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edihospita
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Whats in sex that makes it immoral? Is it not just like any other human urges like hunger, sleep or micturition or defaecation?
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Lexy.
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SEX IS GOOD, INTERESTING AND FUN. But it is also sublime and somewhat mysterious. And I know that it is by no means a play thing. To have its full value and impart it is to be enjoyed within the rightful context and for the rightful purpose, and that is marriage. Anything short of this is either an abuse or a misuse which is sure to leave us unhappy and addicted (unfree)
Sex is very pleasureable but its essence is not pleasure but love. Sex is Love-making, and love is far more deeper than sex.
so to answer your question, sex itself is not immoral. it is only its abuse or misuse that is immoral. sex is misused if it is used outside the context of marriage. it is abused if LOVE is not its drive and purpose.
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LadyB (f)
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lexy man -thumps up for u for that answer
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BASETSANA (f)
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Sex in itself has never been and will never be immoral
whats immoral is its abuse like fornication etc
otherwise it was ordained for two people {married} that is, to enjoy
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Ninjabyte (m)
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Nna Lexy, big thumbs up my guy. You don yarn wetin dey
Just like u can't burst into any shop/restaurant and grab what u want without paying just because you're hungry, so it is that u can't just satisfy your urge with just any girl because you're in the mood. There are "Due Processes" involved if u have to do it right.
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edihospita
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I do understand all above comments but i am still not yet convinced why sex outside marriage is immoral. Please check up the meaning of immorality.
Sexual urge is like anyother biological fxn, will hunger. You can decide to eat or not it all depend son your resilence. But not everybody can withstand going hungry for too long. Same with sex, if the urge comes on its left to the individual if he wants to fulfill is desire or. If he refuses, fine and good but if he chooses to fulfill the desire well and good. Its all a state of conscience, how you were brought up. I kn some ladies that beleive anyother sexual position outside the missionary one is sinful because that what they believe and that si good for them.
Remember to deny our impulses is to deny the very thing that makes us human.
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Configur (m)
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edihopspita,
it depend on the religion.as a xtian u shouldnt before marriage,neither should you outside marriage.now thats 4 xtians.i don't think its like that 4 moslims.basically,religion,culture,and the african society play a big role in our sexual behaviour
If not people go begin dey mess even if they horny in the church or mosque;D
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simply_me (f)
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@Edihospita
u are a terrorist.
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edihospita
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@simply me
I beg your pardon, what does that mean?
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edihospita
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just a quick one, will someone go to hell for having sex without marriage? It sounds a bit weird, because sexual huge is no mdifferent from any other bodily sensation huge
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saucekid (m)
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sex na sex. whether immoral, moral or amoral
which ever way
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drrionelli (m)
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There is a very slight flaw in your analogy to other bodily functions.
Hunger, sleep, defecation, micturition et al are vital to the survival of the individual, whereas sex is not. It is vital to the survival of the species only. Which is to say that, while all are physiological functions (as are sweating, salivating et al) deprivation of sex is not something that will compromise the life of the individual.
Consider: If you don't eat, you starve. If you don't drink, you dehydrate. If you don't sweat, you overheat. But if you don't have sex, well--so what? You don't get pregnant or make babies? Not exactly tops with regard to the hierarchy of existence. And, by the way, guys, if you don't use those sperm cells, they simply get reabsorbed.
Now, as to morality, that can only be answered on an individual basis. Clearly, extramarital sex isn't immoral in the opinions of some, but it is to others.
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edihospita
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There is a very slight flaw in your analogy to other bodily functions. Hunger, sleep, defecation, micturition et al are vital to the survival of the individual, whereas sex is not. It is vital to the survival of the species only. Which is to say that, while all are physiological functions (as are sweating, salivating et al) deprivation of sex is not something that will compromise the life of the individual. Consider: If you don't eat, you starve. If you don't drink, you dehydrate. If you don't sweat, you overheat. But if you don't have sex, well--so what? You don't get pregnant or make babies? Not exactly tops with regard to the hierarchy of existence. And, by the way, guys, if you don't use those sperm cells, they simply get reabsorbed. Now, as to morality, that can only be answered on an individual basis. Clearly, extramarital sex isn't immoral in the opinions of some, but it is to others. How can you say that sex is not comparable to other bodily fxns. It may not be vital for continued existence but it is very vital to the mental health and continued replenishment of species. Do u kn ta it is only humans that engage in sex for enjoyment and procreation. All other animal only do it for procreation. This further butress my point that sex can't be immoral and it is not different from other bodily fxns. Its is an huge born out of an impulse which can be very difficult to control and controlled by different individuals to different degrees. Just like pain, so tolerate it well and some don't but that is no reason to call one a weak person or not, it is the person's genetic make up. Even born agains have sexual huges, they may or may not act on it( most do anyway but deny it or do it in secret, i have plenty examples to cite). Even individual who ve very low intellligence eg learning disabled ve the huge. I stand by it any day that sex is an impulse and acting on an impulse that has no negative effect on another individual can't be classified as immoral. |
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Jahbert (m)
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Edihospita your responses are on point, You are 100% Right,
I notice alot of people on this board have very traditional thoughts on sex, and thats what limiting them to thinking sex is only for married people, bullcrap,
:applauds Edihospita:
To much people here put to much value behind sex,
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iya aje (m)
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immoral?sez who?abeg if na joke make u stop am o,na who no like toto?
