Involved With A Married Man

Hi,

Please help me out guys. I am involve with a married man who says he wants to marry me. I asked myself why doe he wants a second wife and he is telling lots of convicing things. He gives me everything the world can buy. We have not made love yet cause he wants us to be sure about the relationship. He says we must pray about it so God can help everyone to undurstand.

I'm Confused and please help me to think abou this.

Involved With A Married Man - not the best

@Butternut

He is not man enough to be married. He does not know what marriage is all about. You'll not be the last on the queue. He should pray abbout his marriage for God to give him understanding about how to make it work.

Let me ask this,r u ready for the consequence of being a 2nd wife(when 1st is alive and kicking?!)
Share those things that he tells u that r convincing,  let know if he's even serious or not,
He might not be asking for sex now, it might be part of the game, You can't trust a man that might be betraying another woman to be with you!!

He tells me that before he met me, he prayed to God that he must give him an extension of his family. He said, he asked God for another friend in his life to help him with his business. Any he own a business and he want to start a little business for me and what i have been dreaming about for the rest of my life. He wants to get me a house, he gave me money for the car. Do you think i love him because of his status? The guy wants to have kids with me. Guys help me out to thinh. What must i asked this guy?

Just make sure that after getting married to this playa, you should help prepare the next room for wife number 3. Also prepare the basement for wife number 4.

Frankly, I think you should look for a guy that would love you and you only and treat you right.

If the guy is tired of the first wife already, chances are the same would happen to you.

Let me diagnose u comment:
He pray that he wants a concubine? How true do yu think this is? What the real problem with his wife, if there is any?

-If he need a biz partner i might see that as ok but if the one at home can't help with is his biz what will you be? his biz-wifey?

-did i hear the bell of deceit?! How else will he get you to believe him? i don't know this guy but am not convinced!

-AHA! Datz it. You are confusing what you want with what you need.My question what are his current wife dream and how far has he gone fulfilling them?

-Does this mean he can have kids with the woman at home? Or he need a child factory from you.

I still don't get it. you need to face it r u down with fantasy or reality!!If he is for real he wont be enticing you with luxury,
or may be you are the one that isn't for real.

        Are you intrested in becoming a second ?do you love the man or you want material things from him?I will advice you to think deeply before you decide,because I can't do it and I won't advice you to marry another woman husband.

I am kind of stuck myself here butternut

Do you mind if i ask his and your age? and is it in your culture to marry more than one wife? and are you ok with it? it seems  you don't mind and is more a case of wanting to know if he is serious about you. My opinion is, the things he tells you , that you feel are convincing don't ring so true with me. He might be telling you what you want to hear. If you are young which you sound like i would not recommend starting life as a second wife. All this talk of money and cars    please don't buy into it, whats more important happiness, love and faithfulness or the cars, house,no love and doubts? Think long and hard please

Couldn't be better said!  If he can marry a second, he'd probably marry a third.

If you love him, go ahead with it. Every woman wants a man who can take good care of her. He is doing the same now, just try and find out if he is doing the same with his present wife. If yes is the case, then I don't see why you should fear. Look at it from this angle, suppose you are the 1st wife? the same way he will bring another woman. It goes on to show that, even if you relinquish this opportunity and you go for an unmarried man, what assurance do you have that he wont marry another woman after you. In the absence of everything though, follow your heart. Alatise lon matise arare. Enough for the wise.

Dear Lady,I wish you well in everything you do, BUT, whatever you do, don't get involved with such a man because you will lose out in the end and shamefully too thereby missing your real man. If he needs a business partner, have you in any way asked him if he's married to an illitrate. How many businesses has he opened for his wife?
What type of God has he been praying to for a wife? He is asking God to help him commit adultery. He wants to have kids with you, is it legitimate or illegitimate kids? Or is his wife barren?
BUTTERNUT! BUTTERNUT!! BUTTERNUT!!!, WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER, LET NO MAN PUT ASSUNDER.

IMO if u love this man go ahead and marry him. it is african to marry more than one wife, lets not deceive ourself.it bothers me when we say to a bubbling young girl ''don't be a second,third and so on'' and this same girl is growing into 35 years old unmarried. look around, we now have lots of grown up ladies without a man of their own.lets have a rethink. most men who marry a wife still goes out 'married' to many concubines. why not bring them home? they usually comes home when the man is pronouced dead and katakata now sets in. a certain family is blessed with female children and are adviced not to marry a married man, a least few of them become unmarried into menopause. the question is this, is it ungodly to marry 2 wives or is it godly to have a wife and many ladies outside? ponder over this.

u are really having a swell time with him now but i can assure u he will change as soon as he have u, have u bothered to ask why he needs a 2nd wife? i had an xperience like that before, i have always applied the rotary 4-way test , is it fair 2 all concerned?

My advice to you: Should you eventually get married, be "wary" of his first wife. I suppose everyone involved would probably come to an understanding, but I don't know, really.

Stop it. If he's married and still carrying something on with you then that's a red flag right there.
He Clearly doesn't respect women or else he wouldn't be doing this to his wife and
if you think that you have a future with him, just consider the fact that he could aka WILL do it to you as well.
You're also disrespecting his wife by being involved with him.