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blacknight (m)
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Why do Nigerian ladies lay much emphasis on age when it comes to relationship? I'm in love with a lady,but she said we can't go out because she is older than me.so i want to know if age is really important in a relationship.
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Thagodfada (m)
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well to tell you the truth, i used to think it wasn't but i found out a few months ago that it is. For Nigerian women, age is a huge thing. Some of them would not want to date anyone younger. Plus the fact that it has been shown that women develop much more faster emotionally than men. So if a woman is dating a guy 3-5yrs older than her, they are probably at the same stage emotional maturity. So if a girl is going out with a much younger guy, she has the advantage of being more emotionally matured. But i think all that is bullcrap. People should be able to date regardless of age. But a guy should only marry a girl younger than he is. Word to the wise  |
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chrisd (m)
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All my women have been older and taller than me. And bed them no problem.
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diyobdw (f)
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Why do Nigerian ladies lay much emphasis on age when it comes to relationship? I'm in love with a lady,but she said we can't go out because she is older than me.so i want to know if age is really important in a relationship.
It simple!!! She doesnt love you enough to absorb wot the society will say. I would date a boy younger( not more than 2yrs sha!)But i wont marry someone a year younger!! i it in the culture,  We av been nutured to believe that.  it goes back to the african ego thingy!!  if he is younger how will he be the head!!  |
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chrisd (m)
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shown that women develop much more faster emotionally than men. So if a woman is dating a boy 3-5yrs older than her, they are probably at the same stage emotional maturity.
So if a girl is going out with a much younger boy, she has the advantage of being more emotionally matured. Or perhaps too much emotional maturity makes her cry all the time. Never understood what it means to be emotionally matured. Steps to Emotional Maturity 1. Eliminate Magical Thinking (Impossible if she is pentecostal/charismatic) 2. Learn to Tolerate Your Anxiety (Women are always anxious about everything) 3. Learn to Recognize and Appropriately Express Your Anger (Especially if you see him kiss another girl) 4. Learn to Cope With Pain and Hurt (He going out with his friends only and does not invite you) 5. Facing Your Guilty Feelings (Having that chocolate or icecream which you know you should not have ate) 6. Learn to Live With Your Failures (Not ever getting that sexy boy) 7. Put Your Feelings in Perspective (Cannot happen since women usually cry a lot) So you see, women can never be Emotional Mature. |
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chrisd (m)
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Fidel Castro was 26 when he started the Cuban revolution. So I think a truly great man can outwit any woman whatever her age. Especially if he is a lawyer or surgeon. |
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Seun (m)
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According to chrisd, an emotionally mature woman is one who takes a lot of rubbish from her boyfriend without complaining. It is better for a woman to be single forever than to be with a man who expects her not to complain when he goes about kissing and sleeping with other girls, ignoring her feelings, putting his friends ahead of her, et cetera.
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smartsoft (m)
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Well to me Age is notting but number as many people do say, it all depends on your mature reponse and your thinking faculty.!
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henchyk (m)
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Say whatever you want to say, the most important factor in a relationship is Age. Followed by the bucks.
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chinani (f)
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i agree w/ many of the replies. my opinoin? well, AGE IS A FACTOR in so much as IT INDICATES EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL and physical MATURITY.believe it or not, but women try their hardest to meet men where they stand. & when you love it's important to take the good w/ the bad (though only to a certain extent). situations mature people. LIFE MATURES PEOPLE. but if the man is not mature to a certain degree at the beginning of the relationship than he will only "go so far" so to speak. (same goes for women.) this means, a man might not be mature enough to balance a relationship, family, school and/or a job. one of these things might be neglected. or the stress might lead him astray ---> to cheat or dropout or underachieve. also, many relationships end b/c men do not understand women, in general or as individuals. many young men STILL believe that women are to be scoffed at and ridiculed for their differences w/ men. ***chrisd, anyone?*** until a man can understand that a woman is her own "species" so to speak, w/ reactions/thoughts/feelings/inclinations /dreams that may not necessarily match your(his) own ----> until then man isnt all that mature. (i mean i'm just getting there w/ men & i'm a smart cookie! ) if the woman is your friend than it is b/c she cares for you that she is being so honest. i mean, wouldnt you rather have a friend than an ex-girlfriend anyday? |
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manmustwac (m)
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age is an factor in relationships in nigeria its very rare for a woman to amrry a man that seniors her but its a common thing here in Europe. And since the man is the head of the house he should me older therefore wiser than his female counterpart
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~Xerxes~ (m)
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Age is not important. It depends on the individual
Blimey. . . . .there are 22 year-olds that are smarter and more matured than 38 year-olds. . . . .
