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Kemjisuper (m)
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Help guys and Chics,
I need your positive opinions. I have been dating this girl for close to a year now. Though she's a bit on the wild side while I'm cool and easy going, we still somehow find companionship in between a rocky "Tom and Jerry" relationship.
Just recently, she told me she was turning over a new leaf and that she had put her wild ways behind her. But she also confessed that she used to be a Lesbian and she had two previous abortions for her former boyfriend. That shocked me because she's pretty young for that, just 20.
Well, as a true friend, I forgive her past. But somehow, I don't feel the need to continue the relationship anymore with that kind of guilt on her mind. Also, I don't know how she may feel or react if i back out. Any advice?
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Kemjisuper (m)
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Anyways, my immediate advice to myself is to date and marry a virgin! That way, there wont be any room for bad secrets from the past.
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tboy1 (m)
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Lol-maybe she was BiSexual. @ Poster am i correct? |
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Hazel-eyed (f)
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if she didn't tell u and u found out yourself,u'll say she's secretive.now she has told u and u are still saying she carrying the guilt, what then is the essence of confession and forgiveness, check yourself, haven't u done something worse before?
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mankevo (m)
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My Guy, this really serious o!
Especially as You are just a COOL easy going person. Left for rough riders i would have told them to play on but this might be too difficult for You to handle--------or watch the film B MONKEY It might help.
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delegirl (f)
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hello guy,
if u know u love her u can continue, and if u can't stay then send her away
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simply_me (f)
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so - what has that got to do with you and your relationship with her? How many women have you slept with before meeting her?
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PTBNaija (f)
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so - what has that got to do with you and your relationship with her? How many women have you slept with before meeting her?
My question exactly. Although the lesbian thingnot something you just STOP being lol.  |
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Seun (m)
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Does she want to marry you? I've heard that sometimes ladies come up with wild stories to drive men away.
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Seun (m)
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Also, it's very wrong to dump your partner for telling you the truth.
She'll never make the 'mistake' of telling the truth in her life again!
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Chidi-O (m)
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It's clear that you have lost some love for her, so just tell her and save you and her the trouble.
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Seun (m)
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If your wife confesses to a mistake she made before you got married, are you going to divorce her?
'Love' and other emotions are dependent on your way of thinking. Don't be a slave to your feelings.
The fact is that the two of you are not compatible romantically, but you should maintain your friendship forever.
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PTBNaija (f)
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Also, it's very wrong to dump your partner for telling you the truth.
She'll never make the 'mistake' of telling the truth in her life again!
I couldn't agree more with that statement. |
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Chi-babe (f)
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if u love her, please stick with her. I believe she really wants to turn a new leaf because it's not easy confessing such act.
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ayolom
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She must have summoned up so much courage to disclose such an ugly past to you
For you its a test of ao much you love her.
I wish all the best
But my candid advice is that u ensure that you are convinced of whatever decision u take.
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ne4real (f)
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I believe all that she told u were in the past
if u truely love her and since she opened up to tell u the truth, forget about it and go on with the relationship
u have to be gratefull to her she even opened up to tell u. so many women would'nt
afterall, we all have pasts or secrets, and I think even u do.
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yewa-man (m)
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Are you sure, there will be no room for anybad secerts and lies from
the past if you a 'VIRGIN'? I think Love is dependent on the ability to
Trust and Foregive.
All the Best my guy.
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yewa-man (m)
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Are you sure, there will be no room for any bad secerts and lies from
the past if you marry a 'VIRGIN'? I think Love is dependent on the ability to
Trust and Foregive.
All the Best my guy.
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fesse (f)
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@ POSTER IS NOT TRUTHFUL.
FROM HIS STATEMENT HE HAS SOMETHING ELSE IN MIND.
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Kemjisuper (m)
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If your wife confesses to a mistake she made before you got married, are you going to divorce her?
'Love' and other emotions are dependent on your way of thinking. Don't be a slave to your feelings.
