Disciplining Children

I have 2 kids  and believe me I started spanking before they were 1 yr old.

But I only did it when I knew they were acting deliberately in disobedience.  e.g. My youngest goes to bed at 8pm period - no negotiations. He is 16 months old and in the last one week he has started refusing to go to bed at 8pm, crying and screaming in his room despite the fact that his older brother is obeying the same instruction.

I condoned it the 1st time and 2nd time as one off , the third time - I ignored him and told him you need to lie down, he refused. I smacked him on his behind and quickly he lied down and in 5 minutes was fast asleep.

If I had continued talking , it wont work till he got his way - he was testing boundaries and if i allowed him to get away with it his elder brother will join causing chaos.

Kids are different from each other in so many ways, we must learn to discern the right time to use the right methods of scolding to get the best result.

another example - my older boy likes cereal. last night, he kept chanting I want cereal - i said no each time. I warmed his rice, took it to the table and told him to eat it - when he refused, I pointed in the direction of his younger brother happily eating the rice and then he said ok mummy and ate it all up , he was just testing boundaries.

I smack my kids and will continue to do so whenever I deem necessary to drive my point home. My father spanked me and punished me and really I am the better for it and despite this I have a special relationship with him and know beyond a doubt that he loves me.

If the children know they are disciplined in love; it makes a whole lot of difference!.

all this spanking and nigeria is still a horrible place? 

can someone explain why, with all the beatings, Nigeria is still corrupt?

no one has attempted to answer this question. 

beating is just too easy, which is why so many people do it exclusively. its more convenient for the parent, since the use of force cows the child into submission. Besides, most Nigerians were raised to regard beating as the only form of discipline.

Personally, i just don't see how someone can spank a baby.

anyway, each to his own. Everyone should raise their children the way they feel is best.

Not all children respond to beatings. I'm sure many armed robbers ( some with legit jobs, others without), were also beaten as children.

were yahoo boys ( 419ers) not beaten when they were growing up?

Too much beating,turns one yahoooooo.
people should take note.

NOW i think that is the height of abuse and such mother should be jailed for a very long time, not fit to be a mother, what could a child of 6 months possibly have known, if you check well, such mother are the frustrated ones and they want to take it out on the poor kids, sometimes, i wish the kids could chose where they want to belong to, because some people don't even deserves to be a mother, i beg poster, can't u call the police for such woman, haba, that makes me sick
If she is frustrated, she only have to take it easy, because i know nigeria could drive one crazy and do what you neer imagine u cld do

Yodiyokun, i am sure that you wont want to have the children aids in canada read this kind of post, firstly, are youe kids in Daycare or r u a stay home Mom, there gets to some age, that the kids want to test your "feet down" ability, and there is nothing wrong in that, now spanking a 16 months old child, sometimes, depends on how u did it, remember the law of the land is that you can spank to leave mark, neither spank at some certain area, and besides, 16 month old is too young to understand what you trying to teach him/her, i so much beleive that we in this generation are still trying to raise kids, the way we were raised, which was aiight for that time, why can't we use mouth and direction to train them, must we alway use the beatings, i was at a zambian's family house and the woman was using a stick used in making fufu to beat the kids, that is nothing but assault, let us trying using the mouth and leave the stick and the beating out of discipline,

i am very surprised at the response  of some people here. beating a baby is wrong no doubt about that, but the moment a child starts growing there is this natural "naughtiness" that needs to be corrected and if after warning the child verbally he or she didn't yield then the scolding comes in and in as much as it is necessary u dnt av to overdo it. in a home where there is love, verbal correction and flogging ones in a while, the home will be peaceful and the children grow to be good children. i don't agree that one should not scold children but u must make sure u show more of love and verbal correction. for those that says otherwise please. have a rethink, it is not a crime

People still beat children?  Please I believe in tough love!  My daughter had the nerve to come home with her pants out of her jeans---from school---trying to be "hip hop" I guess.  Warned her about 3 times and she did not listen.  Just ignored her.  Made sure

I showed up at her school to pick her up in the same, identical outfit----with my "shocking" pink underwear out of my jeans too.  Disgrace am well well in front of her friends.  She did not speak to me for a week.  Did she do it again?---maybe. But not to my knowledge?  Let me catch her again!  Make she just try am again!  I threatened to show up half naked the next time.---Who born monkey?  he he he he he he!!!! Idiot!!!!!!

That is why it is good to have children early! Energy to police them is abundant!  Beating?  God forbid!  That is for animals!

Almost every older person I have met has told me that morals have gone to the dogs in UK because children are now allowed to do what they like. They always say that they got spanked as kids and they turned out right but the ones who are now so ill-mannered are the ones that legislation forbids you to use your judgement in training and disciplining.

There is no staistic or evidence to support the notion that it is wrong to spank your child in love for correction. However, there is evidence that children who are now being raised without a fear of the rod are rotten and terribly violent.

NSPCC will tell you that you are teaching them violence but the ones who have not been spanked are the most violent ones. Those who were spanked in those days were never nearly as violent as the unruly and unfearful ones which parade every British city these days.

LOL. Now she got to see how she looks when she dress like that. How creative of you! Teenagers are so funny.

JUST AN Observation

Generally, in my profession African children are more well behaved than any other culture of children (Though Asians are equal in respect to having well disciplined obedient cooperative children).

However, without a DOUBT and NO exaggeration, when I do run across an African child that acts like they have no sense, no home training, and no discipline 100% of the time they were IGBO. I kid u not. And I see a LOT of children in my profession.

Why do Igbo children (In America) behave so badly? Often as bad, and sometimes worse than Black American Ghetto kids.

i don't think it doesnt help because some children when  you beat them they do worse, because they are either used to the beatings or just don't care so i think punishin is better than beating. i no some children  they really get beatin all the time but they always do that same thing they got beating for because after a while they don't care any more