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olanajim (m)
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Ufobabe, I must give you credit for that well articulated reply. I learn something from though. But life purpose and life partner tend to be inseperable. This is important for those who want to be happy in their old age. Too many unhappy relationship have their root in ignoring that fact.
So how do we go about it considering that love is a fast moving vehicle with a weak breaking system. How do you think men and women of value can handle this so that they do not fall in hands of a mad partner? Nobody would certaily want to spend his life with somebody that bring nothing but regret. What should we do or look out for?
Ariblaze, nobody is after you. You are a cat with nine life.
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ariblaze (m)
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so i got 9lives huh? i thought it was 14  My challenge to you is to explore how adversities in Romance as manifested in heartbreaks, broken marriage, unwanted pregnancies, lost love etc can be of great advantage to the suffers i might be inclined to agree somewhat with ufobabe yet again its just easier to build on her points (men am i lazy or what/) i believe if you have loved and lost when and if you love again,it would be with more value a deeper need to savour the moments and more patience to endure the not so dovey moments. with unwanted pregancies the culprit here(not victim) would in ways have being an experience to others around not to have sex witout condoms its more like you would expect, someone who has seen the hardship lived by someone living with HIV/aids to react to unsafe sex, within every adversity my mirror lies an advantage the pain of loss,rejection makes the strong and focused ,think access and refocus energy to come back bigger better |
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fatty27
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@Ariblazzzzzze,
@ufobabeee,
so you guys feel that those having problems in relationship are yet to discover their life purpose?
How many such people can be bold to say they are happy to be jilted?
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rosquare (m)
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@ ufobabe
omote, how does someone discover himself?
thot the process of self discovery includes your everyday
experience,relationships included?
its painful to put in so much into something just to lose everythig
in a split second.
as for me, pains ,tears, heartbreaks etc are all part of life.the earlier
we accept them and live with them, the better.but as for regrets, HELL NO.
ALL THESE ARE THERE TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOU.
TO BRING OUT THE REAL YOU,
@ufobabe
sent a mail to you but didnt get a reply,guess you havnt checked your mail.
richmond oke oghene,08054449077.
please holla me.
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ufobabe (f)
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@
Ariblaze
where have u been? i miss u shaaaaaaaaaa.
anyway, i can see u now.
i hope u won't leave us so long like that again.
ur gentlemanship? am yet 2 know who he is.
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ariblaze (m)
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@rosquare hmmmm i hope you get the hookup sha @fatty @Ariblazzzzzze,
@ufobabeee,
so you guys feel that those having problems in relationship are yet to discover their life purpose?
How many such people can be bold to say they are happy to be jilted?
fatty no one is saying its a good thing to be jilted what we are going like is this rather than kill yourself over it you can actually pickup yourself ,re-vamp yourself and learn from past mistakes |
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ariblaze (m)
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@ufobabe miss me  i dint know you knew i existed  anyways i am sooooo flattered, meanwhile i don't quite get what you mean by you can see me |
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olanajim (m)
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D babe had been looking for you for age.
Anyway, am sure she would contact.
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ufobabe (f)
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ufobabe?
yes! i miss u dearly |
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ufobabe (f)
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@ufobabe miss me i dint know you knew i existed anyways i am sooooo flattered, meanwhile i don't quite get what you mean by you can see me common! u are special. i like gentlemen. perharps i want to meet u |
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olanajim (m)
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What about me? Did you missed me or discovered me, Ufo?
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ufobabe (f)
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What about me? Did you missed me or discovered me, Ufo?
yes! both hnmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm |
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ufobabe (f)
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our life is the total aggregate of our time being spend ur time will decide the subtotality of ur life. preparation is made up of painstaking following a detailed plan of action 2 achieve a purpose.
@ Rosquare
yes! self discovery include everyday experience.
man is a spirit, put in a body and given a soul. the moment u stepped into time u became lost and will not rest until u discover ur purpose in life.
wealth is an opportunity for all living souls yet only few people can have it. it attracts only those are determine at heart. this is discovery.
love fails but geniue love last 4ever no matter what that happens. misguided way 2 handle a mistake is the failure 2 accept it when it occurs.
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olanajim (m)
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@ufobabe,
i must agree with you on the life versus time input. I think the two are superimposed. Once time expired, life would ceased.
To live rightly, we must learn to love, we must learn to experience both positive and negative side of life. We must laugh and cry while passing through hardening phase of life.
You said love fails but genuine love last forever, But it is clear that sometimes, it hard to recognize genuine love until the you have been tried by circumstances outside your influence. At such moment, many folks lost their love while searching for security. And many miss the oppotunity to identify their ordained soul because they never learn to know that the "beautiful butterfly they are searching is in the cartapillar they just thrown away."
I think genuine love is scarce. Only the courageous dare to love deeply.
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olanajim (m)
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iice,
3 seconds love? That is "lust". It is never meant to last.
A man met a fine lady. He liked her, eyed her, and then went home dreaming of her. Through the night, he rehearsed what to say, how to act, what to wear, and what to buy to win the lady's heart. Then, in his best attire, he walk up to the lady and started brainwashing her (or is it toasting?). The lady fell for "Mr Perfect" and her world "rock and roll." Roses and chocolates were exchanged.
They fell in love and fell in bed. Then came the life storm. The guy suddenly noticed that some babe are more beautiful. And the lady finds that the guy's pocket is not enough for her. Dream turns tisttle. Things fell apart. Hearts broke, liver melted. And the 3 minutes love suddenly transformed to lifetime acrimony.
I know men and women of values don't rush at love. For those who rush in would sooner rush out fast.
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olanajim (m)
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iice,
3 seconds love? That is "lust". It is never meant to last.
