My Parents Wants To Hear God's Voice Before I Marry

hello people of nairaland

i am 23 years old,been dating a guy for 2 years now,we have been faithful to each other ever since.
he proposed marriage last year and i accepted,the problem started when i told my parents about him,my mom didnt like him outright because of his tribe and age (8yrs older).

After a year  they finally agreed to meet him,they told him they would pray about it and call him aback.

Its been 3 months now they have told me they have not heard anything from God concerning the marriage,so i should call it quits with him.

The problem now is i can't imagine a life without him.

I have posted this thread in religious section so that my godly Nairaland users can comment.

one thing i know is that he has all the qualities of a loving husband and i can't imagine marrying anyone else.
how do i deal with my parents?

You should not have asked them for approval.  You should have told them, "this is my future husband".

But it's not as easy as that!!! Parents would always want to interfer once it's marital issue. Their eyes'd be widely open and definitely wouldn't want you to make mistakes. But, in so doing, many parents have misled their children into making wrong choices. 

I'd suggest you personally seek God's intervention and His concept. Is it His will for you to marry this guy? Forget the fact that you've know each others for year(s)!!! if the Lord does not watch over a house, they labour in vain that does so. Take time out to pray if possible fast over the issue and ask God for His counsel because it's necessary to build our marital foundation on a solid rock-Christ. Once you're personally convinced of God's leading, and that it's the same guy, go for him. Moreso, I'd suggest you tell your local pastor about it and seek his pastoral admonition as per the way forward. Don't take it the hard way with your parents, let them see reasons with you, and if you can't do this alone, contact your pastor and let him meet your parents and discuss things out.

As far as marriage is concern, My dear i think you've got to be convinced of God's Will for your life. It's good to fall in love but to the rightful person. .

"Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is." Ephesians 5:17


I wish you the very best.   

LMAO

but really, all you need is that conviction, your being absolutely sure after seeking God's help. if you or your mum waits for God to shout with the loudest voice that your fiance is your husband, then you would indeed become mother theresa from waiting, and in the mean time, your mothers life would go on because she has her own husband, which happens to be your father!!

just be sure he is the one you want to spend your life with, and in no time your parents will be sure as well.

Whaoooooooooooh!! that's interesting then seems we're in similar shoes 

Ok, how about discussing with any of his close friends or Co-pastor/elder in the church. At least someone you're sure he'd love to reason with.

alternative 2. Do you have a close Christian relative in the UK, either from mum or dad's side, with whom you could discuss the issue with? If so, try and do likewise and hear his/her opinion.

I pray the Lord to direct you aright.  

It's well.

OMG!


Seun Please go awwwwaaayyyyyy!! and leave the poor _{but rich} girl alone. She's really confused bout what to do, your suggestion & positive criticism is all she needs.  _{It's unfair,  . and how possible is it to select one's parent?}. haba, Seeuuunnn.

@kilasos
Just a little bit of patience would do.

All the Best!!!

hello guys i need your contributions.if u were in my position what would youdo.

no

Tell them this simple truth:

whether they hear God's voice confirming him or not, th success of the marraige depends largely on the two of you, i.e. man and wife. Many marraiges have collapsed despite the fact that they heard God voice not because God the voice was fake but because they were not matured enough to handl issues. All marraiges will face the test of time whether God ordained or not. Your maturity therfor comes to play.

God however has reasons for preferring one person to the other for each and every one of us. So mst important issue is:

Are you very compatible spiritually, physically, and morally, intllectually, sensually? If yes, go ahead but the be ready to fac the challenges ahead in the times of storms especially when God's grace which comes along with His perfect choice for you is not available durng those times.

Sit them down and let them think. Ask them what they would do if in th near future, the person they 'heard God's voice for that you eventually married runs you mad? What would thy say?

@ Kilasos

As the saying goes,time would heal ur wounds. please don't hate your parents,just kip praying to God to bring u someone else ok?

please takia of yourself

@cgift
wow,i thought of that.he just send me a message saying that.

Hi dear,
I feel ur pains,  It could be very distabilizing,  But girl if that guy is your husband you need not feight 'because God will find a way around ur parents.I feel they want you to marry sm1 else maybe a Pastor or Revd.You never give up yet, it is 2 early to give up.Explain to ur mum let her know how u feel after the break up.
Yeah!
Its well

Love is blind, marriage is an eye opener. My dear take it easy okay, no need to be upset with your parents. I think you and your guy should take a break to analize the situation_{it aint over till its over} . God alone know why your parents have decided not to like your guy but if your guy loves u as much as he claims then he will be willing to do whatever it takes to prove to your parents that he really does love you and is ready to take care of you for the rest of your lives. This of course will require a lot of patience and tolerance from both of you. Most importantly though, pray about it relentlessly and if at the end of the day you guys end up apart for real, take it from me it's not the worst that could happen to you. You are still very young and you will definitely meet someone else that will love, respect and cherish, maybe even more than he does presently.

Trust me when I say broken hearts do heal

Hi love, 

I stumbled across a Christian Novel and i got this out for you as well. These were suggested quidelines to choosing the right person/man 

5 DON'TS
1. Don't marry for money
2. Don't marry because it is popular, all my friends are getting married
3. Don't marry an extremely Jealous Man
4. Don't marry a lazy man
5. Don't marry an Unsaved man

5 DOs
1. Do marry someone you love
2. Do marry a considerate man
3. Do marry a Congenial man
4. Do marry a Christian man
5. Do marry in God's WILL.

Just decided to share this with you, hope it helps,

Wishing you the very best always!!!! It is well, even in the well

@olowotee
 thanks for the excerpts.
 it does help

yea