Is it Official: Girls Lie About Virginity

K0be, you still flaunting your peanut here, huh?

Westerners are more advanced because they don't obsess about virginity. It's talked about openly, and we get sex education in school. In my schools we learned in at least 4 different grades. So it's no big dealcan't say the same about Nigeria.

Well k0beit's a two way street. You can't expect one group to do all the workmales and females both have to work.

yes, I agree, the double standard is limiting.  as soon as the ladies begin the work by refusing to conform, the men will follow. trust is the strength of a healthy relationship

thief   you better start yelling o, your voice will give way at the end of the day. okay look, they won't stop looking for tear rubber pristine babe if you don't lower their expectations.

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Before I stop, let me say this:
lying about your virginity will hurt a relationship more than the virginity itself. what kind of relationship do you expect if you start with dishonesty and lies? sure african society for the most part don't condone extra-marital affairs, but what's done is done. right or wrong is irrelevant at this point. building a lie on another lie is an excellent recipe for disaster. the truth will come out sooner or later, most likely on the night of the wedding when you don't bleed after penetration.  if the truth comes out sometime down the road, his trust in you will be betrayed, and you'll be affected more by it then than you are now. our actions have their points and consequences, at some point we have to face the consequences, it's called manning-up and being responsible. otherwise the guilt, fear, shame, embarassment, panicking won't let our minds rest. living a lie and living in fear is not pleasant.  Always be honest when needed.  It's a risk but you'll be free of the burden for the rest of your life.

again nothing he said hinted that it was because she lied that he dumped her. He just said that it meant that she was a slut and that was that which means he pretty much see non virgins as being mere sluts so who would want to confess that from the beginning esp if the girl is really feeling the dude.

Again, it's a shame that some feel the need to lie but to say you don't at least see why they do is ridiculous. By understanding the reason doesnt mean you agree with it.

that was the only sugar-coatable example i could have used.  i was actually going to say when he finds out you're loose and his privates slides in easily. now that would have been harsh.

Cosigned.

hausa alum? isn't is so sad that girls would go through these extremes to appear pure to a guy? if you take an action live with the consequence, if you can't live with the consequence refrain from the action. but once the action is taken, stick by it like a responsible man woman. I would actually call girls who use alums, surgical hymens, etc Sluts. not ones who're honest.

why are you being an attention-desperate she-goat radiant? if you can't contribute to a thread go watch TV or something, if you can't read that's not my problem.

kind of girls i meet are the same girls that live in the world you and I occupy, hellooo . . . same ones who offer responses like toh's and ptb's. girls that would stop at nothing to lie to save face.

back @ topic and thief
"I have said to you to speak the truth is a painful thing. To be forced to tell lies is much worse." - oscar wilde
“The truth may hurt for a little while but a lie hurts forever.”
For a guy like me who can't tell a lie, not even when I hear one, would you advice a woman to take advantage of that weakness and lie to me.

tnaidaR,

Leave K0be alone.
He is just stuck in his ways. He has agreed with PTB but he still doesnt understand why a girl should LIE even though they got excuses to.
Letz not overflog this issue . . . . . . We keep going in circles.
I have identified the various CATS on page 1 and how some lasses are living in self-denial.
In all honesty, i don't give a toss about it . . . . .But women should be honest about it and stop LYING.

@ K0be,

By the powers conferred on me, i hereby command u to TAPE IT SHUT.
Were u hurt by a fake VIRGIN or why are u having erections on this issue this much.
You are taking it too serious like a Federal Government contract . . . .Take a chill pill, bro.
don't worry . . . . . .No chic will take u for a ride again.
U can ask for a virginity test before letting a babe move to ur crib.
Cheer up, son.

Then why don't you make a thread about the guys forcing it on them then. Why are your topics always biased against females?

Ummmcurled up in a shell? Because you of you??? Hahayou want me to die of laughter lol 

Did I not mention the threads here on Nairaland? And how they represent the thoughts of real Nigerians? So what more do you need? Do you expect me to pull up statistical figures of how many girls lie about their virginity? How many guys prefer virgins? How many guys dump girls because they are not virgins? Lets be realistic at least.

well k0be I think we're all clear on your persuasions in this matter

PTB and TOH simply gave the other side of the story to make it balanced - the sometimes educated monkeys who make this virginity thing the subject of whether they hook up or not.

Its clear that you detest lying and will not accept any leg for the lying to stand on such as the men/society's expectations, but nevertheless, you cannot deny the strong effect acceptance and approval of society has on our behavior as human beings.

It is neither justified nor acceptable, but it is understandable, due to the warped thinking of both men and women, and a general hypocrisy when it comes to such as issue as this in Nigerian society/circles in general.

debosky,  thank you. that's what I have been waiting to hear.  it's due to the skewed thinking of men and women. not men alone as ptb made it seem.  shouting it's "because it's what men want to hear."

Hahawhat does my virginity have to do with anything on this thread? Is it on trial now?  Besides, whether I am or am not, I would/have never lied about it.

Anywaysback to the topicand staying on topic.