No Finance, No Romance!

na wah o, Nigeria girls r like snails na where comfort dey them want.

If a particular poor man has what it takes to become rich, then why is he not rich?

Money definitely isn't everything.

It would appear most ladies these days are getting more and more materialistic. There are folk who are rich, but are on their own - sure they may jump into bed with various ladies, but are they happy? For the most part, the answer's no.

I'm pretty lucky myself, I'm by no means rich, but I'm comfortable. I have a lovely fiancee who loves me, and has been with me through my darkest hours, when I was definitely poor, and struggling to make ends meet, build up my business. She was always there for me, and always will be.

Now, we both earn good money, and are happy and fullfilled. But, we know we'll be together, for richer or poorer. I would NOT swap my life now, be a millionaire and be on my own, with just casual relationships with ladies who most likely have their beady eyes on the main chance - my fortune.

Beware of a poor man that becomes rich.  When a man becomes rich he becomes less tolerant of his partner's shortcomings because he now has a choice.  He now has lots of other girls giving him attention!

I believe I read it somewhere that if a man's wife does not know how to save, the man can never be rich. Everyone is looking to raise his status in life so it is expected that money suppose dey pocket before u go scope woman although moni should not be the primary motive for the woman to say yes but should assist.

Mr Seun should get ready to get married or hooked with all these women blabbering here. Why do women want men? They should go and work, for things they need. Put your hands where your mouths are! Pathetic people!
Last time I said something about women with my ferdimako username. Mr seun banned me. Now I have open another username-ferdimako1, he hasn't banned me and am not pleading. But now, this thread has confirmed my point. These people are meant for shagging but if a man has more money he gets more shaggings. LOL. True talk for pretenders!

  preach it my sister! I couldn't agree with you more. Too many men have the wrong impression all ladies are golddiggers.

hi for girl like u to think like that sori just got to say u kind of fallow
this day n age girl who think this way get to find themselves by themselves

I just have to post a comment now.
Sometime ago, I dated a guy who was not well off. I have a very comfortable job and I am well able to take care of myself. However, my boyfriend was super sensitive in the issues of finance. He hated it when I spent money on myself or did things for my self that he could not afford to. I was very careful not to make financial demands on him. Then he resented my not making demands saying he was not good enough for me. Eventually we broke up which hurt a lot.
Now I have decided never to date any guy who is  financially zero. By that, I mean decent job, accomodation and good future prospects.  As I said before, I am hardworking and can take care of my self. But I believe a guy has to be financially OK to feel confident ( Guys, correct me if I am wrong). After the heartache I heve had, I am not ready to go through it again.
Money is not everything but it sure makes things easier. I think I have learnt that the hard way. What do y'all think?

ovularia, i must say, u r wrong. yes, many guys feel uncomfortable if they can't take care of their own, but that is natural, it is instinct in a sane man but if u handle ur biz properly, i can assure u, ur man will respect u even more. the main problem here is head education, look back at many old couples in nigeria, many i have meant too, the women even earned more than their men, some of the men were flat broke but they both come to have a proper heart education and know that they both are one, and share both the joys and the pains. so if u were flaunting cash before the guy and buying yourself stuff, definately na u cause am. there are a billion ways u can do it and it will never hurt him. u can both go out, and let him choose something for u every now and then, and if u had given him the money or credit card (assuming u trust him that much) earlier, he does the paying, that will ease just about everything. in today's america, an educated woman without a job feels insecure if she can't get her man something at christmas, thanksgiving, on his birthday etc not to  talk of a man that feels it is his duty to provide. WISDOM IS THE KEY GIRL! u might have lost ur one true sweet heart.

FYI: read proverbs 31 and learn what a real woman does at different circumstances

romance is good but money makes it better and sweeter, thats the fact!, in romance with no finance, its going to be full of dull moment and shitty daydreams

The roots of all evils is money
ladies, you have to make sure you
understand your guy before you
go into a relationship
When you think that money is
everything,you are wrong
and at the same time every relationship that
start from when the guy is nothing always last more then when the guy is rich
always bear this at the back of your mind, LIFE IS HOW U MAKE IT
pope. olajuwon_major@yahoo.com

yes oh i agree with Ufor gods sake why would a guy want to ask a girl out when you dnt hav money for maintenance

i see why u don't post to nairaland because when u finally did na bull u just dey yan. so u wake up early to go to work so u can get laid? poor man na hin u bi for sure. i go to work early because i need to and it is a means to get an end, which is a bigger picture not getting laid. do a research and u will find out that sex is more higher is the poorer regions than in the richer regions of any society. one of indian prime ministers got an award when she gave free tvs to all of indian families. the result of the act was the hugh slide in the sexual appetite of the people because earlier they had little to do but have sex and reproduce. always get ur facts right before u come here and give us bull.