. a ONE night stand.
I've not been engaged in the sort of relationship you're attempting and Personally do not recommend it.
Lastly, I will like to tell you that testing yourself regularly and using protection just provides a reasonable fraction of assurance. Your partner has to be tested too. And you know how difficult and odd it be to suggest that. But goodluck anyway.
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FemiD (m)
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maneater wrote: , I broke up with my boyfriend due to lack of attention and i hardly see him. Seeing him once a month because he likes globe trotting doesn't cut it for me.
so theres like this real cute hottie guy I'm planning to use as the rebound guy. Ok I'll come out and say it i mos def want to shag this dude. i don't think i can date him. its just a strong physical attraction. I want to hear what u guys thinking about seducing a guy into having casual sex. is it ok for a girl to engage in it once in a while or does it make her a slut? that means its ok for only guys to do it. Well, I want to first express that there seem to be a problem of semantics. The situation described above does not qualify for casual sex. It is simply a part time relationship or love affair. A casual relationship is not intended to go on with one person for so long maybe once or twice. 1. The post does not indicate that she intends having it once and calling it quits 2. I want to believe that she does not have a relationship now (after breaking up with her ex) and as such will need this guy to keep her epithelial duct active till she gets the right guy. 3. The girl has expressed some form of admiration, affection (or if you like feelings) for the dude If these inductions are well in place, then I must say you do not really deserve all the insults that has been banged around. It is a stroke of emotion and it is up to you to either control it or give it a chance. |
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tenor (m)
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he who us without sin let him/her cast the first stone! In my own words i'll say you all should remove the forest from your eyes before removing the tooth-pick in someone else's eye. Everyone just loves the exhilirating feeling of being self-righteous. Man-eater on this matter i'm not going to join the band-wagon of critics, i'm only going to advise you to use protection for your body and your heart! Cos i've had such situations were a casual/physical union turned different after the first shag! And then she wanted more! She starts talking about love!
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babyosisi (f)
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Miss man eater,now forgive my initial post and hear what I have to say,save yourself for that special someone called a spouse.
Your mother and all who truly love you, will advise you to keep away from such risky activities.
You don't necessarily have to do things because you have supporters who edge you on.
At the end of the day,it's your body.
Now something to think about
what if that regular HIV test comes out positive the next time you go to get your result?
Yes,there is a big chance you could contract HIV,syphilis,Hepatitis,HPV (and a host of other STDs),the mere fact you subject yourself to regular testings
proves you know your behaviour is risky.
Here in the states only druggies,prostitutes,those with multiple partners and people who have to undergo transfussions regularly are advised to do regular testings
If you do get that dreaded phone call,what will you do?
she'll come back to nairaland and collect our sympathies and believe me,she'll have loads of it
a word is usually enough for the wise.
I think I'm now done with this topic
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ipe
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HIV is real, it doesn't show for face. The funny part is that your first attempt can result to this incurable disease called HIV, and ones u have it that its all, no more remedy. Therefore casual sex is not a good act at all. ( ko da rara! rara!! rara!!! Ma to wo duro di asiko igbeyawo re o se losi su e.) I mean wait for your own time i.e time for your own marriage when you can make sex even for 24 hours per day if u wish.
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sweetchick (f)
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Dear Maneater,
You sound like a really smart babe who knows what she wants so I am kind of wondering why you need to hear other peoples opinion. But since you asked, here goes.
You seem to know all about protecting your body. But what about protecting your heart?
You say the guy is a friend. Is his friendship valuable to you or are you willing to lose it if you indulge in casual sex? Will your friendship survive the end of the relationship?
You have an itch to scratch at the moment. So what happens when the next itch comes up? Will you find someone else to scatch it? And the next and the next?
No matter how westernized we become, women are still different from men and we often cannot indulge in sex lightly. You may say thats double standards but its the truth.
Therefore, my advice is DON'T. Try and control your urges until you are in a committed relationship.
