Should I Tell His Wife That He Is Having An Affair With Me?

Maybe you think that I'm crazy, I'm wondering if I should tell his wife that he is having an affair with me for 2 months!

He said that he used to be a well-recognized honest husband.  He has rejected lots of opportunities during his 6-year marriage.  However, he is studying at school now in order to achieve a higher standard of life, he has no idea why he falls for me that much.

I have no idea, either.  I haven't casted any charm on him before.  It was just a very common occaoccasiont he offered me a ride to somewhere, and then, when we arrived at that place, he confessed that he felt a strong connection between us: all he want to do was to kiss me and have sex with me right away.

Since we are classmates, we do want to keep professional relationship when we first talked about this issue.  But, whenever we have any chance to study together, he can't help to cool down his impulsiveness to get in "touch" with me, then it becomes the real touching, and then we have oral sex, but we never kissed! ,  I really love the way he touches me.

Now I found that I am in a dilemma that I am in love with him.  On one hand, I know it's not good to keep him around because he is married, and he wants to get out of the whimsical situation as well, it's just he doesn't have a strong determination to achieve it.  We've been discussed it for a month.  On the other hand, I do want to be his lover or partner forever because we've experienced lots of real exposivelexplosivelyfessional teamwork results.  I AM the right person to help everything for him, and he is relied on my help for school works now as well.

He once said he LOVES independent woman like me, and he complaint a bit about his wife's dependency.  But right after that, he yelled, "I still love her!"

In my heart, I know no matter how much I love him, I may not be his wife in the future because he is a faithful husband, at least he thinks so.  But he still dares not to tell his wife about this affair to keep his honesty records.  He just wanted to end it quietly - but the fact has proved that as long as he wants to keep friendship with me, he can't get out of the situation clean.  He said it's the only time he cheated on his wife.  He now cannot lecture other people cheating is not a good thing in the marriage.  In other words, the only way to have him get out of this trouble relationship is to let the wife know.  (I can't believe I say it, I still love him in a romantic way.)

I do think either he or I should tell the wife the truth.  I know he really doesn't have the guts to tell the truth.  Should I tell her, should I?

teju,even if she tells the wife and the wife leaves him, he will never even marry her.
Look ilovepda, that man is just playing games with you. He will never leave his wife for you. If you dare try teling his wife, he will just deny you and claim youre chasing him or something. The way he sounds, he still loves his wife and can't live without her. He's just experimenting with you cause he's in a school environment. Just try to concentrate on acquiring whatever cert. you are currently pursuing and get away from that man, never look back and your own man will surely come. Men can be crafty, its a pity you fell in love with him, but fall out of it fast. Face your studies and don't dom that oral sex thingy with him again. Its not worth it.
Sorry if I was too harsh. 

i'm with you alheri

My  dear have you heard about the adage that says" Smart man and a Dumb woman =Affair. please for crying out loud leave the man alone.don't tell his wife or else you will ruin the marriage and remeber whatever you sow that u will reap. just tell the Manchester United are no longer interested and get him out of ur system.

Go ahead and tell her.

after all SPEAK THE TRUTH AND THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!!!

She'll be beat the HELL out of you.

Girl, you are playing with fire, let me warn you, the same way you are cheating with him, someone else will cheat with your own husband. So better let sleeping dog lie and go find ya own man. plenty fishes de for river. You are not ugly to find a man. So leave another woman man alone and go find your own man. Nonsense story and shame on ya girl.

I would have laughed too if i were the wife.
You had no good intentions did yo ?
Any woman playing with a married man should know her place if at all.
Once long ago a friend  was having an affair with a married man who happened to be a friend to my boy friend.
The wife knew me as that girl that brings letters to her husband to give my boyfriend and the same way he will collect letters from my boyfriend and give to me.
That my foolish friend started phoning her lover in the house saying she is (me) so that the wife will not suspect. Till the phone calls were getting too much.
At the end of the day she went to tell my boyfriend that am having an affair with her husband,
Ho yes he came down from Lagos first flight hooting mad.
He told me the wife has left her husband and she is telling every one because of me.
The husband said he was sorry my friend did not care then her name was clean.
But i got back at her.
The wife had packed out and my friend taught she is now the madam and ask me to follow her to the lovers house , I went with her (my boyfriend had forbidden me to go near there again)
Well the man was sitting there with an other lady, and when he saw us he said he is comming and left with the lady.
I rolled on the floor laughter my friend was annoyed. we waited for an hour , loverboy did not come back. the brother was there and offered us food .
I ate my friend was not hungry "Merrily said "all the more for me" even the brother had to laugh at this stage.
After eating i left her there .
Loverboy told her later he is not planning to take her as an only girlfriend then he loves many women , if she is ready to line up no problem.
Now that the wife has left he is free and not ready to bind himself in a hurry.

You shouldn't have called his wife. That's not proper. Please just walk away from that relationship. It's not worth it n wont do you any good.

Sure you should.  Afterall the man belongs to you.  The other woman is merely his wife, you know.

Silly girl he is not going to leave his wife for you.  Do you think by telling her he's going to be particularly fond of you.  You have to realize that your are  simply some "good ass" on the side.  He probably gives you some money and buy you things. Don't make his miserable because you are riding her husband and think he is going to marry you.  Stupid girl.

  You've had ur fun. Don't spoil it for him nooww.

This is d queen of d damed @ work.

he is having his cake and eating it.be strong and walk away from him.
, he relies on you for school work!! hmmmm.dodgy!( the thread started in feb.i hope it's sorted now)

@ Tesha - Thanx 4 ur lecture. We hope it applies to all asslikewhoa girls.



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@dynamo2000 - Brother, I see an unpleasant pattern here. My
questions are always the constructive kind of
questions, at least to me.

Why do girls always get attracted to men known to be married and probably with kids?

But in the context of this dicussion, really i place no blame on d man. D girl really needs to check herself

@ TEASEME2 - Original African, Proudly Nigeria

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