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slazzy (m)
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my honest opinion on this is that u stick to one person. Have sex with one person at a time (if u no fit hold body) so that u don't end up like those ladies who come to maury to find their babies' daddy. Moreso u could contact stds, hiv and on top of that u might just fall in love with this guy. What if your boyfriend finds out? You might just loose him because of your selfishness.
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Galadriel (f)
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Funny topic, why in the world would someone come online to search for justification of one's actions from complete strangers?  |
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MP007 (m)
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This is 2007 ,,i think its rather unfourtunate that we are stil sexist at the period of human existence, I am against any form of causal sex but ponder for a minute, sooooo GuY'S CAN DO IT BUT WOMEN CANT? geezz! sexists!, what is wromng is wrong ,
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Galadriel (f)
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I think women have been complaining about that for years, but the reality is that the society at large holds women to a higher moral standard than men in sexual issues. Why this has been so from the beginning of time beats me, but if that responsiblity was thrust upon us without our asking, maybe just maybe, we should hold on to it. Are we really losing anything?
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simply_me (f)
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d best ever - no commitment, do min do e, no problem there.
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Omo Eko (f)
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d best ever - no commitment, do min do e, no problem there.
Only ferlie will make a stupid comment like this |
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k0be
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lmao.
mp007 I understand your plight, but mind you several on here have made it a point to let us know that casual sex is a generally not-so-good idea.
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champredd (m)
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MP007:
There is nothing sexist in casual sex. I have always heard the same thing all over again and again. But, have we ever asked, who are the guys having casual sex with or who are the ladies having casual sex with.
It takes two.
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k0be
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yeah you make a very strong point. it definitely takes 2 to tango.
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tony Issey (m)
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what nonesense in this time and age of civillization omo eko good talk
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Caradona (f)
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@ TOPIC
If a guy wants to taste my Sugar walls and I'm in the mood. I'll do it discreetly this time and make him sign some documents that he would keep it quiet or I'll tell the whole World he is a crap lover just to save my face.
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luka
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Don' mind all those self-righteous people. Go ahead with it afterall your name is MAN-EATER and after you are through with it look for another guy to continue the casual sex. After all you are well protected HIV, STD's can't come near you at all and the bible says" enjoy yourself in your youth before those dismal days come when you say you don'y enjoy life" (Kai see as devil intepret bible to suit man-eater) Now that you are still in your right senses better jettison that idea before you do more harm than good to yourself. Must we extenuate reasons for wrongdoing "more than a miilion people have done it including myself before marriage" and so what with that. There comes to a point in life that you just have to acknowledge that somethings are wrong for the sake of morality and most especially before your creator GOD ALMIGHTY. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. |
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Fdeveloper (m)
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Maybe I'm missing something but to my mind casual sex doesn't necessarily mean sex with many people but rather sex with someone with whom you are not romantically involved with so all the talk about HIV and other STDs is to my mind somewhat off the mark.
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k0be
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it's not off the mark, it is a scare tactic to discourage her from acting out her intentions.
never say never though, 1 partner can turn to 2 will turn to 3 blows up into 4 then 5 spins in 5 turns to 6 still fun 6 turns to 7 niggs, and it goes on and on and on, by the time marriage comes around her sweet sensation is already wiped out she'll be looser than a poly bag.
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Fdeveloper (m)
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Point taken but perhaps if you are the sort of person who is inclined to have sex with many people then no amount of scare tactics or even marriage will change that. For me, the key thing is to discourage having a large number of sexual partners and whether they are casual or not is irrelevant.
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k0be
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it is relevant whether or not casual. it is my honest believe that only disheveled sluts sleep around inconsequentially. sex isn't a portable toy nintendo game boy - or maybe it is nowadays.
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adconline (m)
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go for it girl, men always like it when there are no strings attached. If you do not need anybody to pay your bills, why do You care whose ox is gored?
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Fdeveloper (m)
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@k0be
As I said in my view, "casual" doesn't mean "numerous" so I'm not sure your point applies in this context.
No matter how you look at it, all relationships start with a basic sexual attraction and at the end of the day sex is a basic instinct that we all have and I sometimes think that we attach far too much significance to it.
Of course, that's just my opinion
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k0be
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that's the breeding ground for the morphing of a prostitute: "Casual sex" - 1 grows to 10, then money and duties become an essential factor.
