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nelyz (f)
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Been living with my elder sis since she got married two years ago. Recently her husband has been making passes at me. thought i can handle de situation, but it's getting out of hand. whenever my sis is not around, he'll try to touch my boobs, but can't succeed because i don't give him de chance. my problem is how to tell my sis this because she love him so much n wouldn't want to break her home. i took a bold step and relocate to our parents home. my parents want to know y i had to leave my sis's home, my sis's equally threatening to stop paying my school fees if i don't come bk. how do i let the cat out? need advice please.
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osereka (m)
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NO BREAK YOU SISTER'S HOME O
becous the way I read it , e be like say na you give the man green light
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Godsgirl (f)
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Good girl.  I read the entire text and I do not see anything wrong with the way you handled this situation. I would say, stay in your parents house for as long as you can. Try to avoid giving the details unless you are faced with those threatening situations (as you mentioned). If I were you, at this point I will pray for wisdom on how to handle what happens next. I would also pray that the Lord will touch the hearts of your sister and family so that they will understand. If your sister does not understand and blames you, please do not direspect her in any way (though it might be tempting), I, personally will keep quiet because I have found out that in time, everything usually will work out for my good w/o me having to defend myself.
You know your heart and so does God. This is all that matters
Agape!
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nelyz (f)
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@osereka,
what de hell ar u talking about? jeeeeeeeez can't afford to break my sis's home, that was y i ran bk to my parents home.
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nelyz (f)
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tnx godsgirl 4 de advice. will rather stay bk home than going bk to my sis's house. wouldn't let them know either.
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Oluchia (f)
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NO BREAK YOU SISTER'S HOME O
becous the way I read it , e be like say na you give the man green light
What is your proplem? If she was encouraging the man, would she have left for her parent's house and seeking for our advice on this forum? What is wrong with people? If she had stayed back, she will be accused of wanting to break her sister's home, now she has to leave the place for peace to reign, she is also being accused of 'giving the green light'. Na wa o  @ Poster My dear, You did the right thing. Godsgirl has said it all. Just pray for wisdom on how to handle the situation and God will see u Through. |
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benit (f)
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These type of things encourage randy men to continue in their acts, now we are talking about saving this mistake of a marriage. This type of man that wants to sleep with his wife's sister is not fit to be married. God help your sister!
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osereka (m)
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why come here for advice when you said you are already back with your parent eh? abi you want make we go beat that you sis husby? to me e be like say una don de shag sef. maybe na the guy no wan do again!  |
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nelyz (f)
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osereka, probably that's what u engage in, 'aint stoop so low to date my sis's husband. aren't other single guys out there?
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kellorah (f)
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Seriously, i think you should tell your sister, or else, your brother-in-law will end up lying to her and putting the blame on you.
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lovemajek (f)
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Kellorah you are right.
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Oluchia (f)
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@Osereka Didn't you read her post? Been living with my elder sis since she got married two years ago. Recently her husband has been making passes at me. thought i can handle de situation, but it's getting out of hand. whenever my sis is not around, he'll try to touch my boobs, but can't succeed because i don't give him de chance. my problem is how to tell my sis this because she love him so much n wouldn't want to break her home. i took a bold step and relocate to our parents home. my parents want to know y i had to leave my sis's home, my sis's equally threatening to stop paying my school fees if i don't come bk. how do i let the cat out? need advice please[/size][size=8pt]. That is why she is asking for our advice, so if you have one give her and stop accusing her okay? |
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I-man (m)
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NO BREAK YOU SISTER'S HOME O
becous the way I read it , e be like say na you give the man green light
You are an idiot! |
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deezzle (m)
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@nelyz,
you are a girl with moral values. i know a babe that was in your situation and eventually got pregnant for the bastard who her sis got married to. u have made a good move and watever u do, DO NOT tell your mum or Sis. I will advice though that u tell your dad. see, u know women, no matter what your sister will not leave her hubby and it could cause an eternal fracas between u two.
As for u Osereka, u should always think before u post, thats what that thing in your head is for. the situation is bad enough, did u have to send that nonsense??? Haba! Pity the babe now.
Nelyz, please think about it this way, your sister does not have enough reason to say she wont pay your fees just because u are not living with her anymore, unless u have hinted that there is somn worng. I am sure your Dad will use his wisdom in convincing her not to make such a decission but DO NOT tell her.
All the best
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nelyz (f)
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@deezzle
thank u so much for your advice. but how do i tell my dad, should i tell him everything? still need your advice on this.
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omoge (f)
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Leave That House. Move out of there okay.
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abanna (f)
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hi,
my opinion-
u better tell either your dad or mom.i think i prefer your dad n don't stop there insist they warn him seriously if possibly, openly because if e happen, na u get 100 % blame n nobody go remember say u innocent i tell u even ya mama go see u as outcast.most men have no shame.call him and warn him as wll sternly with threat.But i hope u were not seducing him with your dressing sha.
most Nigeria guys are sick upstairs n at d end of day, na devil go take the blame.
abeg no shame/hide tell important persons in your family and insist he is rebuked.once he knows it is public, e no go misbehave.