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drrionelli (m)
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Actually, edihospita is not quite 100% correct.
The human species is not unique inasmuch as engaging in sex for pleasure. A number of other primates do so as well. Bonobos are just one example.
As to comparing sex to the other mentioned bodily functions, clearly it is different inasmuch as this: Nobody can live without eating (or somehow taking in nourishment). Nobody can live without hydration. Nobody can live without eliminating waste products. However, people can (and do) live without having sex. To some, this results in a degradation of the quality of their lives, but for others, it's of little to no consequence at all.
Yes, sex is obviously a bodily function, but it is not an individual necessity. Consider that there are entire groups that are socially and culturally sanctioned to not have sex--nuns and priests are two that come immediately to mind.
Note that anything that has the potential to be considered immoral is something that is not necessary to live. Surely, some foods are off limits to some. Some people don't consume alcohol. But, never would there be a suggestion that food, itself, is immoral. Or, that libation is immoral.
That's why I say that the so-called immorality of sex is a personal matter. Whether one wishes to perceive it as such is one's own prerogative.
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dremoney (m)
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sex's cool.its kindda healthy.Doctors recommend it at-times for a healthy living.
it releases stress,
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ytex82 (m)
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all u guys saying sex is immoral n that it has to be done when one is married.religiously,u guys ar right anyway.but come to think of it how many of u got married as virgins.please may we see your hands up.we ar all victim to this crime.so lets think of what to say to cover up the mess and pray to GOd about it.
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Dios (m)
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Just had sex an hour ago and I'm not married nor immoral, I was just horny  |
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birdman (m)
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obviously you can live without having sex. however, it is a natural body craving, like hunger, and suppressing it makes your body try to adjust and make up for it in other ways. Witness the "men of god" who regularly get caught in homosexuality, adultery and other vice, while "unbelievers", who have a healthy view of sex end up more mature in handling these emotions.
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sweetberry (f)
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sex itself is not immoral. having sex with more than one partner at a time is immoral
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mellow (m)
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God created man in the Garden of Eden. Then he made woman after creation.
He left an instrustion, do not eat of this fruit. Man ate till this day people are
still suffering the conseguence. Now again he said do not have sex outside marriage
and we are arguing about it. when will we learn?
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mekoyo (m)
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Sex is immoral when you make it illicit. It is immoral when you have premarital sex.
There is danger in having premarital sex and God also warns is against it.
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degubi (m)
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because we have sexual urges does it mean we should go about sleeping with every person that comes our way so as to satisfy that urge? are we animals that we lack self control, why do we not sleep with our mothers, sister, father, because we know that it is not proper and we frown at those who do it.
it does not matter what our religious leanings may be there is something in us that tell us we have crossed a boundary, whether we acknowledge it or not. sex becomes immoral when u use it out of the context it was meant for.
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lonelypal (m)
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@ sweet berry  ???Please be specific, are u saying those who go into polygamy are caring out an immoral act, please expatiate, @ Poster, You ideology and perception of sex is just as weird as arguing on the topic itself, I mean I just can't fathom it, Its way too obvious and clear enough to be debated upon. Even an atheist knows that sex with smeone other than your partner{spouse} brings about some sense of guilt because the human nature in us makes us feel that way, Its clear SEX outside MARRIAGE is immoral but not prohibitive |
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lonelypal (m)
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SEX outside MARRIAGE is immoral
SEX during MARRIAGE is 100% moral
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swiftycool (m)
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I'm going to Kill that bitch Jaqleen, i gave her a place to stay Yet she went and had sex, and has been doing it severally, yet she is not married And people say its not right to kick her arse! This world is crazy Em em Jaqleen is my new dog is it not immoral for her to bang any how?  |
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MAURI
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Sweetberry Sex itself is not immoral. having sex with more than one partner at a time is immoral. Even when they are all aware of the situation, consent and engage in safe sex?
