Casual Sex: Good Or Bad For Ladies?

Its not just about it being moral or not.



1. Its not safe,anything can happen even with protection.You can catch STD's.You can get pregnant,but the guy cannot.
2. You might get emotionally connected to the person and from casual, it will lead to something else.
3.The guy will take advantage of you

Dear all, I have taken time to read everyones contribution and would like to put certain things straight:

because i said casual sex doesnt mean i'll "sleep with anything" as alot of u have put it. This person in particular i have known for about 2 years, he's cool and smart. He is a dear friend i have always been attracted to but i know i can't date someone like hm. We have joked about it alot but we never got together.

What is wrong in hooking up with someone u are really attracted too but not expecting too much from the relationshp. I think that way no one gets hurt. I don't want to sob all day on why he didnt call me today, or he's checking out that girls arse or any of that bull crap u lovers worry about. I see it as unneccessary headache.

i get tested every 6 months for precaution. Mind u all sex is not the only way of getting HIV. My mum used to fuss alot about we girls taking our own needles to salons to fix our hair because i'm sure alot of ladies will agree with me that thers a chance of been pricked with a needle when getting ur hair done.

Even when with my boyfrend i used to use protection, i just feel better getting tested anyway. So my dear all, thank u for ur contributions.

As they say- Only God can judge me. And ladies, if ur a bit more open minded and don't kill yourself over guys alot, maybe the heartbreak rate will reduce drastically.

@Caradona
You seem to be realy grieving over the fact that the guys insulted UI guess its just a lesson to know the kind of guy you hook up with next time.Another thing could be that all 3 guys were friends and were just playing you without your knowledge.Ill say it was immature of them though.
@Nyabinghi
She didnt say she was looking for someone.She was merely asking if it was a good thing to do.The 'WHO' was never in the question so why are you giving contact details?
@Man-Eater
Well,whatever we say here is what WE think or feel.I believe people should make decisions only when they are ready to face the consequences of their actions.I'm not going to start by listing the pros and cons of something casual but everything is up to you.

All responses are subjective including this. Just follow your instincts. Life offers a lot to learn from!

maybe superman dnt know what causal sex means now. na waaooo. well i think it might turn-out suprisingly that these gals in here all having casual sex in their university where they are in nigeria, and i can assure u there are lots out there in the city

nevertheless we understand that these act is morally wrong but the fact still remaind adam keep touchin up eve when they feel like as it turns out to be a way of life

therefore everything in life is full of risks , course crossin the road you  might get knock down, yes if you swallow too much fufu with fish bone u might get strangled ha, dnt have sex before marriage yes, adam keep playin up the balls cool!i can only hope it doesnt come to the worst as u stated u get tested every six months. wonder y u do! course u likly wana see if u not positive right, now what if otherwise? god forbid

so i guess I'm justified now life is full of risk depending on the level poses to- -- as for me I'm not gona deny i never have casual sex, hmm was nice doe but me be superman we got to take chance to move nigeria forward,

we cannt afford to sit back and watch these foolish nigeria destroyin my motherland, the only one we got on the planet if u care to open your blind eyes mister, so some of yall rant here in nairaland but we are ready to take it beyond the man in the home computer

now if this sound lunatic to some of yall, I'm afraid i can only afford to be real and i make no appology to that. sorri

If you don't have any attachments, it is ok. but if u do, then we call it "BAD"

man-eater's jus doin a case study of nigerians rite ere, because as far as i'm concerned, every woman knows if she would sleep wit a guy within the first 5 mins of meetin him, !

SO GO ON MAN-EATER AND TELL HOW IT WAS,

sofily,sofily de do am oh, AIDS he dey 4 town.Remember bt song?

I wouldn't advice casual sex for the ladies as it may have serious psychological and emotional impact on them.

This is not a matter of sexism, it's just the main fact.

Our biology as women doesn't allow us to do all the things we would like to do.

The earlier we accept it, the happier and better we shall live!

@Man-eater, first I must commend you for your patience and maturity regarding many of the posts here.  At times, it seems like some of the contributors are either underage, did not even read your post at all or are simply hypocrites.

Now, my contribution, it seems clear to me that you don't intend to sleep around.  It seems clear that you want to have a sincere relationship with only one guy.  It seems clear to me that you do not want a deep relationship that involves serious emotions and commitments.  You want a relationship that is mainly physically.

Personally, I believe most of us will benefit to some extent if we tried this at least once in our lifetimes though I guess almost everyone will disagree.

I see that you are one of the few nigerians I've seent to be sincere, mature and quite open-minded.  If you were my sister, I would advise you to try it because you've displayed rare sincerity, truth and good intentions.  And that's what I respect most in people.  Good luck to all of us!

If una like make una call me anything wey una wan call me, My sister abeg nohing do you Joo. Shag the bobo die . When you finish ehn. me I dey available Oh

@maneater
You obviously gave yourself away with your username: you love sex. No need to hide under any guise just because u want to f**k a new guy.
Girl, go for it &  Protect yourself.

back to the post

It is bad for ladies 'cause our society made it so. We all frown at the thought of the process and embrace it when it comes to men.

But a lot of hypocrites have posted on this thread; mostly the females, you all do it and we know so.
That's how it's become easy for guys to ease off stress and be jolly.

Remember, it takes two to Tango. 

I am really wondering if the girls on nl are different from the every day girls we meet. All always acting like saints and all
Just thinking aloud

@ Topic
@ Poster
               You mess up! you shouldn't have asked all the peeps in here bout it, am sure with all the feedbacks and replies, be it good or bad, it must have certainly gotten u thinking and killed your Modjo. u shld have just kept Quiet about it and tactically executed your runs.  for sure there aint no SAINT IN HERE. For sure ur grown up enough to handle ur self and face consequences of ur actions.

Not good for both sexes   _{wetin sex go cause sef}

We can all start taking pot shots at each other but it won't get us anywhere.