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aisha2 (f)
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I met a guy, and the Chemistry was shocking, I have always been someone in control of my feelings but this caught me off guard.
He felt the same way and asked me for a relationship, Luckily for me though i still had some sense to check out some information on him and i discovered he ws married.
He came to see me yesterday and i told him as much as i have feelings for him I cant go out with him because he is married.
My sisters if I tell you that this is easy on me i am lying. I cant work, I cant think, for once in my life I seem to loose control of my sense of reasoning, every minute i feel like picking up the phone to call him but i will not. I am not a saint but i know the last thing i will do in my life is go out with a married man.
Please I need encouragement, Nairalanders please dont let me fall
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k0be
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what the doritos are you talking about, you already know what the right thing to do is so do it. you don't need any encouragement from us. If you pick up that phone and call that man we'd all be disappointed in you.
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Lexyhearts (f)
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my sister leave this man alone.we don want u to bcam a second wife.ey r many guys out er waiting for you.pliz don fall 4 that man.because his wife will deal w u and trust me u wil loose your teeth if she beat u  lol.anyway if i wr u i will remove and delete the man's number in your phone and u won't call him.my dear we don want u to be a second wife!!!!!! okay ? find your own true love  |
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aisha2 (f)
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Thank you so much, I know the right thing to do and am doing it, I just need encouragement because this is the first time something like this is happening to me. I just need to hear it from you people my sister leave this man alone.we don want u to bcam a second wife.ey r many guys out er waiting for you.pliz don fall 4 that man.because his wife will deal w u and trust me u wil loose your teeth if she beat u lol.anyway if i wr u i will remove and delete the man's number in your phone and u won't call him.my dear we don want u to be a second wife!!!!!! okay ? find your own true love Even if i no hear anybody i go hear your own , thank you. I cant delete his number because we partner with thier organisation, however I will get someone else to handle any meeting I will need to have with him for now till i get over it. However I will have to attend group meetings |
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Lexyhearts (f)
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@aisha2
u r now talking.u choose e great idea.keep it up.GOOD LUCK ,GOD HELP U
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kanmosyl (m)
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@poster,
Sometimes taking the right the decision is always but you'd better
take it bcus there is nothing like the right thing, right is just right.
as Nairalanders has been saying we want to come to your wedding and comfortable
not to come there and be experiencing the nagging of the first woman so plz
ja for the man.
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benit (f)
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You are a principled person and I praise you for it. I think some ladies have to learn from you
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StephenP (m)
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my sister leave this man alone.we don want u to bcam a second wife.ey r many guys out er waiting for you.pliz don fall 4 that man.because his wife will deal w u and trust me u wil loose your teeth if she beat u lol.anyway if i wr u i will remove and delete the man's number in your phone and u won't call him.my dear we don want u to be a second wife!!!!!! okay ? find your own true love ditto! |
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StephenP (m)
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I concur with you.
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Lexyhearts (f)
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okay .thats gud
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snickpick (f)
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aisha2 forget dat married man and be patient, your God-sent guy is on his way,its only a matter of time.
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aisha2 (f)
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Thanks all of you, now i know that am not alone.
God Bless all of you, You understand what i am going through. it is not as if i am desperate, this just caught me off guard.
I always control my feelings but with all the advice i recieved here i will stick to my resolve
Thanks once agian
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doncaster (m)
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Did you w*t lol
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presido1
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Did you w*t lol
meaning what please. |
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Boondoggle (m)
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@poster, Thumbs up for you for putting devil to shame!!! 'cos if to say e happen now you for say na devil work LMAO Please make this victory re-sounding and stick to both your gun and cutlass, ok? You will be glad at the end that you did not get involve. Guess what? 've had a close shave with a married woman before and I almost gave in o! It was not easy though, but I was really HAPPY with myself that I walked away at point Zero. So, keep afloat and don't allow devil to cheat you.  |
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aisha2 (f)
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Thank you all very much. I was able survive without calling him yesterday and for me the first 24 hours are usually the most critical. I believe its half over.
@Boondoggle,
thanks, usually people who have not been through this will not understand how it feels, I use to feel Ii could never happen to me but this proved to me that no human being is perfect.
they say a problem shared is half solved but now i say a problem shared is 90% solvede.
I cant say thank you enough
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arshy (m)
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@poster
I really appreciate your courage, and u sound so much like somebody that knows what she is doing.Keep it up girl! How i pray that most people would learn from u and for once go for what they really need and not just fall for anything.
U are surely a candidate for the top, meet me there!
