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nikinash (f)
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@bolaoni
Of course, na AJ- African Jungle! Not Ajegunle.
Hmmm and where is that my boy? In the safari or in Igbo irunmole ok that is why he is an ogboju ode inside igbo irumole  |
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bolaoni (m)
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ok that is why he is an ogboju ode inside igbo irumole CORRECT! |
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Idekeson (m)
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@nikinash
Go to Mapquest.com and download the direction to the Jungle. I'll put you up in one of my most cozy trees. You'll love the big oak tree on the eastside. I assure you, you'll forget all your trauma coming from a broken home.
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retro (f)
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I'm from a broken home and i'm not planning on getting married.
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raldsfield (m)
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retro  i don't know your reason or reasons for saying you are not getting married, but I will respect it if it not connected to your parents relationship. If it is then i will have to add a comment, not just for you but for any other person who doesn't want to get married because of there parents relationship. See the good side of life, am from a broken marriage too.I don't care about what my parent chose, it was their life. This is mine, my choice, my dream. my future. and so is yours girl. There time has pasted and it is your time to shine, get on with your life, remember that all men are not the same and so are all women not the same. just look for some that you love and understand and via verse. Enjoy your life and leave your parents marriage alone, having a good marriage could make you forget the experiences you had. Let your experience be the drive force for you to have a stable marriage, think of why theirs didn't work out and use that as you own learning book. Think about it. That was your parents life, this is yours dear. |
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nikinash (f)
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ture raldfield, what ever choice your parent made was just that, their choice! it doesn't have to and should not affect you. Go to Mapquest.com and download the direction to the Jungle. I'll put you up in one of my most cozy trees. You'll love the big oak tree on the eastside. I assure you, you'll forget all your trauma coming from a broken home. nah i'll leave the tree climbing and living to you |
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retro (f)
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retro i don't know your reason or reasons for saying you are not getting married, but I will respect it if it not connected to your parents relationship. If it is then i will have to add a comment, not just for you but for any other person who doesn't want to get married because of there parents relationship. See the good side of life, am from a broken marriage too.I don't care about what my parent chose, it was their life. This is mine, my choice, my dream. my future. and so is yours girl. There time has pasted and it is your time to shine, get on with your life, remember that all men are not the same and so are all women not the same. just look for some that you love and understand and via verse. Enjoy your life and leave your parents marriage alone, having a good marriage could make you forget the experiences you had. Let your experience be the drive force for you to have a stable marriage, think of why theirs didn't work out and use that as you own learning book. Think about it. That was your parents life, this is yours dear. I don't want to get married because of my parents life. Yeah, i've heard "your" speech before, it still doesn't change a thing. I don't want to get divorced, EVER. If i get married, i have to know he's the one, when will i know? Probably never. I don't want to take that risk. So it's better not getting married at all. |
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flower (f)
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You haven't lived life or experienced love if you don't take risks, that's what it's all about.
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retro (f)
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You haven't lived life or experienced love if you don't take risks, that's what it's all about.
Oh, so i should take the risk of getting divorced? Think about my children here. They probably grew up with 2 loving parents and all and few years later bam!, they get divorced? Think of how that'll traumatize them. It traumatized me, like hell. I certainly DO NOT want them going through that pain, EVER. I would not take risks at the expense of my children's future/life. For your information, i'm madly in love with someone right now, but i don't want to marry him. He isn't even talking to me to begin with. |
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raldsfield (m)
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retro, their is no playing safe here, don't allow your past experience to determine your future, but let it become part of whatever you have set out to achieve. to live is to risk dying, and to marry is to risk getting divorced. But it is a risk and it has to be taken. 6 in every 10 marriages are unstable, but yours can be part of the other 4 that are stable. Believe in yourself, and know that you have what it takes to make your man come home to you. Not only that you have what it to make him stick with you forever. Marry a man that knows what he wants, and if he Marry's you at the end, know that he will stick to you. being too careful is not the answer to your problem.  Am sure a man wants his marriage to succeed as much as a wife wants it, you have to only know one thing, marry someone that you love and understand, then someone that understands and loves you. Relationships is a good place to start, so keep the love going, hopefully one day i get some good news. You are not the only one afraid of making the wrong choice, i am too. But I know that I will find a good wife, because the bible said so. H He who has finds a good wife has found a good thing. Am sure many men will stick to you if you build yourself to be the good wife material the bible was talking about. And for a marriage to work, it depends on both parties, but it depends more on the woman. If you put God first my sister no shaking trust me in this no be mouth. am talking too much abey. |
