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April22 (f)
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Are you for or against living together before marriage? All the couples I know who lived together before marriage are having issues now. What I notice the most is the husband tends to not appreciate his wife and the wife complains a lot about her husband. The couples I am thinking of are Nigerian w/Nigerian, Nigerian w/African-American and African-Americans together. What's your take?
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Janeesa (f)
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the matter of who the person gets married to(nigerian or african-american) has nothing to do with breakup rates get higher and higher due ot the fact that people seem to think its ok to live together before getting married.I think its wrong.if the man is not yet ur husband why would u live together, I'll put it like this:if u live together then most likely u'll be sharing a bed and when u share a bed that means ur most likely goin to have sex in that bed.men and women should only lay together in a bed if they are married
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April22 (f)
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Most of the married people I know were sleeping together before they got married. I think the reason why women fair out worse if they lived together is the man was in no suspense about her. She started performing wifey duties before they got married. When two people are in a relationship and live seperately, there's usually some anticipation about seeing each other again.
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Banderas (m)
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What is marriage? Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. Until recent times, african marriage didn't have anything to do with church, and they lasted. I have met couples who slept together the first day they met, and they are still together to this day. I have also met people who didn't sleep together until they got married, yet are divorced now. Don't believe the hype.
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$$Rhino
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living together be4 marriage do not determine if you would have probs later or not, there are issues and circumstances, so i have no prob with living together be4 marriage
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April22 (f)
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What is marriage? Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. Until recent times, african marriage didn't have anything to do with church, and they lasted. I have met couples who slept together the first day they met, and they are still together to this day. I have also met people who didn't sleep together until they got married, yet are divorced now. Don't believe the hype.
Me:
This is a typical man's response. Any woman who thinks she's married to a man who didn't officially marry her is crazy (i.e. paperwork involved). I think it's healthy for couples to at least wait a few months before sleeping together. Men like to say it doesn't matter, but it really does.
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netsai
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Honestly! I don't buy the idea of two people staying 2geda before marriage.The truth is the both of them lose their value before each other because there isnt anythng new and exciting anymore.
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BABEELOVE (f)
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Sorry! Love the sound of my car/apartment keys in my pocket. Please take your toothbrush with you when you leave in the morning!!!!!  Living together before marriage? Very bad idea---I can never respect such a guy! Tufiakwa!  ---I do not like men or women who are not independent! Get your own shit! When you are married--still keep some of your own shit! |
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crazykid (m)
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Is not advisable for a girl to live in her guy’s house before marriage. You can pay him visits occasionally but living with him is totally out of the question.
The disadvantage there is that he may get tired of you and there would be nothing you would have to offer to him since he has had you to his satisfaction. That’s where cheating begins. So ladies, if you man tells you to come over to his place, you better give it a second thought.
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efuah (f)
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Is not advisable for a girl to live in her guy’s house before marriage. You can pay him visits occasionally but living with him is totally out of the question.
The disadvantage there is that he may get tired of you and there would be nothing you would have to offer to him since he has had you to his satisfaction. That’s where cheating begins. So ladies, if you man tells you to come over to his place, you better give it a second thought.
good one there |
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$$Rhino
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So u don't thnk it is better for him to get tired of you now, while you are yet to marry than wait till you are married and yuo will be in his face all the time, and then start cheating then as well, i don't see no arguement in that at all, if tha man will get tire of you, he surely will, yuo not living with him be4 marriage is not the point
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Chiori (m)
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De vivre ensemble avant de marié, c'est or de question. Je ne peut le faire. C'est le chose plus pires dans ce monde.
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$$Rhino
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Chiori, u too  |
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