I don't think people in the forum are being hypocritical. They are just giving their opinions as they were asked
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abawa (m)
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morality has nothing to do with this ? take the risk its worth it afterall anything worth it is worth risking good luck i'll definately be at your' FUNERAL  |
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mimiko (f)
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why re u people talikng about HIV the author said she has tested her self and she protects herself aswell, people should chill out! but in this world when it comes to SEX between guys n gals its always a plus for the guys and a minus for the girl,
man eater i think u re just bored and u need company its ewwww to ve anything with a man u can't date ooooooo wind fit blow foul yansh ooooooo then what will u say hmmmmmmmm i didn know hmmmmmm it was not my fault hmmmmmmmm we did not plan it like that hmmmmmmmm i think am falling in love with him etc just think about it guys re fast to calling girls bicthes!
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superman (m)
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na waoooo!
babyosisi 2 harsh as usual mrs hmmmm
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lovemajek (f)
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I always tell people that there's a wide gap between making love and having sex.
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Iyke-D (m)
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You guys are still debating? I was thinking that by now Man-eater would have been through with the first phase, I mean round. . .  she can't be serious then as this debate won't end. I say "Just Do It" (Nike's copyright), what has HIV got to do with this, she just want to play catch up with the guys, no? She says she takes the HIV test every 6 months, I wonder why though as most guys don't worry about stuff like that, one test is good enough for a lifetime - we have too much to be burdened with than bi-annual HIV tests, that will slow down the fun. Guys will be guys no matter how you women want to try, why do you think we die 5 to 10 years earlier than you all? Thats the price we have to pay for the "privileges" we enjoy  |
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busybody20
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From Experience, Casual Sex is sweeter without condoms. Are you still in doubt. A trial with me will convience you!! Everyone at one stage or the other had to do 'it' directly without except we all don't want to be honest with ourselves!!!  |
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michelin89 (f)
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From Experience, Casual Sex is sweeter without condoms. Are you still in doubt. A trial with me will convience you!! Everyone at one stage or the other had to do 'it' directly without except we all don't want to be honest with ourselves!!! You read the thread very well? The poster is not an STD free patient so definitely she won't risk infecting herself by having unprotected sex with you. |
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rubie (f)
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Well, I'm not going to crucify you just because I don't fancy it. But, I tell you to sit and think about what you are about to get yourself into before you get into even bigger troubles than you can handle.  But if you've made up your mind on such, there's no amount of persuation or advice that would change it except you  . Good luck in whatever decision you make. But I sincerely PRAY that you don't make the wrong decision, because once it's done it's done and there is no going back on it. GOOD LUCK.  , PLEASE MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION, PPPPPPPPPPLLLLLLLLLLLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ. |
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nossycheek (f)
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Man-eater
Casual sex for ladies is very very sweet and good. Go on, bed a new man every other day. I just pray your condoms don't have holes and that the 99 times you will do it will not expose you to AIDS
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yewa-man (m)
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it is funny how somepple react to issue like this,
Man-eater, if you can handle it go with the flow, because
from the looks of things u want to do the fellow.
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oje (m)
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@ Sweetchick,
Well said girl, you are my kind of person.
@ topic; People will always have their entitlements.(their Openion). What matters most is how it influences yours. I would say that even though there has not been much matured talk in the house, you would have had a fair understanding of what you are dealing with.
My solution for things like this (if i were you)is to treat my mind by flushing it off all temptations to the best of my ability and as as fast as i can. The most reliable tool to use is the word of God. You will agree with me that its an inner or a spiritual issue you are dealing with and to the best of my knowledge, no physical solution will solve it. You can give it a try and see for yourself, that guy you intend shagging (if you haven't done so already)won't give you that satisfaction you desire. He might not even have the ability to make you scream, (come) mmmmmmh. then what will you do if thats the case? lets leave the issue of diseases (since it can be protected), sin or no sin (since you have committed the sin already in your heart, which we all in this forum are guilty of one time or the other) and any other consequences the holier that thou guys have said here.
