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aisha2 (f)
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I wrote about a week ago asking for advice because my Boyfriend lost his sister.
Yesterday he called me and said we need to talk. Earlier we had agreed that we would achieve some targets before we get married, He wanted to get his PHd and I was going to work on two projects both of which are about to kick off.
My projects are time consuming and requires a lot of travel, so we agreed that we would take two years to do all that before we settle down.
Now he wants us to get married as soon as possible, According to him, He wants to get married so he can take his mind off the loss of his sister and he is scared of loosing me. I understand how he feels but i tried to talk to him to but he seems adamant, He said he has made up his mind. He schools in London and He says he is not going back even though he has started His Programme.
I am confused, Please is this just a phase or is he serious, He has given me an ultimatum to make up my mind. But we are not ready, financially, emotionally and otherwise.
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kelechiodo (m)
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My dear Aisha,
When a guy is ready for marriage, it is not advisable to say no to him. So dear, he is damn serious and no body can predict what he will do next. But 85% of guys never marry girls that tend to delay their marriage. This is another phase in his life and he wants it sorted out, so help him sort it out. He needs a wife now, so you are either the one or someone else takes over. The choice is yours
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sssflora
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hi my lady please don't hesitate to acept his offer marry him and let him forget his sister 4 ur lov
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chuckdee4 (m)
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I feel u should be there for him more than ever at this point in time but i feel he should be marrying u for the right reasons not because he wants to take his mind off his sisters death. In all fairness he should learn to live with the fact that she's not there, then decide if he's ready to spend the rest of his life together with u.
Hope i don't sound to harsh because he must be in pain, but he shouldn't let his current predicament make chices for him
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hitsales (m)
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Hi Girl,
I'd like to advise you consider some facts about getting "pushed to the wall" in order to get married. marriage as we all know aint something that you need to rush into. I know you';ve got plans and he's trying to get over his sister death but that aint the more reason why you two should rush into marriage. I think you guys should consider the short and long runs involved and make plans and reach a compromise. Marriage aint a game. It's a "I do" thing, got it?
Michael B
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crazykid (m)
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He has agreed to marry you, what else do you want?
Just agree with him and go ahead with the marriage. Am sure he is financially prepared . If he wasn't, he wouldn't have proposed to you in the first place. So fear not and stop bothering yourself ok?
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