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bolaoni (m)
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Retro, This is jus pure coincidence. I was thinking of your post and what to say in my reply and at the same time I am working on a project and I saw this quote in one of the files on my system: "Living well really is the best revenge. Being miserable because of a bad or former relationship just proves that the other person was right about you." and "Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections."Well, to cap it all up, I want to let you know that it isn't what happens to you that matters, it is what you make out of it. Life throws lemon at all of us, it is our choice to decide what we make with it. Some drink theirs bitter but others make lemonade out of it and enjoy it  The Bible say if you fail in the days of adversity, your strenght is small. A word is enough for the wise Bola |
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retro (f)
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Retro, This is jus pure coincidence. I was thinking of your post and what to say in my reply and at the same time I am working on a project and I saw this quote in one of the files on my system: "Living well really is the best revenge. Being miserable because of a bad or former relationship just proves that the other person was right about you." and "Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections."Well, to cap it all up, I want to let you know that it isn't what happens to you that matters, it is what you make out of it. Life throws lemon at all of us, it is our choice to decide what we make with it. Some drink theirs bitter but others make lemonade out of it and enjoy it The Bible say if you fail in the days of adversity, your strenght is small. A word is enough for the wise Bola I'm not a bible person, so i don't really care about that sentence. I am NOT miserable. I am happy the way i am. I don't need a ring on my finger to be committed to someone. Marriage is unneccessary. I want to have kids and a family outside marriage. Marriage is just another burden, you can't tell for certain that i won't get divorced. I don't want to take the risk at all, |
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Dupsybaby (f)
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Yeeee why not,wetin happen whats that got to do with me and my partners future,as long as we both are in love and all other things considered are in place,omo life goes on.We can't continue to linger on our bad past else the future will be worse,life is all bout risk.
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mamaput (f)
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Broken home Broken home how many people stay together because of eye serves,?
Picking Husband or wife because of unbroken home is also eye service,
I this day and age even kings are marring below their class very normal women , one even brought a child into the marrage and her father is a drinker ( is that in Sweden?)
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babymine (f)
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Sure. Just because he's from a broken home doesn't mean he's going to have a broken home.
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diyobdw (f)
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We can't really blame retro. it's sound crazy but you have to have the experience to understand it.
@retro
sthick to your believe only if no part of you says it wrong!
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mide2 (f)
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What happened to anyone does not define who they are, what defines who we are, is how well we rise after falling. Having a blissful marriage goes beyond, what family we were both raised from, it's more about who we choose to be.
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eveseh (f)
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if i love the person i can
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daprince
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I'M FROM A BROKEN HOME! Does that make me bad? Hell No! I believe it's a learning process because I wouldn't want my marriage to fail. I might even prefer someone from a broken home who's been through what I've been through so we could love and appreciate our marriage better. It's not the home, it's the person!
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diyobdw (f)
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Well said! It all about the person and how much the want to keep the union Its sad that am begining to think i should not get married too!  |
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Easyy (m)
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I'M FROM A BROKEN HOME! Does that make me bad? Hell No! I believe it's a learning process because I wouldn't want my marriage to fail. I might even prefer someone from a broken home who's been through what I've been through so we could love and appreciate our marriage better. It's not the home, it's the person!
It doesn't make you bad. I think it should make you a better person. However, the question of marriage is one that a lot of people seem to take for granted a lot. A lot of people make mistakes by marrying the wrong person because, they think that they are both in love and they often think that that love is all it takes to sustain the marriage. It's always good to look at other things that will set in once you get married. It may not be as much fun as it was when you were dating and you were all over each other. After a few years of marriage, some truth will start to dawn on both parties and that is when they will see each other for what they really are. Compatibility sets in and so do a lot of other things which, unfortunately, many people don't consider before plunging into marriage. Daprince, you're unique and there's no rule or law that says you'll have a broken home. Chin up bro |
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daprince
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Thanks Easyym. I had to start another thread on this crap because I was so pissed when I read some misinformed posts on this topic, it just showed me how shallow lotta people think. Anyway Easy, I appreciate ur post.
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