I don't want to say much here because i don't think you are really serious with the topic, but if you are, i wish you all the best in whatever you do. its not new.
You are responsible for your body. USE IT WISELY.
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SylviaCozy (f)
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HELLO ALL. THIS IS ACTUALLY MY FIRST TIME HERE |
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hot chic (f)
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I don't think casual sex is in anyway good for ladies,what if you get physically attracted to a guy after marriage,will you keep sleeping with other guys or better still having extra marital affair, i think self discipline is quite important,we all get tempted but i think we should learn and discipline ourselves to resist this temptations,
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kingzy (m)
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no need for those advice because she is worse than a halot. frm her name alone. there is nothing bad in having sex partners if u want me no probs but with condom. play safe
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syrene (f)
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quite an interesting place to be |
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sylvao2000 (m)
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@poster l don't need to go through reseach to know who you are with your user name Man-eater its 100% tell the world and Nairaland user that you are a SLUT.
My only advice l have for you go to the ocean and live with the fish were you don't need to wear any cloths and do whatever you want to l tell you the result for you living in the ocean will make fish go cheap for Nigerians.
Thanks, be wise and do something good with your little life,
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michelin89 (f)
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@poster l don't need to go through reseach to know who you are with your user name Man-eater its 100% tell the world and Nairaland user that you are a SLUT.
My only advice l have for you go to the ocean and live with the fish were you don't need to wear any cloths and do whatever you want to l tell you the result for you living in the ocean will make fish go cheap for Nigerians.
Thanks, be wise and do something good with your little life,
I needn't read all your posts as well to understand that you are a 100% idiot. And all nairalanders will definitely agree with me. A dead rat is even smarter than you! |
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champredd (m)
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Illicit sex had existed for a long time before we are born. What we are seeing now is the race by this generation to beat the preceding generation in the level of craziness exhibited by them, as they have done to beat the earlier generation and on and on. Casual sex is unhealthy and that is the message (as simple as that). But people always grapple with understanding common sense.  Its human. God save our soul. |
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champredd (m)
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During the so-called sexual revolution of early 80s, a lot STIs exploded and the explosion continues. Safe sex is not always practiced as its being preached because the campaigners themselves do not practice what they preach  . And its not 100% safe otherwise there won't be cases of men using condoms "regularly" still contracting AIDS. |
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gee. (m)
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well, we all are saying things from our different point of view. casual sex, how casual is it? man eater, before embarking on your mission please, think about your GOD, REPUTATION, LIFE, YOUR MAN, THE CONSEQUENCES, ACCOMPLISHMENTS etc, etc. if a lady tries to prove smart, she sure gonn receive a wonderful reward: diseases, pregnancy, shame etc, but you got your freewill to do whatever you wann do, good luck but beware !
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dolarpo (m)
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Man Eater, wats ya number?
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Siena (m)
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Guys, Man-eater put up a post, as per the title. The answers could be either yes or no, with reasons, not insults! Calling one a harlot, slut, prostitute, public toilet etc is taking things to a completely different level. And for those who claim to believe in God, I thought only God could judge humans? It would also appear the original purpose of this thread has been lost. It couldn't get more "off topic" than it is now! Whether it's wrong, morally or otherwise, it's Man-eater's choice, and I'm pretty sure folk on here have done much worse, morally and legally, but keep them quiet. I've heard of folk being stoned to death, this isn't far off. Are the replies on here fair, well most of them anyway? Erm, no. Judgemental? Yes. Sometimes it's best to ignore a thread completely, if you feel so strongly about the contents. |
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champredd (m)
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We must always try to point the way for each other, because none of us is perfect.
Oun ti ko dara, ko dara naa ni, ko loruko meji.
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Godsgirl (f)
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I am a lady. It profits me nothing whatsover.
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