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makgod (m)
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Is it ok to have sex with a girl you are not in love with? (she loves you though)
You feel guilty after the act, because deep down you know it's not going to last long. But she doesn't know that,
and you know if she knows, it will be hard for her. So I think, even if she makes the moves, you should still
control the "naughty guy under".
Thats my opinion, what do you think?
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jogego (m)
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Definitely not the sentiment of a player. |
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Greatpeter (m)
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You've answered briefly well enough.
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shockreaction (m)
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If you've got a heart, you won't want to hurt her feelings too much. So no, sex is not ok. Tell her you're not interested and move on with your life.
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jogego (m)
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the guy of course knows the right thing to do, just that he is busy having so much fun with the poor girl's heart that he can't be bothered to do the right thing.
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Chxta (m)
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Yeah right! Girls are as bad as guys, simple and short. I've met girls who knowing that a guy was head over heels over head for them still toyed with him in such ways!
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trae_z (m)
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jogego you've said it all "Definitely not the sentiment of a player". i'll probably have sex with her but i'll make sure i'm a real good friend to her, so at least she won't feel so bad.
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Chxta (m)
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Trae z how are you?
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hot-angel (f)
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Hmm.. Just tell her you don't love her and wouldn't want to have sex with her.
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makgod (m)
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hmnn, hot angel, u think she will take that lightly?, wouldn't she feel dirty and stupid..? i feel like thats kind of rude on her.  |
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jogego (m)
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The lady has spoken. You definitely know the right thing to do.If you expect us to now make u feel good about what u are doing, my dear, you are in the wrong place.
While she thinks u love her, she might actually have someone else toasting her who would love her but because of u, she wont give such a person a chance. Leave her and let her go.
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makgod (m)
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point well taken jogego.
but i never said i was doing it ok...?
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jogego (m)
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From your original post, I'd assume and am sure everybody assumed you were in this kind of situation
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CalabarMan (m)
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Lay your cards on the table, tell her you like her but not sure if it is strong enough to be called love. Tell her you wouldn't mind having sex with her but would not want to hurt her and finally tell her the decision is hers and you are just her pawn.
Whatever happens your heart would be clear. Abi?
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makgod (m)
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jogego y u always speak 4 every one u be witch...?  . u never read my conclusion though.go back and read. calaberman ur idea no bad, but in that shoe..., i no go fit. |
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Kenya (f)
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I would say the Best thing is to leave her alone. For me If I tell a man that I love him then it means I'm putting my whole self into the situation and I may take things more personal and serious. Women have a tendency to be dreamy with love and can make things bigger than they are. Some women take things to the max and start acting strange and will not leave you alone, following you, calling you and causing problems because they think you should feel the same way because you had sex with them. I would be wise and let her go her way and not allow her feelings to get in the way. She'll understand one day.
Ladies don't be upset, I'm a woman I'm just speaking from what I know. Men do these things too but we're talking about a woman.
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tayotina (f)
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If a guy doesn't love a girl, she doesn't need a soothsayer to tell her so. She must have seen it through the guy's actions that he doesn't love her.
And if she still wants to go ahead and have sex with him, then that is her own wahala.
Sometimes we ladies behave foolishly all in the name of love.
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makgod (m)
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like they say... love is foolish, stupid and blind....and no be every one don graduate from that ideology. ;)sometimes some ladies take ur kindness or a little affection for something else.  |
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tayotina (f)
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But if you know you don't want her, why show her some kindness and a little affection? Do you know what that means?
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makgod (m)
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just a question, must u be nice to only the girl u love..?
ur answer is going to be important to most guys, so take ur time...
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tayotina (f)
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The answer to your question is NO.
Makgod, we are talking bout a girl who is in love with you. A girl you don't love. You keep on telling her you don't love her, yet you show her some affection. You are always nice to her. You show her some kindness and by doing so, you get her confused.
She consoles herself by saying: It's just a matter of time, let me be patient.
See, if you don't love this girl, it's better you tell her without mixing words and then keep your affection and kindness to yourself.
If you want to be nice to her, you can be but don't raise her hopes.
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Vieira (m)
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I have once refrained from having sex with a girl because I knew I did not like her that much but I was going to do it anyway as she was gagging for it but what really stopped me was when I found out that she is a virgin!
I just stopped immediately, she pleaded with me that she wants me to be her first but I knew if I did it this girl will hound me for a very long time!
I had to gently tell her that we should just take it easy and that she should not rush, and this is with her almost fully naked on my bed.
But otherwise I would not feel such qualms normally.
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CalabarMan (m)
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Lucky you man, I have never been with a Virgin and now it is too late as most Virgins are below 15 years old and I would never have anything to do with a babe that young, less than half my age God forbid.
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Seun (m)
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most Virgins are below 15 years old I am in trouble; I'll have to go to Afghanistan or Saudi Arabia to get a wife when I'm ready! |
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legry (m)
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The answer to your question is NO.
Makgod, we are talking bout a girl who is in love with you. A girl you don't love. You keep on telling her you don't love her, yet you show her some affection. You are always nice to her. You show her some kindness and by doing so, you get her confused.
She consoles herself by saying: It's just a matter of time, let me be patient.
See, if you don't love this girl, it's better you tell her without mixing words and then keep your affection and kindness to yourself.
If you want to be nice to her, you can be but don't raise her hopes.
Tayo you sound angry and from what you have written hear there is no way a guy is going to be nice to the girl without her raising her hopes. Its not really easy for guys to be rude to girls especially if the guy knows the girl is gaga over him. Its a crazy situation but one that i think that can be handled. Being nice and firm in resolve helps or better still throw a girlfriend in her face even if you don't have i tell you it always work |
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tayotina (f)
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Calabarman, don't give up yet |
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Kenya (f)
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I think you can still be nice to a woman that you have no interest in but the relationship has to be watched carefully because things can be taken out of context by either party. I had male friends who I was good friends with. We talked on the phone we hung out and I treated them like they were my brothers. I did not have any interest what so ever, I swear but some how these guys dropped the big suprise on me that they felt I liked them because I was so nice and no other women has ever treated them that way. One even stalked me, scary I'll tell ya. I still have friends but I keep them at a distance and I would not hang out with them too much or talk with them too much and I always make it clear in my behavior and words so how that I am not interested.
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Justmoi (f)
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most Virgins are below 15 years old I am in trouble; I'll have to go to Afghanistan or Saudi Arabia to get a wife when I'm ready! Seun, you don't have to go to Afghanistan or Saudi. Just go to Church. There are many of them there.  |
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makgod (m)
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There are even virgins in the club. they are evry where. hehe.. my big sis is a virgin.
funny huh...well she freely says it to me,but it doesn't make her a good girl anyway..
Tayo seems really firm with her words,ok...like she said i should keep my kindness to my self,
that is trying not to be me anyway,...lady's emotions perhaps is more important.
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loma (m)
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please show me one virgin for una church
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hot-angel (f)
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*throws 54 virgins at loma*, There they are.. what do you want to do with them?
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