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legs (f)
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Can you have Romance Without Finance?Hello people! How did your weekend go? I came across an argument on a Nigerian talkshow, some guys and girls were arguing about the need for money to sustain a relationship; one girl (infact an mtn model) steadfastly maintained romance did not need money to survive. In the course of the whole thing; one guy gave an example. He said it would be impossible to be romantic without having some pay. According to him, if for instance, the weather became unbearably hot, you would need to buy your girl a cold drink and you need cash to do that. The mtn model said you could fan her with an old newspaper and that she would still be touched (while still dying of thirst; I must add  ) So people what do you think; and I need you guys to be really sincere about this ( kindly leave your idealistic values off this thread!) Is there any Romance without Finance?Can Love Without Money Work? * Can Any Girl Date A Boy Who Does Not Have Money?
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hot-angel (f)
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Yeah there is. I remember that last hallween, I and my Ex were at a halloween party. We needed cash to go in and stay with the cool people, just so we would see the funny halloween stuffs. We realised we didn't have any money on us. I was like totally mad and was really upset, but before I knew what was hapening we began to make-out and that was a whole lot fun. That's a good example I guess.
Talking about cold drink, Please give the girl some water and start making out with her, she'll forget she needs soda.
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olaide07 (f)
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This is not "inside out".Romance-money=no way
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Motee (f)
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biko! There is no romance without finance whether poor or rich.
I watched the programme yesterday and l do not support the MTN babe for most of her reasons.
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trae_z (m)
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Somehow I agree. Let me put it this way, there is little romance without finance. Let's be real people. I'll say more when I get more ideas, but that was a wonderful example.
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legry (m)
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Of course it can happen but it would never never last.
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Beautiful (m)
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Finance counts so much when it comes to relationship but if adequate finance is lacking,REAL LOVE can still over see tha but romance nor go fit oooooooo...........NO ROMANCE WITHOUT FINANCE
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love4ever (f)
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well i went i am into relationship i do not look for money i search for love and that it
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legs (f)
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@ olaide... WORD! WORD!
@ love4ever my darling please be realistic that love will fizzle out in the face of serious frustration, unless of course the chic is paid and doing all the sponsoring!
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love4ever (f)
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that is for those who ask money from guy they would not respect you as much you will want them to
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Motee (f)
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well I went I am into relationship I do not look for money I search for love and that it
Since you started this relationship has he ever given you a gift? Or has he ever called you on your phone or from a business centre or rather, has he ever paid for something that belongs to you.....in whatever way he has spent his money on you ....that's part of the financial aspect of it. Really it does not have to be big...I mean it could be just a bottle of coke which he paid for like the example we were given. Infact coming to your house either bringing his car(fuel) or taking a cab or takes a bus is monetary wise. May be from his part he can be love without finance but Love4ever you can say you have not bought him something before! |
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Laka
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yes u can have romance without finance for as long as you love the person for who he/she is
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Greatpeter (m)
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Definitely, if you know how to romance then you'll know how to spend.
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Motee (f)
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Definitely, if you know how to romance then you'll know how to spend.
Na you biko! shortest way of solving this matter. |
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legs (f)
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love4ever my dear i do not ask for money from any man i have a job and i fend for myself but basically if you don't have money you can't be creative simple as that! believe me if you are hungry its not i love you that you will want to hear, so GET REAL!!!!
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IAH (f)
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For the fire of my love to burn well well, it needs money to fuel it.
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Greatpeter (m)
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IAH, I hear you well but I never understand you.
Explain further.
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kazey (m)
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Confused i am honestly. . What is romance? someone help me out please  |
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Seun (m)
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The way I see it is this: you can entertain a girl without much money; You can make her feel really good. But without money in your hands, she won't 'settle for' you. If after a little half-hearted effort she can't get you to move up to a higher level, she'll go for another man who is rich.
And if you ask her why, she will say "yes, I know that XXX loves me and he's sweet and everything, but I just discovered that my heart is with this other guy; because love is mysterious". Nigerian ladies for you!
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Danasco (m)
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Very often, we tend to compare reality with imagination. How can one imaging that romance can go without finance. Haba, lets be reasonable for a while. If a man want to be romantic, you may wish to take your babe or wife out for ice cream, snacks or a ride round town, how do you do all these without finance? Do you think a lady will look at you as romantic if you can't buy her undies, bra, shirt or shower her with gift, no matter how small it is?
I don't think romance can go without finance. Take a look at it logically, have you ever seen a very poor man hugging his wife? Have you ever seen him taking her out for ice cream or buy her card on her birhtday? ever seen him holding hands with her?
As a romantic man I should be able to take my babe for a horse ride, picknics, parties and swimming. How do I do these if I don't have the finance(however small).
One must not be rich but average to be romantic. This is a fact. take it or you leave it.
Just this week- end my girl friend asked my opinion about this topic and I told her thesame. She felt iam very romantic because I call her up every two hours to hear from her, I call her at night before she sleep to tell her I love her and to wish her goodnight and sweet dreams. How do you do all thes sweet things if you are not balance?
