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oluuti (f)
Did I Do Wrong
« on: August 14, 2007, 02:04 PM »

I've been married for 4.25 years, no kids,fault not mine {medically confirmed}and medically speaking my hubby can't father a child-we were tested by 4 docs the last one an american doc.As if that's not enough there's also spiritual attacks i'm receiving both physically &in dreams.i fall sick without any medical explanation.My eyes av seen a lot of stange things ever since i got married. this  and all other that time won't permit me 2 share led me to the arms of another man.[i know i av no justification 4 this]Now i've filled 4 divorce  because i felt my life is in danger, i just want to move on with my life and also i've  stopped seeing the other guy even tho he wanted 2 marry me.my situation was so bad that i almost killed myself.right now i don't even know where i found the courage to move on ,i just want to focus on my career  and maybe in 2-3 years av a baby if i'm not 2 old then, or maybe adopt one. 
crazykid (m)
Re: Did I Do Wrong
« #1 on: August 14, 2007, 02:56 PM »

In case of next time, try and make your writing more readable. I could hardly make sense of what you wrote.

@Topic.

If that’s your story, then I would say you didn’t do wrong. You did what you had to do. Surely nature would forgive you.
olanajim (m)
Re: Did I Do Wrong
« #2 on: August 15, 2007, 04:57 AM »

It is unfair to attack people simply because of their poor Expression. At any rate, they might not be in the right frame of mind to bother about it. Not that they are illiterate. I suggest Seun should create a section from those wishing to learn English to meet willing teachers.   

@ poster, your story is sympathetic. I think you left out some important points that could help toward complete comprehension. Nevertheless, the spiritual aspect is more pronounced. I adviced you take to prayer. It may be that someone against either of you is at work. I am not a spiritualist so, I suggest you see your pastor or pray. If the fellow is actually after you, he will still follow you to your next home. I am not so sure. It may as well be product of your imagination.

Filling for divorce when a relationship is irreparably sour isn't a sin. It is the manner of filling the divorce that one suspect. If you are driven to the hand of another man by lust, then you are wrong, if by frustration, you are missing a point. If out of confusion, then you need help.

You didn't tell much about your husband so the whole story is incomplete. Is he concerned, indifference or guilty? Is he responsible for your predicament? Who says?

Do you have absolute guarranttee that your next man would be free of the same problem. You may file for divorce if you have made up your mind, just be sure you carry him along. 
Agbo2 (m)
Re: Did I Do Wrong
« #3 on: August 22, 2007, 10:28 PM »

First, your experience isnt a pleasant one I must admit but yours is
NOTHING compared to what a young girl well known to me who got married at 17 experienced just within 2yrs of marriage and today she's been able to pull herself together, remarry and live a meaningful life.

wanting to move on with your life is not enough, if u decide to face your career what happens to other areas of
your life? be sincere to yourself, success in your career and failure in other aspects of life is that really gona make you happy?
re-trace your steps, identify where you got it wrong and face life as a better stronger person, be prepared to make your life work regardless of what anybody thinks.

Above all, put God 1st in all that you do
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