Of course I won't divorce her then because it's "For better for Worse". But you agree I have a chance now we're not married yet to prevent that mistake don't you? |
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fesse (f)
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@ YEWA
I agree with you. love is all letting go. @ poster if you have a free mind towards your girlfriend, you have to let go the past and watch her turn a new life. she just opened up to you. what if she lied to you and entually you get married to her and then tell you the tryth, how will you feel. to me she is just being plain, trying to turn to good which you can help her do if you truely love and cherish her.
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k0be
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Don't continue wasting your time with this wild dumpster, it is very clear from the title of this post that her past will continue to haunt your mind. You're not head over heels in love with her, she's more of a companion to you than your lover, you can still get out now, you don't know if she has become a fruitless tree, you don't know if she's still fertile, you don't know if her womb is still alive and kicking, it's better to leave later than never. All relationships can come to an end man, you've only been together with this wild 20-year-old tiger for a year.
Think about it: she could have told you much earlier, she put you in the position to make a decision like this intentionally, she'll come to you confessing that she's changed and crap, but the reality is, it will take so much hard work to tame a wild elephant.
goodluck deciding, it's clear to me what you should do; it still doesn't stop you from remaining good friends.
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katherinae (f)
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kemjisuper
your advice to yourself is hilarious. lolol
so u don't know that girls have fooled guys into thinking that they are virgins, and it never occured to u that virgins do other things other than sex. like oral sex and anal sex and much much more. You know they found out that in haiti there was a huge number of girls under 15 with hiv. apparently these girls were performing anal sex with men so as not to be disvirgined, because they claimed to be christians.
i wish u the best of luck, but if u do have another deep conversation with your girl tell her to keep her mouth shut. You are not God so she does not need to confess her sins to u. ( i still don't understand y naija babes do that)
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fesse (f)
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@poster, i understand where you are going to. it is all about letting go. telling you the truth, definitely she has turned from bad to good. pardon and move on with, then watch her if she will go back to her formal life, by then you can decide what to do with her or may you have nothing to do with her now.
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VIC4U
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If u love her, go for her because is her past life and is before u met her and if she didn't tell u you won't know.
Who knows whether your past girl has done something like that(abortion) for u before without your concent, and one day she will confess to another man.
One of my Gfriend told me how she did such a thing without telling the guy inquestion.Though I nearly killed her, but am not the one to Judge her.
Just fellow your heart!
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ariblaze (m)
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Don't continue wasting your time with this wild dumpster, it is very clear from the title of this post that her past will continue to haunt your mind. You're not head over heels in love with her, she's more of a companion to you than your lover, you can still get out now, you don't know if she has become a fruitless tree, you don't know if she's still fertile, you don't know if her womb is still alive and kicking, it's better to leave later than never. All relationships can come to an end man, you've only been together with this wild 20-year-old tiger for a year.
Think about it: she could have told you much earlier, she put you in the position to make a decision like this intentionally, she'll come to you confessing that she's changed and crap, but the reality is, it will take so much hard work to tame a wild elephant.
goodluck deciding, it's clear to me what you should do; it still doesn't stop you from remaining good friends.
that's not a fair statement to make at 20years how many different women had you slept with? is it because your biology can't conceive ? at potser bro follow your guts you can never go wrong |
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iice (f)
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Also, it's very wrong to dump your partner for telling you the truth.
She'll never make the 'mistake' of telling the truth in her life again! Word! |
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k0be
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are some of us now advocating that it is alright to shy away from the truth if it leaves you heartbroken?
nuts! nuts! nuts! nuts!
I tell you, you'll never be happy knowing you're living a selfishly hidden lie with your man. Pick your poison.
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Kemjisuper (m)
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@ POSTER IS NOT TRUTHFUL.
FROM HIS STATEMENT HE HAS SOMETHING ELSE IN MIND.
So seeking the honest opinions of Nairalanders now translates into ulterior motives? I just need to make the right decisions that's all. |
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k0be
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ariblaze what's so unfair and infeasible about what I said? If a girl tells me about her past abortions, I'll be concerned about her ability to conceive and her health.
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