She call call it quit with my competitor because 'he's not romantic'. I gain entrance to her heart just because 'I am always there for her'. Come over this, please, romance can't hold without finance.
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kazey (m)
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She felt i am very romantic because I call her up every two hours to hear from her, I call her at night before she sleep to tell her I love her and to wish her goodnight and sweet dreams. Dem !!!, this is serious o. Didnt know that such lovers exist. Interesting. I hearby vote you, for the most romantic guy in Nairaland. |
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legs (f)
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oh my goodness! that all men could be like danasco.....
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jogego (m)
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@ the ladies shoutinig no romance without finance........guess why there are so much single girls in naija? guess why when u go to any single fellowships na women full there?
You guys are too materialistic. You tend to want ready made guys. Forgetting that this ready made guys have girls who suffered with them. You think I will leave a girl who rode okada with me when I had nothing for a girl who comes when I am comfortable?
Personal experience. I had a babe I was toasting once, and her mom actually chased me from her house because I was coming on legeddiz benz. Well guess what, after I got my first car, she magically reappered. Do you think I would chase the babe who was jumping danfo with me for her? Of course since I had never f**cked her before, I did mark the register and move back to my babe.
She is still single as we speak. About two months ago she sent me an email that her sister would be in london for me to get some stuff for her....puleeeze.... you had the chance you blew it.
You ladies need to look at a guy's future not the present. Stop being myopic and be spiritual.
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shockreaction (m)
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Oh boy, another strangely interesting thread... It just keeps getting better!
I asked one of my female friends (who I met on the Internet, known for 2 years now and counting) what she finds romantic? From what I can recall, she replied:
- Walks on the beach at night (preferably moonlit)
- Holding each other sitting on a couch, looking into each other's eyes, and generally spending time together
- Spooning, kissing and such.
I don't see how any of the above-listed have financial requirements. Yes, you can be romantic without having to spend a freaking dime! You don't need to buy the whole world for you to be romantic. There are the little things that we don't usually pay much attention to, that are considered romantic such as playing with the girls hair, and some other examples which I am unable to come up with at this moment.
@danasco: No, taking your girlfriend to parties is definitely NOT romantic. You call your girlfriend every two hours? Wow, quite a *cough*good*cough* use of money. Why not just go to see her? Spend quality time together, that kind of thing. Calling her every night to say goodnight is understandable, tho, if you're not living together.
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Seun (m)
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Shockreaction, I'm laughing at you because you don't seem to understand what romance is all about. Romance is all about entertainment, not utility. It's all about the feelings you generate. Calling his girlfriend every two hours might seem less efficient than simply going to see her, but that's exactly what makes it so romantic.
Does it make sense? Probably not. But it works, and that's what matters.
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shockreaction (m)
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Ok then, explain romance to me.
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tayotina (f)
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Av got a job so my man must also be in the working class and must also earn more than what I am earning. Period.
Now to the question:
I think ladies need to appreciate the little things their men do for them. The problem with ladies is that sometimes we try to compare our relationship with our friends'. Some ladies are never satisfied with the little their men can offer.
Being romantic doesn't mean a man has to spend all his life savings on his woman. Even if it is just N50 worth of biscuit that he can afford now, it's ok. Nobody knows tomorrow. So long as he is working (of course I can't date a student) and he has plans for our future.
Romance to me is when my man spends so much time with me, cuddles me, kisses me even in the presence of his friends and whoever cares to watch, takes me for a walk, you know makes me feel so important.
What I am saying in essence is that we should try and be appreciative. If your man tries to satisfy you in his own little way, see it as a sign of his love and affection for you. Sure when he has enough, he would definitely do more.
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kazey (m)
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Av got a job so my man must also be in the working class and must also earn more than what I am earning. Period.
What of if he is into investments, and earns more than you? . |
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tayotina (f)
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That's what am saying kazey. I want my man to earn more than what I am earning.
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legs (f)
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@ jogego the point being made exactly - when you had no cash, the romance did not take off.
This is not strictly about materialism I have been with someone that didn't have as much as I did. The issue is that there has to be some form of finance from somewhere, even if the chic has to handle her own bills. If the girl is depending on you and you can't do what she needs you to do then really there is going to be a lot of frustration from somewhere. And i find it hard to believe that any guy will be satisfied with just telling his girl that he loves her, if he truly does, he is going to want to provide stuff for her and generally try to make her life easier [whether or not she can actually do those things herself & i was made to understand that this is a male thing]
Basic point : I intend to earn enough on my own so that I don't have to be dependent on any man. At the very least if the guy I decide to take up with is a pauper, then i wont have to worry about where the next meal is coming from, while he is muttering sweet nothings into my ears!
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Greatpeter (m)
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In Africa today, 90% of our marriages are birthed by either money or personalities.
So no money, no love.
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kazey (m)
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I had a friend (a Nigerian) who refuses to fall in love with any lady, and his only reason for not falling in love was "Its an expensive investment". Well i don't blame him  |
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