The single most important factor is the chemistry. . . .Age is not important at all. . . It's just a number.
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stillwater (f)
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Yes it is important to mechemistry buries itself as soon as I know you're younger than I am.
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ibkaye (f)
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Yes it is important to mechemistry buries itself as soon as I know you're younger than I am.
lol same |
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~Xerxes~ (m)
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These women don't even apply real life scenarios to simple topics like this.
Still, a guy is asking u out and he lied about his age in the beginning. . . .
You began dating him and after few years, he fesses up that he is actually 3 years younger than you.
What will u do? Throw him out of the house?
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4 Him (m)
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Yes it is important to mechemistry buries itself as soon as I know you're younger than I am.
what a heart rending blow to me. |
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ibkaye (f)
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These women don't even apply real life scenarios to simple topics like this.
Still, a guy is asking u out and he lied about his age in the beginning. . . .
You began dating him and after few years, he fesses up that he is actually 3 years younger than you.
What will u do? Throw him out of the house?
well if he can't even tell me the simple truth. . . . |
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~Xerxes~ (m)
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well if he can't even tell me the simple truth. . . . What if he confesses after the wedding? You will get a divorce? Y'all girls like to pretend. . . . . . Does age matter after a long time in a relationship? The answer is a freaking NO!!!! |
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4 Him (m)
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ibk has a valid point, if he could keep such a fundamental lie for so long only God knows what else he has up his sleeves that he's not come clean on.
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ibkaye (f)
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What if he confesses after the wedding? You will get a divorce?
Y'all girls like to pretend. . . . . . Does age matter after a long time in a relationship?
The answer is a freaking NO!!!!
why would he lie to someone he loves? to me, not only does age matter in a relationship, but also trust ibk has a valid point, if he could keep such a fundamental lie for so long only God knows what else he has up his sleeves that he's not come clean on. exactly |
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stillwater (f)
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These women don't even apply real life scenarios to simple topics like this.
Still, a guy is asking u out and he lied about his age in the beginning. . . .
You began dating him and after few years, he fesses up that he is actually 3 years younger than you.
What will u do? Throw him out of the house?
Why should he lie about his age? That just screams immaturity and deceit which gives me enough reason to kick his butt to the curb. what a heart rending blow to me. Are you still in your teens or what?  |
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~Xerxes~ (m)
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why would he lie to someone he loves? to me, not only does age matter in a relationship, but also trust
That answer is simple. . . . . He lied because he wanted u so much and he knew his age disqualifies him in the first place. Naturally, he had to lie just like guys lie over material stuffs and girls like over the number of their exes/virginity. What will a woman do after sleeping with a guy younger than u for 3 years? You quit and stop loving him because he is younger? Blimey. . . . .Nairaland is a land of Philistines. |
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stillwater (f)
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That answer is simple. . . . .
He lied because he wanted u so much and he knew his age disqualifies him in the first place.
Naturally, he had to lie just like guys lie over material stuffs and girls like over the number of their exes/virginity.
What will a woman do after sleeping with a guy younger than u for 3 years? You quit and stop loving him because he is younger?
Blimey. . . . .Nairaland is a land of Philistines.
All I can say is you don't lie to me period!!!!!!  |
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ibkaye (f)
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All I can say is you don't lie to me period!!!!!! I agree |
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~Xerxes~ (m)
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All I can say is you don't lie to me period!!!!!! And if he does and u find out after your wedding, would u kick him to the curb? |
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ibkaye (f)
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And if he does and u find out after your wedding, would u kick him to the curb?
Isn't one of the things needed for a marriage 'trust', that would be so immature of the guy, lying about your age during a normal relationship is bad enough but marriage? Jeez, what kind of marriage is that  |
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4 Him (m)
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Blimey. . . . .Nairaland is a land of Philistines.
easy there! We don't want the "palestinians" coming to claim it tomorrow. Are you still in your teens or what? you didnt know?  |
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~Xerxes~ (m)
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Isn't one of the things needed for a marriage 'trust', that would be so immature of the guy, lying about your age during a normal relationship is bad enough but marriage? Jeez, what kind of marriage is that Answer the question and ignore what kind of marriage it is. The question is would u walk out of a marriage because u belatedly found out the guy lied about his age? |
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stillwater (f)
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And if he does and u find out after your wedding, would u kick him to the curb?
I don't know. you didnt know? And I've been talking about lipsticks all this while. Oh gosh I've spoilt you Liarrrr!!! You're in your twenties |
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4 Him (m)
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And I've been talking about lipsticks all this while. Oh gosh I've spoilt you Liarrrr!!! You're in your twenties hehe i may be 19 for all you know. |
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