Should I Stick To Her Or Should I Let Her Go

We are in this relationship for three years now, and since then she has occupied every available space in my heart. She is also very loving, caring, understanding and available.

She had me believed I and her father is the only men in her life also the love of her life. I believed I’m the first and only man who has given her the forbidding fruit.

Before our relationship took full swing, she introduces me to her parents, amazingly and unusually they accepted and supported our relationship. They are very nice to me and very corporative too.

But now all have changed, I’ve lost those strong feelings I had for her.

 I was playing with her phone one day, when I came across a txt message that hits me with shock and confusion.  It’s a txt from a guy, he was flirting with my girl, and talking about love _{(what does he know about love?)}. I confronted her immediately but she denied it “three times before the cockcrow”. It took me time but I finally let go, we reconciled and where happy thereafter.

After awhile, she started receiving wired late night phone calls. The worse of it is one day when she received a call that aroused my suspicion, when I asked her, she lied about the person that called and said the person called with a business line. But when I checked her phone I noticed she has been communicating with this same person and with that same number she claimed not knowing. I also notice she stored the number and three to four other number without any name.

I was really mad, so I broke up with her temporally. I must confess those two weeks of separation were really hell to me. She apologist and my best friend advise me to listen and reconcile with her which I did, and we were back together again and even stronger then before.

After 6 months our happiness was tattered again. last Friday, the 17th of this month, I saw a txt message again on her mobile phone, if I may paraphrase it, it goes like this: “. . . I love you so muchmy love for you cannot be expressed by wordscan you still make it this Sunday? . . .can’t wait. Love you so very much.”.

This txt got the best of me, but because of the ‘self control’ program I’m currently undertaking, I calmly ask her to explain. She denied knowledge of the sender and suggested it must be a junk txt. _{(can you believe that?).}

Yesterday, she did not go to the church for some obvious stupid reasons she gave me. By 12pm yesterday she came to the house all dressed up ready to go out. I asked what she is up to, and she said he mom wants her to go to Rumuola to get something for her that she wont spend more than an hour. Because friends and neighbors are in my house watching football, I don’t want to ask too much question, so I let her go and also gave her money to buy food stuff when she is coming back.

She left my house around 12:15pm and did not return even until 4pm when I called her, she told me she was on her way to the house. At 5:10pm I repeat the call again, this time she told me she is in the bus heading to the house, I could not control my Vexation so hang-up the phone.

She finally arrived at about 6:10pm, at that point if I talk to her at all, I may lose my temper and hit her, so I left the house and when I returned, she has prepared dinner but I could not eat the food even till this morning.

I thought I loved her, but obviously I’m not sure what love is anymore.

Last night I saw so many things I was blind at before. I realized she can not even cook very well; I enjoy foods I prepare twist more than hers.  Her handwriting is too bad to my liking, she make lots of typing errors when sending txt message, she would not wear trousers even if I insist . . .so on and so forth.

Fellow nairalanders, this is not a make up story or the like. These things really happened to me. I need help.

I always know that there are serious minded and great thinking personalities here in this forum.

I need advice on what to do now. Should I stick to her or should i let her go?

P.S. leaving her may mean disappointing not just her but her parents and brothers. Sticking to her, if she is not right for me means disappointing myself.

thank you LadyB, for your prompt response.
but as you can see i don't know my heart anymore, right now there is no other girl in my life. this girl has done alot for me she has also suported me through some difficult time and she has done wonderfully well to take away my loneliness, but i also know that doing just things is not enough for me to spend the rests of my life with her, what i need is not just things but true love and sincerity.

please put yourself in my shoes and tell me what you would do.

thanks again.

thanks man!!!

Let me start by saying text msgs have ruined so many relationships, good relationships heading for the altar, which could be sent by some riffraffs or some vagabonds meaning absolutely nothing to the owner of the phone. I have learnt not to capitalize fully on what i read in txt mesgs (although it culd be a hint) to start a quarrel, i have learnt to look at the a numbers that call d person & how many times d calls are retuned, (this is a faster way).

With the way we came about this situation it deeply shows u have strong feelings for this lady. Seeing her faults now shows that she has actually pushed u to d hardest wall. In ur previous misunderstandings u haved often used ur heart, but i'll advise u to be patience & observe more. open ur eyes, then u could see wot may be more convincing or maybe not.

I f u think she's not really up to ur level, as u'v seen so much mistakes n her already, i'll advise u not to marry her because u'll see more when u get married.

no b small oooo, i just look at the lenght and lost intrest, believe u mean i dd'nt read it and wont read it,

@poster,
NA WA u no do summary for school?