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deezzle (m)
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well, i am sure u can seive through all tha's being sent to u. Please watever u do, do not make it open. ask your dad to talk to him firmly. Am sure he will know what to do.
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lovemajek (f)
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tell your dad say your sister husband want to nack you, and you don't know if you should do it or not, ashawo
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Janeesa (f)
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this the kind of shit i'm talkin about wit nigerian people.the girls sisters husband is touching her and makin passes and most of all are saying "keep quite" or "don't break your sister's home" keep quiet FOR WHAT? if what he is doin is wrong then he needs to be put in check, i don't get it at all.its like what happened wit my sister:my aunts husband was touching her and no one wanted to see the truth, everyone wanted to protect him just b/c of their kids,Fcuk that, what is wrong is WRONG, ANYWAY if the guy is doing something wrong tell your sister b/c chances are this guy isnt the right guy for her if hes makin passes at you ---HIS WIFE'S OWN SISTER!
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Oluchia (f)
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You are an idiot!
tell your dad say your sister husband want to nack you, and you don't know if you should do it or not, ashawo
A bigger Idiot! |
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replenish (f)
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this girl is just asking for our advice. well i will say you should definately tell your parents. ther is no point in covering the son of a bitch
and to all of you that has been calling the poor girl ashawo; you are all bigger ashawo. uhm i know your types.
biggest idiots
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simply_me (f)
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i swear you're lying -
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wendymanda
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Well this is a very delicate situation. I myself am not sure how I would tell my parents, but you do have to tell someone. If that idiot man tried it with you who knows how many willing girls are out their. Since they are newly weds who knows if your sister will even believe. All these is probably what is hindering you from letting it know. I wish you had punched him seriously and so if someone asks you have evidence of defending yourself when he tried to feel on you.
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lovemajek (f)
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A bigger Idiot!
what is Idiot?, is it person who in yash dirty. |
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Zandra1 (f)
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Janeesa, am as shocked as u are. Its like u took the words right out of mouth. I quite don't understand the bull about breaking "a home" when the dunderhead in the form of a husband already did. The fact that he does this to u means that he's prolly doing worse outside and someone is yapping of breaking a home. Which home if I may ask? your sister loves him and deserves someone that loves her more and not a fool. I hope your sister doesnt get STD's or HIV before u tell 'er. Tell her, tell your parents, and all your grown siblings if ure a close knit family and get her out of there before he gives her the death sentence, HIV. Coming on to other women means that your sister is married to an animal but coming on to u means that your sister is married to a monster.
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lovemajek (f)
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take it easy on the husband maybe the she gave the man some sign too.
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wendymanda
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If she gave the man some sign why would she come here and ask for advice. Also if she did indeed give the man some sign that still does not make him less of an monsterous idiot for not staying true to his wife and not trying to start an affair with his sister in law at that.
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mazaje (m)
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why are we just to cynical, the girl just came to share her problem and seek advice because they say a problem shared is a problem half solved and instead of listening objectively to her some people are trying to make her the culprit, what nonsense is all this, the man(her sister's husband) needs to be seriously chided and berated to get his acts together and stop molesting her.
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Lagos Bobo (m)
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You guys should learn to read between the lines. I totally agree completely with Osereka. No normal guy would continue to makes such moves at her without some sort of direct or indirect approval from the poster.
So don't gimme that nonsense. The poster herself is no angel. I wish we could hear the man's side of the story. Some of y'all are forgetting that there are TWO sides to every story and we've only heard from one side.
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ufobabe (f)
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girl here is your family OK. feel free 2 share your problems because similar thing had happened 2 me as well.
u did well by leaving your sisters house and if she wouldn't understand that she stop paying your school fees. don't worry God will pay it for you.u are making unknown sacrifies 4 her, but she won't understand.
my story is even more than urs. i satayed with my sister for 4years that i do everything in the house that the husband started regretting ever marrying my sister even in her presence.am the 4th child after my sister. i told my mom all what her husband has been saying and so many things happened.my sister started suspecting me having affair with her husband.she satted threatening me that she will take me 2 go a swear 2 juju and God.
i don't even want 2 share mine because i cry anything i thought of it.
keep your head up.am happy u left.this is what i should have done earlier.but i was too small 2 think fast.
Girl congratulation because u succeeded.
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mazaje (m)
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You guys should learn to read between the lines. I totally agree completely with Osereka. No normal guy would continue to makes such moves at her without some sort of direct or indirect approval from the poster.
So don't gimme that nonsense. The poster herself is no angel. I wish we could hear the man's side of the story. Some of y'all are forgetting that there are TWO sides to every story and we've only heard from one side.
Shut up there and stop saying nonsense, if you are truly a loving husband nothing will make you go after your wife's sister, even if she moves around naked in the house you will call her to oder if you can't do it your self reporting her to her sister will end it all, but because they guy has his eyes on sleeping with her, he will say all sought of rubbish to cover up for is wrong doings. he has no excuse to sleep with his wife's sister if truly he loves his wife. |
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