A man met a fine lady. He liked her, eyed her, and then went home dreaming of her. Through the night, he rehearsed what to say, how to act, what to wear, and what to buy to win the lady's heart. Then, in his best attire, he walk up to the lady and started brainwashing her (or is it toasting?). The lady fell for "Mr Perfect" and her world "rock and roll." Roses and chocolates were exchanged.
They fell in love and fell in bed. Then came the life storm. The guy suddenly noticed that some babe are more beautiful. And the lady finds that the guy's pocket is not enough for her. Dream turns tisttle. Things fell apart. Hearts broke, liver melted. And the 3 minutes love suddenly transformed to lifetime acrimony.
I know men and women of values don't rush at love. For those who rush in would sooner rush out fast.
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iice (f)
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Olawhat you, i and some call lust others call loveit's what i call their 3 seconds love
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olanajim (m)
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Seriously, lust is beneficial. But it can be destructive.
Without lust, love can't exist. But lust driven by tetosterone is without doubt infatuation. It is the highway leading to heart breaks
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olanajim (m)
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Seriously, lust is beneficial. But it can be destructive.
Without lust, love can't exist. But lust driven by tetosterone is without doubt infatuation. It is the highway leading to heart breaks
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olanajim (m)
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You don't get customers that way. You are rdiculling your site. And reducing it value. In fact, you don't appear to have any value in it. I wonder Why do we have such people like you around?
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olanajim (m)
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You don't get customers that way. You are rdiculling your site. And reducing it value. In fact, you don't appear to have any value in it. I wonder Why do we have such people like you around?
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olanajim (m)
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You don't get customers that way. You are rdiculling your site. And reducing it value. In fact, you don't appear to have any value in it. I wonder Why do we have such people like you around?
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mishooo (m)
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@Olanajim, hmmmmm
Nice to be back. I can see you're still doing a nice work on this thread. more kudos to you.
Going with the flow above, i love this definition of love : Ability to forgive someone and get back to former times, after they've really hurt you.
Then and only then can love really be tested - i mean when we take someone as they are with no strings attached and no gains in sight.
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olanajim (m)
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@Olanajim, hmmmmm
Nice to be back. I can see you're still doing a nice work on this thread. more kudos to you.
Going with the flow above, i love this definition of love : Ability to forgive someone and get back to former times, after they've really hurt you.
Then and only then can love really be tested - i mean when we take someone as they are with no strings attached and no gains in sight.
it is really tough to forgive. But it is a symbol of strenght to do so. Love is always build on the tough concrete of life. A love built on the sad of merriment would not last when the storm of life hit it. |
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iice (f)
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I don't think it can ever get to the same point as before if one or both have been hurt.
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Ms. Lurker (f)
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@ufobabe,
i must agree with you on the life versus time input. I think the two are superimposed. Once time expired, life would ceased.
To live rightly, we must learn to love, we must learn to experience both positive and negative side of life. We must laugh and cry while passing through hardening phase of life.
You said love fails but genuine love last forever, But it is clear that sometimes, it hard to recognize genuine love until the you have been tried by circumstances outside your influence. At such moment, many folks lost their love while searching for security. And many miss the oppotunity to identify their ordained soul because they never learn to know that the "beautiful butterfly they are searching is in the cartapillar they just thrown away."
I think genuine love is scarce. Only the courageous dare to love deeply.
I agree, completely!!!! @ lice, I agree. I don't think the couple should strive to get back to the same place because you aren't the same people anymore but you should forge a stronger bond. If that's what the two parties want. It depends on the circumstance and what you see as forgiveable. |
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olanajim (m)
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Ms. Lucker,
thanks for that. Some circustances are indeed hard to wish away. Like iice have said. If one or both of the delibrately hurt the other. That is why couples, whether dating of courting, must always be alert at some factors that could sow seed of permanent discord between them. One or either of them may find that unforeseen circumstance may bring them together with either side needing one another badly.
Let me give you an example. A guy I know very well had a relationship with a lady. Both eventually seperated under acrimonious circumstance.
2 years ago, the guy had problem at school that would have ended his education. But the lady happened to know a lecturer who can help. You can imagine how this tough talking guy became as soft as butter.
He needed the lady badly and had to send his friends to beg. Eventually, they met and the lady assisted him.
My point: I think any man or woman worth his/salt must be ready to tread very, very carefully when love is concerned. Hurting other people at a go, is irrational, stupid, and potentially dangerous. Though some folks get away with it. The question is "how are you so sure that the law of average would favour you?"
therefore, we must while guarding our heart against emotional injury be prepared to nurture the spirit of forgiveness because we may need it sooner.
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olanajim (m)
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Ms. Lucker,
thanks for that. Some circustances are indeed hard to wish away. Like iice have said. If one or both of the delibrately hurt the other. That is why couples, whether dating of courting, must always be alert at some factors that could sow seed of permanent discord between them. One or either of them may find that unforeseen circumstance may bring them together with either side needing one another badly.
Let me give you an example. A guy I know very well had a relationship with a lady. Both eventually seperated under acrimonious circumstance.
2 years ago, the guy had problem at school that would have ended his education. But the lady happened to know a lecturer who can help. You can imagine how this tough talking guy became as soft as butter.
He needed the lady badly and had to send his friends to beg. Eventually, they met and the lady assisted him.
My point: I think any man or woman worth his/salt must be ready to tread very, very carefully when love is concerned. Hurting other people at a go, is irrational, stupid, and potentially dangerous. Though some folks get away with it. The question is "how are you so sure that the law of average would favour you?"
therefore, we must while guarding our heart against emotional injury be prepared to nurture the spirit of forgiveness because we may need it sooner.
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