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aisha2 (f)
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@Arshy
Thank you so much
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mi1 (m)
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Nice One Aisha.
yeah.
I wann 2 know u jus because of your principle.
Ciao
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McDoe (m)
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what the doritos are you talking about, you already know what the right thing to do is so do it. you don't need any encouragement from us. If you pick up that phone and call that man we'd all be disappointed in you.
Don't be selfish, man. It is a matter of choice. |
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abilityman (m)
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This is a very simple issue. Ask urself if u want to marry a married man and if the answer is YES, then in increase the tempo of the relationship and if the answer is no, halt the relationship.
There is no magic about it.
I wish u well in your choice
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inze (m)
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Its a good thing u've got your sense's, even after loosing control of yourself.
You are on the right track babyy.
Keep the flag flyin.
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Godsgirl (f)
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Honey, you will not fall. I went through the same thing 2 years ago. You may be surprised to find that several Christians go through the same thing. It's called a "crush." It just happened that most men crushed on in the past were married-The devil knew that I was interested in the "family" kind of guys that were ready to settle down so he tempted me. You see, the devil will always have a substitute for God's children. Unfortunately, some settle for these substitutes because they see it as "at least having something." I refused to settle and after passing a few temptations, he got tired and left me alone, only to come back with stronger temptations. I could not fight the devil's temptations on my own so all forces in Heaven was with me. The minute I declared in my heart that I could not and will not have a relationship with a married man- The war started. My reason for not wanting this was not because it does not "look" right but because I will never be able to sleep at night. When I gave my life to Christ, I literally did that: "gave" everything to him (including all my desires) I laid it all out on the alter. The Holy Spirit came to dwell in me because I invited Him.
But enough about me.
My advice to you (based on my experience) is this: Continue to earnestly seek the Lord about these feelings. If you allow yourself to be led by your flesh-you will reap decay. I know it is hard to crucify the flesh (but that is what Christ meant when He said we will have to suffer certain things.) This is what I prayed: "Lord, now you know I have had a crush on this man for some time now. unfortunately, I just realised that he is married and I know that it is against your will for me to do this. Therefore, I need your help and I need it fast!! Holy Spirit-please take control of my actions and my words and Christ do what whatever you have to do to keep our (me and the married man) paths from crossing. I am certain that I have prayed your will because it is according to your word, I thank you for answering it and I look forward to having a different outlook on this man and that he also will lose that kind of interest he has in me. I have prayed this in Christ's name. Amen!
Girl, If you believe that prayer, I have no doubt that by tomorrow, your feelings for this man will change. You just gotta mean it because God looks at the heart and cannot be mocked. I know it is hard but He knows your struggles. Don't forget to ask for more GRACE-you are going to need it. Before you know it, you will look back at your thread and laugh.
Take care and know that you are in my prayers love.
Agape!
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Lexyhearts (f)
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@ GODSGIRL AMEN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Godsgirl (f)
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Amen girl!
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aisha2 (f)
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And Amen, Thanks for the prayers. Thank you all so much you all have given me confidence.
Went for a meeting in his office today and I could not believe how calm i was, he tried to make me uncomfortable during my presentation but God gave me grace and strenght. I maintained a profesional attitude through out the meeting, he tried getting me alone but i made sure i was always surrounded by my collegue who did not know what was happening.
Thank you all you made it possible. But please keep praying for me to to completly get over this, so that i will be able to be alone with him when i have to and not feel anything because i cannot keep delegating others to go for meetings with him or making my collegue accompany me. It will seem strange
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Lexyhearts (f)
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okay aisha
we will always pray 4 u
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doyenn (m)
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It's good if you can break the bond that attract you to him as long as you dont want to go with him. it doesnt matter if he's married or not,the issue is you dont want a married person.
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Boondoggle (m)
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@poster
I really appreciate your courage, and u sound so much like somebody that knows what she is doing.Keep it up girl! How i pray that most people would learn from u and for once go for what they really need and not just fall for anything.
You are surely a candidate for the top, meet me there!
My sister, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak!!! but that is not an excuse o. We should all learn to look beyond the immediate gratification of SIN and fix out mind on the guilt that always follows it. And, also pray and ask for His grace. Goosh! IT IS NOT EASY. . .at times I feel like running out of myself!!! Even great Apostle Paul said that the good he wanted to do, he do not, but found himself doing what he did not want to do. Then he cried out "Who will deliver me from this body of SIN" but by His grace we have overcome @ godsgirl, where 've you been? Kinda like your prayer. How do you pray this kind of prayer? quietly, aloud, once, continuously, and when? anytime? |
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