Advice Needed For Living In Nigeria

I am an American woman who is in love with a wonderful man from Nigeria. He lives abroad, and we are going to see him in December. We have been good friends online/phone for over 5 years. He writes faithfully and sends birthday/holiday cards always. He wants to get married, and I can't wait. What I worry about is that I have a "mixed" daughter who is 5 years old and we are not sure where we should live. I just want to be with him, and be a good wife. However we must consider that in Greece, they only teach Greek in the schools, unless you want to pay ungodly amounts of money for private American schools. He has told me that Nigeria teaches English in the schools, so the language barrier would not be such an issue as in Greece. My daughter has wanted to go to Africa since she was 2 years old and he is teaching me Igbo. I only worry about how she will be treated there. Race has never been an issue here due to the diversity in cultures (especially in California) and she is a beautiful child (inside and out) and everyone who meets her, loves her. Any thoughts or advice would really be appreciated. I am new to this site, but a lot of the posting have really helped me. Thanks!!

Exactly - why the reference to Greece suddenly, and why is he moving y'all to Nigeria - u can consider visiting, thats good, but why not let him relocate to America or Greece instead? And to say, race is never an issue in Nigeria - noone realy gives a hute what colour your skin is - so no problem there. I am aware there are a lot of international schools in Nigeria - American schools, British schools, Turkish schools, German schools - etc. So schooling should not be a problem, bingo -

take a look at what?

If what your saying is true HisMichelle, then i suggest you need to get your head out of the sand. Please don't do anything you will regret, as your going to affect your daughters life aswell.

Why don't you find a relationship with someone you have actually met face to face first, a long distance relationship is different to one where u see the guy all the time.

What if you go to Nigeria and find that you cannot stand this guy, and he doesnt meet up to your expectations. Moving a child from place to place is very distressing. Be sure you trust this person before you make any decisions.

Please leave your daughter in the US and go visit Nigeria. Like mamaput said, you can't just pack and go there with your child just like that. You have to be sure of where you're taking her to.

Again, if you have assets in yankee, DON'T sell! I wonder why he wants you guys to move to Nigeria and also you guys haven't seen each other and you've known for 5 years? Hmm! Anyway, don't be carried away with love. Put your eyes down and be very observant!

Abeg hismichele relocate joo. Dont mind the shit packers on this thread. Nigeria is a developed country with too many "fancy jobs". There is nothing like corruption, we recently celebrated 100yrs of uninterrupted power supply, our airports are not cattle sheds and our politicians are angels.

Sell your house and assets, pack your daughter and relocate to Nigeria to meet an igbo man you have never seen. What kind of love can be better than that. Did i also mention that igbos are perhaps the most upright people in the world?

just helping a sister here.  Her faceless husband to be is probably tired of packing greek shit and wants to return to Nigeria.

Are you sure the husband is not "Paw Paw" ?  

Hey dude, that was just too funny. I guess paw paw will be full of hate toward you right now. _{Make una take am easy with paw paw ooooooo, that kid is frustrated as it is already, don't add to his misery plz.}

paw paw is a tropical african fruit. 

At least you can wear highheel shoes to pack shit in Nigeria

lmao. . aloib, you're even more lost that I am 


PTH, you see what you've caused?

lol,  i knw, was just tryn to spice up the thread

lol at energy, na chop yansh chop yansh those over ripe pawpaw dey give pesin o

Thank you everyone!!! This has been so interesting.LOL  He actually lives in Greece, and has for 5 years. His whole family is in Nigeria except one brother who lives in Napoli. He wants my daughter to have a good education, so Greece is probably not the best, as they do not teach English there in school. He is willing to move to the US but I am wanting to move to Nigeria. We have not met face to face, but we have been friends online and over phone for 5 years. He is a very sweet man. As for staying here and dating someone close to home, been there, done that, and I've had it with dating men in America. They say anything they want, but do not mean it. They only want someone who looks like a model, unless you make a lot of money, then they only want you for your money and as soon as either is gone, so are they.

In my heart, I know I would love for my daughter to grow up outside the US. I am going to Greece in December to meet him. We are staying for a month, so we can have time to see where it goes from there. I'm just trying to figure out what my options are a head of time.

So, is the paw paw a good fruit?? 

even you can settle in nigeria without him. work and safe some money buy a home in one of the quite place and live with your daughter. you should be fine instead of focusing your energy on a guy you've been talking with on phone/online for 5years. Shine ya eyes, sistah.

Nigeria is a place you can only love or hate.
I advise you to visit Nigeria and see for your self.
If you have no skills i advice you not to go at all.
Most people that i know that go back just do not move like that.
Most of the time the husband goes first to see if he can build up something before calling for his family. If it dose not work out , he can always come back.
Look for Nigerwives  Nigeria in Googel . Am not sure they are up dated. They are foreign wives married to Nigerians living in Nigeria and they have a web side.