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Ibrotawa
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I am marrid 4 d past 8ys now .Up till i can not understand my wife. I use to give her 30,000 naira in a month that is about 300 Usd. But she still complaing. And they are 4 in the house .What do i do. Abi i no try make una tell me oooo, I don tired. Waitin i go do???
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$$Rhino
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There is need to understand what the 30K is for, would she have to buy gas into her car, service her car, eat, buy cloth for the kids and do her hair and still donate at church and look after your mom and dad when they visit?, elaborate more
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yewa-man (m)
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kindly explain further
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Ibrotawa
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Thanx. The 30k is just 4 food and gas .And they are just 4 of them in d house.
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Ibrotawa
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I do take care of other things like d car, her hair ,and.My mum. And dady. Still complaing. Do i need 2 ajust or send her away 4 embasement. Waitin make i do.  |
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omoge (f)
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add more  |
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mamaput (f)
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You do the shopping for one month and and what she needs to tank. Then you will know if the money is enough or not
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omoge (f)
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right there mamaput. as a student, i spend more than that amount in one month for food and things i need for where i live. so that amount for 4 people am sure it too small. things are expensive in nigeria market. unless you want them to eat eba for breakfast, lunch and dinner. so add more.
seat together and calculate how much stuffs needed for the house cost. how much to cook a nice and palatable pot of soup. 30,000 for 4 people is not too much maybe too less. so my brother, take care of your househood and add more. if your wifey is working, you both can discuss how she can add to make up. no too tire oo remember those 5 are your children and wife.
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Ibrotawa
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Omoge: thanx 4 d Advice .I go do as u say. Thank u ooo.Baba God go blss u.
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omoge (f)
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well done my brother. na guys like you be guys ojare, keep it up and God bless you and your pocket/bank account  |
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$$Rhino
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@ Poster, I will admit that you don try, so many men will even follow them wives to the market all in da name of not wanting them to spend too much, however, i will advice that you pay attention to the cost of things in nigeria, i will assume that your wife has a cell phone and 6 recharge card alone in a month is 9K, so just sit with her like one sista has said, look into the finance of the home together, and you both could see where and how u cld be able to safe some money,
Also, might help if you give her more sense of belonging, let her know that she is in charge, because i do so much blv that ladies are more prudent than we guys, they have more sense of money management than we guys does, so please praise her, and if need be, see through her perspectives,
Good luck
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Ibrotawa
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Rhino. Thanx i understand u i will take to ur avice. U and omoge i respect u people .Thanx.
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MP007 (m)
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u don't have a wife,
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ufobabe (f)
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u can't be tired of ur wife except u are not legally married 2 her.
u ought 2 be a man in all ways 2 her and ur kids
30,000 is not too much in a month, even if it is just for the kitchen.
how much do u earn? please increase it before it will cause trouble
u both can talk things over.
my brothe in Lagos spend nothing less than 15,000 in a week
so u can imagine that
please ohhhhhhhhhh give her more before u start accussing her of adultary
be a man always
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Ibrotawa
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Ufobabe: thanx 4 d Advice. But .Like how much increase do u think.,???
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omoge (f)
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I don't think anyone can tell you how much to increase, it is hard because it's individual thing. let's say you are living abroad and your wife is in niaja right? if so, 500 dollars a months should be tried.
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Ibrotawa
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Omoge. U say 500usd. |
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omoge (f)
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assuming you are living/based abroad (because you used dollars in your first post). so if you are living oversea, 500 for 3 or 4kids and a wife should be a good starter you know. if one person is spending between 300 to 400 dollars for food and basic necessities a month, then do the math my brother for 5 . |
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SwtNsoFLyy (f)
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Sit down with her and have a heart to hear talk about the family income. You must come up with a plan that will get you ahead, and not cause unecessary stress, if you are the bread winner and doing your best to make her happy with your current earnings. From this point forward, you must write down all of your bills, and set a budget for bills, clothing, entertainment, food and tiding, if you contribute to your church.
I don't have this problem, (and need to budget better) because I am the head of my own household, and spend as wisely as I can. As the man of your household, I suggest that you take proper place and bring peace into your home. Many people break up because of money or mis handling of finances, but if you want it to work, you will be able to communicate this to her, and hopefully she is understanding that you are ONLY doing your best. If she can't settle for that, and ifshe is not handicap, then it may be wise for her to bring more money into the household. Two incomes are WAY better than one, and provides so much more than you can alone,
God bless,
peace
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Ibrotawa
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Thanx and a big thanx .
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omoge (f)
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if you are living abroad and sending 300 dollars home to your wife and kids for gas, phone, food, clothings etc don't you think (yourself) that it is small? even if she is working. 500 dollars is not too big for your family if you want them to live a better life.
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Ibrotawa
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Omoge: that is why i ask u .Like how much do u think is good. Tell me.
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osereka (m)
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Women are like these looters we have in govement,
THE MORE THEY PACK THE MORE THEY NEED
the insatiable MODAFOKAS!
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omoge (f)
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me i don talk o try between 450-500 dollars and see how it works. maybe it is truly hard for her. price of things in nig jump up and down. my mom tell me say thing hard o and food dear  |
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ufobabe (f)
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I CAN'T TELL U HOW MUCH 2 GIVE 2 UR WIFE.BUT KNOW THAT SOME WOMEN JUST WANT 2 WRECK THEIR HUSBAND'S.
SOME MAY ALSO BE BUILDING HOUSES FOR THEIR MOTHERS OR FOR THEIRSELVES WITHOUT THE NOTICE OF THE HUSBAND ALL IN THE NAME OF 'MY HUSBAND IS NOT GIVING ME ENOUGH MONEY'
CHECK HOW MUCH U RECEIVE IN A MONTH AND BOTH OF U SHOULD AGREE ON IT. WE CANNOT RUN UR HOME for you.
BUT I HOPE SHE IS NOT A HOUSE WIFE because , IF SHE DOES THEN U WILL DOUBLE THE AMOUNT.
because SHE DON'T HAVE ANY MEANS OF INCOME APART FROM U.
GOOD LUCK
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Ibrotawa
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Thanx .That is why i am seeking ur advice on wht to do.
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finekid (m)
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Agree with your wife on how much will be sufficient for the monthly upkeep of the house and other incidental expenses. Give her the money every month, with a free hand to execute the expenditures. Then tell her how much you’ll be giving her every month, for herself. That will be her money, to spend as she pleases, which she doesn’t have to account for. You need to give her her money, even if she is working or doing some business.
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dearfriend
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Her expenses in a month depends on your level, taste and other dependants. Your level may mean that there are things you guys cannot come lower than, so in that case she must meet it with the money, no alternatives. Also Your tase determines the quality of food and what she cooks with the money i.e, sweet food, na money kill am and lastly, if she has to host several visitors in the house before the month ends, there is no way the money can go round.
I used to think 30k was too much for a month until i realised that its difficult to manage because there are certain things i need to buy for the house up keep which are so intangible for the man to note but they cost money.
anyhow, find a way to help her.
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MrCrackles (m)
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if she is complaining 30Knaira is not enough, you have two options-
-kick her out
OR
-increase the allowance (even if you have to steal, mug or kill for it!)
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Sisi Jinx
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Or just allow her to you know. . . GET A JOB!!!!
Sheesh!
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