Naaa. Don’t agree. I have long broken myself away from such traditional, moral, religious and what have you chain!Mellow God created man in the Garden of Eden. Then he made woman after creation. He left an instrustion, do not eat of this fruit. Man ate till this day people are still suffering the conseguence. Now again he said do not have sex outside marriage and we are arguing about it. when will we learn? , Remember God also created us in his own image. Could it be that some of us are exercising God’s thoughts?Like drrionelli mentioned earlier: there are entire groups that are socially and culturally sanctioned to not have sex. With emphasis on the word SANCTION. We all know what this leads to. If all the sex scandals that takes place in all religious groups / denominations will be exposed, am sure a lot of followers will find if it extremely difficult not to commit suicide.Degubi because we have sexual urges does it mean we should go about sleeping with every person that comes our way so as to satisfy that urge? are we animals that we lack self control, why do we not sleep with our mothers, sister, father, because we know that it is not proper and we frown at those who do it. it does not matter what our religious leanings may be there is something in us that tell us we have crossed a boundary, whether we acknowledge it or not. sex becomes immoral when u use it out of the context it was meant for. I do agree with you to a large extent it terms of self-control. But I have a question for you though: Are you an animal that you have wet dreams? You can tell us you’ve never had one and we’ll all know you are lying, which I think you come across as too intelligent to do.
I guess the point the poster is trying to make here is that, sex can be viewed from different perspective i.e. religious, moral, cultural, traditional etc. And there is also a group of people who are open-minded and inhibited about sex and do not fall into the above category. Who are we and what gives us the arrogance / ignorance to condemn the last group? It’s ok to have an opinion based on whatever inclination, I think you might be overstepping your boundaries by condemning others who are not hurting anyone, but just because they do not fit in your narrow street; Morally, religiously, traditionally etc.
And some people just want to experiment. If they find like-minded people and they engage, what is wrong with that? Think about it. |
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Orikinla (m)
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SEX IS NOT IMMORAL!
Who told you sex is immoral?
SEX IS NOT A SIN.
Who told you sex is a sin?
What is immoral, sinful and wrong are FORNICATION, ADULTERY, HOMOSEXUALITY, AND OTHER FORMS OF SEXUAL ABUSE.
Fornication and adultery have grave consequences such as unwanted pregnancies and such unwanted pregnancies upset the social balance and security of the family and society at large.
Children born out of wedlock and from broken homes have often turned out to become the anti-social fringe elements in our community. Because, their parents never planned for their birth.
Fornication and other forms of sexual misconduct cause negative complications and implications and STDs.
Like a prominent surgeon in Ghana slept with the housegirl and caught pubic lice and passed the pubic lice to the British wife who was shocked. So, the British wife refused to sleep with him again and decided to sleep with my friend who was one of her Englsh students. When the surgeon discovered, he beat her until she fell unconscious as he dragged her across the pitch of the football field on campus. The couple never knew peace again. And the housegirl lost her job.
Like when the unfaithful husband slept with the female student in Moremi Hall at the University of Lagos and contracted a terrible STD. And she passed it on to her campus boyfriend who in turn passed it on to one of his casual lovers and the casual lover passed it around others as she slept with several guys and married men. And that was how the epidemic of the STD sent over 1, 000 students and non-students to the medical doctors and native doctors in Lagos.
A single act of sexual misconduct can cause collateral damage.
Like when Princess Diana committed adultery with Hewith and committed fornication with Dodi and that sent her to her untimely death.
How could a whole future Queen of England be pregnant for another man who was a Muslim?
She wanted to use sexual misconduct to destroy Great Britain?
Now you see why sex is not immoral or a sin, but the abuse and misuse can cause horrible and terrible things to happen and even kill.
Like the young man who stabbed a senior high school student to death, because she slept with another guy.
All right?
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Olusleeky (m)
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lol,what a topic, but sha, sex is great oh. but, hmmm , may God 4give US, Amen.
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redsun (m)
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The only thing better than sex is food,because you need food to have sex.The only thing immoral about sex this time and age is A.I.D.S,it is a death trap,the time of syphilis and gonorrhoea was heaven,this time no escape.Look before you leap,it is a laboratory creation for mass genocide.
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