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tony Issey (m)
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its really bad
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olofinjeje
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CASUAL may not mean more than one partner for you but that does not hold for the other person.Why on earth would you share? I want undivided attention ,when,where and how.
It may appear like an easy option to scratch an itch but when the itch becomes major craw craw I hope Mr or Ms Casual is available.
But guess what? one can alway go and find another casual and another and another,
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Fdeveloper (m)
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Maybe I'm not making myself clear enough. What I understand by casual is that I'm not romantically involved with the person in that we are not living together, we don't make life altering decisions together, we certainly don't have children, we don't have future plans together etc. It doesn't mean that me and the person (and I don't mean the person, NOT many people) can't have a purely sexual relationship over a number of years and most important of all it doesn't mean we don't practise safe sex. I'm also not saying that it's something you should do if you are in a steady long term relationship.
I don't understand why everybody seems to be equating the term "casual" with having unprotected sex with many partners as that is something I certainly advocate and if we are going to use the "scratching an itch" analogy, then that can happen regardless of whether your relationship is casual or not.
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superman (m)
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i hope these nigerians runnin up in here practise what they preach. because this doesnt reflect on how yall are gettin shagged at the hotel i spent my time in Abuja last easter.
who una de fool, na superman
still me !!!
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k0be
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what sustainable satisfaction is derived from casual sex? Casual sex might be fervid to some but it is undeniably momentary and can cause an hinderance to your emotional wellness.
Promoting casual sex sends a false sense of penetrable security. Don't for once think that you're insulated from risk by using contraceptives and condoms. Casual sex promotes risky, life endangering, behavior.
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olofinjeje
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Fdeveloper-what you are describing is a relationship however informal.Casual sex can end up as this sort of relationship which a lot of people are actually engaging in.
In the strictest sense casual sex is a no strings attached itch scratching adventure!It is a given that safe sex is practised (I hope)-if not then that is dangerous sex.
There are people who have affairs on the side(marital status irrelevant) this is casual sex.Once it is one partner for a long time it becomes a relationship albeit based pure on physical gratification-romance not included.
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k0be
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yes a selfish, fleshly-motivated, itch-relieving, adventure.
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Iyke-D (m)
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Just Do It! (sorry to Nike)  - also since you are trying to be like the "guys", you need to be quick and fast as you have a lot of catching up to do, one quick one here, another quick one there. . . and you will be well on your way |
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kike001 (f)
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some guys also use girls if a girl use a guy that shows independency if i guy can do it thrn so can we so i don't think theres sumthin wong with it so fa no body is getting hurt
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babyosisi (f)
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i hope these nigerians runnin up in here practise what they preach. because this doesnt reflect on how yall are gettin shagged at the hotel i spent my time in Abuja last easter.
who una de fool, na superman
still me !!!
every city, even villages have their own share of loose women who sleep with every Emeka,Kehinde and Abdullahi  @ the poster Is there really anything one can say to change your mind from sleeping with any man you find sexually attractive or you just need a rubberstamp of your would be sexcapade from complete strangers? You have heard from both sides The ball is in your court Osanobua,this may not be a good thing to say here,we want the balls out of your court,don't we |
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ajoks009
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Girl, go for it as long as u'll play safe. There's nothing wrong with having casual sex, its just sad that its not accepted in this part of the world. However, the guys will do it over & over again without blinking an eyelid. Have all the fun u can & please don't feel guilty about it. Cheers.
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Kemjisuper (m)
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@Topic
Just because guys generally seem to engage in casual sex and maybe appear to get off easily doesn't make it right, let alone something to be emulated by the women folk. A lot of ladies like to be given equal responsibilities as men because they feel cheated by nature, but I doubt if any man would want to do vice versa.
I believe the posts here reflect the views of the public majority, it's left to you to decide what to do eventually. At least you'll have a million-and-one "I told you so" from Nairaland if you get hurt in the end.
Cheers
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nyabinghi (m)
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Dear Man-eater, No strings attached sex is not a big deal in this period. If you are based abroad, it won't be a big time issue, but if u are here in obodo naija then its something. Actually a lot of people who do it here pretend as if its a big deal but if you want the guy go for him. You could reach me on xrissonxross@yahoo.com.Ciao |
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