Temptation

@ Godsgirl,

My dear sister, at times temptation comes suddenly and in that situation one may not even have time to remember prayer until one is flat on one's face. Can one not pray this kind of prayers in advance? I mean a kind of  prayer that will keep one from coming in contact with such tempatations. One of Jabez's prayer points - that thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me- has always been of interest to me. Maybe if one prays like this daily, temptation will not come one's way and then one will not need to fight the battle of the mind . . . . . Anyway, He has said he would not tempt us with temptation that is more than us and even in all He has already created a way of escape. So, I guess it is left for us to find that way. Hnmm! God will continue to help us all.

@ Poster,

Another way of fighting battle of the mind is to use the weapon Christ taught us when He was tempted in the wilderness after His 40days fasting - the word! Find suitable scriptures and memorize them, quote them whenever the feeling comes over you. I know it is not easy because I have been working at it for a long time and I am yet to perfect it. Always remember it is NOT possible to stop thouhgt flowing to your mind but very possible to replace thought with another thought, so be armed with scriptures to replace any thought you don't want to dwell on in your heart; that is the way to capture our thought to the obedient of Christ. 

@ Boondoggle
amen there!  I am sooooo with Paul the Apostle, but then if we weren't, we wouldn't NEED Him!

what are u people talkin abut!!!!

u people are makin this seem so big,so out of proportion,

look aisha,i feel your pain,but everyone knows ladies are not so smart

when it comes 2 matters of the heart,why is doin the right thing so hard,

just DONT BLOODY CALL HIM!!!,am sure a lot of of guys must have liked YOU,

but they had to stop calling u cos they had no chance with u,women are controlled by

their emotions and not their logic,OBVIOUSLY,give the power to your mind and

not your heart,damn!!!! stop acting like  a kid and take charge of your life like the

grown up i know u are, damn   

Thank you Godsgirl, your prayers are doing wonders. Thank you all

thumbs up girl!

im really proud of you.

Boondoggle-No one could have summed this up better!! I wish all men of God could not just blurt out scripture but use it accurately the way you do. Please Please Please, I beg you in the name of Christ, Continue teach some of our brothers on naira rules and I pray you are never swayed by the remarks of some. Continue to be yourself and speak the WORD!

like say she go talk,

she just hold una for work and una dey here dey preach for am.abegii,

aisha, I admire your resolve, cause I know sometimes its not easy.

but believe me, IT WILL PASS. no matter the intensity of the emotion, it wont last forever. The guy will probably make every effort to be alone with you, especially since he knows the attraction is mutual. If possible, dont allow the both of you to be alone in the same room together. Always make sure there's a third party present. its really not easy, but it can be done.

and like someone said, flirt with other people preferably in his presence. Nothing helps a mutual attraction cool faster than  the knowledge there's someone else in the picture who is also attractive. Some men especially find that hard to deal with ( hopefully the guy isnt also on this forum).

all the best. Hopefully you wont have any reason to regret your choices. But just consider the alternative: give in and here comes the drama of a cheating husband, enraged/vengeful/wronged/malevolent wife, baby mama  or abortion drama maybe (for you), the guy later cheating on you as well, when he feels another  "connection" to someone else, also, you meeting your own man but bypassing him because this fellow is blocking your vision, the list is endless. Count the costs: is it really worth it?

of course flings are dangerously sweet, but believe me, you'll still meet many many men who you'll also have an emotional connection with, after this one.

a lot of people actually wouldnt care if the man was married or not; they'd still go ahead and date him anyway, but she showed it bothered her, and i really respect her for that.

besides,  she's having misgivings, and that could be her intuition telling her something. Like a warning.

Look, if the emotions are too strong, u should let go, do it once or twice and free yourself instead of containing it and crying like a wimp.

Many of these people telling u not to do it have in fact done it at one point of their lives or the other, the only reason u are getting thin unanimous response saying "dont do it" is because u brought your own to a public forum to discuss.

Do the thing and free yourself or u can continue carrying it and suffering the pain when u still know that u cant fight him, if he comes right now and grabs u.

You're welcome anyday. I see u want to handle it within yourself, it can be a pain but can also be kept in with good effort. Good luck

Thanks Sulaiq. Thats real quality advice am greatful

hey swetie don't give in okay! tell your heart to just fly through the window and let the lousy crush go through the door, as for the married man send him to george bush or bill clinton u knw why? because ure not the first neigther will you be last he'll deceive there are a thousand skirts hes chasn wid all his might. goodluck

Sulaig, Thanks for your advice to Aisha. You are very wise at this subject. May God continue to keep you.

Skylower, If you have some spare time, I would like for you to read an excerpt of your post: ["Many of these people telling u not to do it have in fact done it at one point of their lives or the other"]

How does it sound to you?

Agape!

well i guess my advise is not late

the thing is that you have to view it from different point of view, sorry to bring religion here
but different religion have there own point of view. like in Islamic teaching is allow for a married man  to marry another woman to be his second wife, if you think you really love him and you will not mind to be his second wife then there is no problem, but first you have to know weather the man is serious and he mean to marry you.

 
i agree with you.

@ aisha2
But if i am in your shoes i will maintain distance with him coz emotion is difficult to control atimes.  i will make sure that we only meet in public.


May Allah help us
Ameen